Tony unpacks the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissistic or emotionally immature individual. Addressing a listener's question, Tony delves into the nature of developing children, labeling them as 'little narcissists' due to their inherently self-centered perspective. Tony identifies this as a critical stage of normal human development and explains how these traits vary distinctively in the adult narcissist. He also shares his four-pillar framework for effective communication - assuming good intentions, avoiding declaring the other person wrong, asking questions before commenting, and leaning in and staying present. He demonstrates how these can be applied in co-parenting scenarios. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:17 Reflecting on the Past and Looking Forward 00:58 Discussing Parenting and Co-Parenting 01:37 Understanding the Impact of Co-Parenting with a Narcissist 02:06 Exploring the Concept of 'Little Narcissists' 02:46 Case Study: Sarah's Experience with Divorce 04:03 The Importance of Communication in Parenting 05:07 Understanding the Impact of Parental Decisions on Children 06:01 The Role of Therapy in Understanding Childhood Experiences 06:15 Understanding the Self-Centered Nature of Children 07:08 The Impact of Parental Divorce on Children 09:26 Navigating Parenting Challenges with a Difficult Partner 11:47 Understanding the Concept of 'Little Narcissists' in Parenting 14:59 The Difference Between Healthy Self-Care and Emotionally Immature Selfishness 25:34 Understanding Egosyntonic and Ego-Dystonic Concepts in Parenting 28:44 Understanding Egosyntonic Narcissism and Emotional Maturity 29:14 Co-parenting with a Narcissistic or Emotionally Immature Partner 29:27 The Importance of Fostering Healthy Development in Children 30:30 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation 31:41 Applying the Four Pillars in Different Contexts 35:27 The Role of the Four Pillars in Co-parenting 57:53 The Impact of the Four Pillars on Children 01:00:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0 Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384 Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ