From Coffee to Cocktails and 5 Tips For Coping with Infertility PTSD!

Geriatric Mamas

Oct 19 2023 • 55 mins

On this episode, Sonia and Jessica discuss the recent news article about an IVF patient who was given the wrong medication by her local pharmacy and 5 tips for coping with the lasting trauma of infertility after successfully conceiving and having a baby. Spoiler alert, dinosaurs giving birth need to advocate for themselves, but also a reminder- we’re not actually dinosaurs, we’re just Geriatric Mamas.

Topics discussed in this episode:

  • News Article About IVF Medication Mistake (15:20)

  • Coping With The Trauma of Infertility After Successfully Conceiving & Having a Baby (22:17)

  • Tip #1 (28:20)

  • Tip #2 (31:15)

  • Tip #3 (32:50)

  • Virgin River Spoiler Alert Starts (40:46) ends (41:28)

  • PTSD After Baby is Born (41:44)

  • Correction for Coffee Convos Episode Topic About 21-Month Old Baby Girl’s Death After Being Hit by a Tow Truck in Maine (44:13)

  • Is Waiting for The Other Shoe To Drop Postpartum Depression? (46:24)

  • Tip #4 (47:20)

  • Tip #5 (51:34)

  • A Recap: This is What You Get when We Record During Cocktail Hour (51:56)

Show notes including all links referenced in this podcast episode can be found at

Resources mentioned in this episode:

IVF Medication News Article

A Las Vegas woman undergoing IVF to expand her family was mistakenly given abortion medication — not fertility medication — by her local pharmacy, terminating her pregnancy in its early stages.

“They just killed my baby,” Tamika Thomas told 8 News Now. “Both my babies, because I transferred two embryos.”

The mom of 4 had been undergoing in vitro fertilization, a lengthy process in which fertilized embryos are implanted in the uterus to lead to a successful pregnancy, according to the Mayo Clinic. She and her husband had turned to IVF after having her Fallopian tubes removed, and they had paid for the expensive procedure out-of-pocket.

Thomas had just had two embryos transferred when she went to pick up medication to help her body “think it's pregnant.”

But pharmacy technicians at her North Las Vegas CVS gave her Misoprostol instead, which is used for “medication abortion,” according to the National Institute of Health.

The Lasting Trauma of Infertility- New York Times Newsletter Article by Regina Townsend, founder of the Broken Brown Egg- Infertility website & community.

“Infertility changes how you see yourself and the world. Somewhere along the journey, many of us stop feeling as though it is something that is happening to us, but instead begin to believe that it is a part of who we are. You become used to living in a constant state of fluctuating despair and hope. And this doesn’t turn off when and if you get pregnant. It doesn’t turn off when you hear or see the heartbeat. My son is 3. I’m still trying to turn it off.

Six months into motherhood, I felt as if I was in quicksand. I’d gotten through infertility, gotten past a failed adoption, braced my way through I.V.F. and a C-section. I should have felt invincible, but instead, I was numb. I felt as if the other shoe would drop at any moment. I had to pay for the victory that was my son, didn’t I? That was the routine of the roller coaster infertility had been for us. No success without swift defeat.”

The Baby Heartbeat Doppler Sonia Referred to:

Easy To Use, High Performance Baby Heartbeat Monitor .

  • This fetal Doppler is high sensitivity, 0 radiation, convenient measurement. Large-screen LCD display readings more clearly.

  • High sensitivity waterproof probe, 12~16weeks can hear fetal heartbeat easily. Using clear tuning chips, the sound is more realistic.

  • Light and portable fetal monitor, built-in speaker and 3.5mm headphone socket with volume control.

  • The fetal doppler monitor is a hand-held obstetrical unit, which is applicable to clinic and home for daily self-check by pregnant women.

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