Finding Confidence in Conflict, with Kwame Christian - MS014

Meeting Strategist - Conversations on Leadership & Communication

Dec 4 2019 • 1 hr 11 mins

Kwame Christian is an attorney, mediator and the director of the American Negotiation Institute, which organizes workshops to help people navigate difficult conversations at work and at home. Kwame is also the host of the top ranked negotiation podcast Negotiate Anything, and the author of ‘Nobody will play with me, using compassionate curiosity to find confidence in conflict’.

In our conversation, Kwame explains why he chooses to live in a constant state of conflict. We also discuss why women need their own negotiation podcast, how preparation can help to find confidence in conflict and why slowing down is critical to success in difficult conversations.

Here are some of the episode’s highlights with timestamps:

  • 0:49 – How Kwame turned from an outcast into a pleaser, avoiding conflict at all cost

  • 14:20 –Prescriptive vs. descriptive stereotypes and how it affects women in negotiations

  • 32:37 – Preparing for difficult conversations through visualization

  • 49:45 – Kwame's Compassionate Curiosity framework

  • 1:04:31 – The role of power in difficult conversations and negotiations

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Welcome to Meeting Strategist. On this podcast, Marcel van de Hoef interviews professionals and thinkers from the worlds of investment, business and arts about their approach to business conversations. You'll hear inspiring stories about impactful meetings, while also learning about the strategies, tactics and mindsets these guests rely on to make meetings more constructive.

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