How do you live your authentic kink life when your needs don't match up with the BDSM community status quo? In part 1 (ep 203) Mollena Williams-Haas told us how returning to the leather community after parting ways sparked an unexpected journey of healing and growth. In this discussion, Mollena shares practical advice for digging past the stereotypical BDSM “supposed to’s” in order to identify your needs and honor them. D/s relationships are about making life better for both doms and subs -- but how exactly do we go about that? Mollena has some helpful answers …

Mollena Williams-Haas Bio

Mollena is a writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned & collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the New York Times. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert.

As a two-time leather title holder and kink educator, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. A frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast, she’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton. Mollena is also the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities”.

A professional stage performer since age 5, Mollena’s credits include The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic America’s Deadliest Home Video. Her short film, IMPACT, won “Cinekink’s Best Experimental Film." Mollena’s latest performance piece and movie is Hyena, a collaboration with her husband. Mollena also appeared on Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Her latest endeavor is The Kink Doula. (Mollena's Full Bio: http://www.mollena.com/about/ )

Episode 204 Helpful Links & Resources

• Part 1 of this discussion, Episode 203 https://sunnymegatron.com/mollena-williams-haas-bdsm-leather-community/

• All That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/

• Kink Doula https://kinkdoula.com/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas

• Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 “Slave” https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave

• Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk

• The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU

• The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK

• The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text

• ResistBot https://resist.bot/petitions

• Find & Contact your Legislators https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/118/s686/comment

• Chat GPT https://chat.openai.com/chat

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp

• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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