Empowerment For Unburdening Within Your Partnership: Four Must-Haves
Relationships are the ideal training ground for complex trauma recovery. During this episode, we continue our series equipping and encouraging those in partnership with humans healing from complex trauma. Healing is impossible without committing to the process of unburdening yourself. This episode explores four things you can create in your relationship to set the context to really support your individual unburdening work. Starting with a definition for the unburdening process, we explore ways to develop a high level of trust, eradicate shame from the environment of your relationship, and create a context where each person can reach out and touch fear. We discuss why trust is so important and unpack what it means to hold space for your partner’s emotions without taking them on, as we may be tempted to do. Tune in to learn more today.
Key Points From This Episode:
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A recap of the four episodes addressed to the partners of humans dealing with complex trauma leading up to this one.
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The upcoming Q&A session and where to submit your questions.
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Holding space for those whose partners are unwilling to engage with this content.
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Advice for those without the opportunity to meet their partners on this journey.
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A suggestion for the best way to approach this series with your partner.
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Why Tanner has dedicated a whole episode to unburdening.
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What unburdening is: storytelling with neural networks.
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Introducing four things you can create in your relationship to set the context for individual unburdening work.
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The role of trust in creating a peaceful homeostasis as you enter your internal world.
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Establishing a no-shame environment for the course corrections that will need to happen.
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Creating an environment where it’s possible to reach out and touch fear.
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Holding big emotions including fear without taking them on.
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Distinguishing between holding space for your partner’s emotions and taking them on.
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Why trust is so important and the necessary work to do to sustain it.
Quotes:
“In my opinion, unburdening is essential, required, non-negotiable for permanent healing of CPTSD.” — Tanner Wallace [08:40]
“Trust is critically important in small and big ways.” — Tanner Wallace [23:29]
“Relationships are the perfect, ideal training ground for complex trauma recovery.” — Tanner Wallace [27:27]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Unburdening Process: Part 1
The Unburdening Process: Part 2
The Unburdening Process: Part 3
The Unburdening Process: Part 4
The Unburdening Process: Part 5
The Unburdening Process: Part 6
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