Breaking the Cycle: Parenting on Your CPTSD Healing Journey
For adult humans living with the painful effects of their own upbringing, becoming a parent can introduce a variety of new cognitive, emotional, and practical challenges. In today’s episode, we touch on the areas of your relationship with your children and partner that can be very triggering during CPTSD recovery. Even if you don’t have children, this episode will help you guide and support family members, friends, loved ones, and other CycleBreakers in their parenting journey. It will also help you unearth places in your lived experience of complex trauma where you might want to do some grief work or help you work through the difficult question, “Why didn’t I have children?” Tuning in, you’ll learn about the five often-unconscious activations that children can bring up in our lives when we have unresolved trauma, practical and energetic ways to work through them with your partner, and how to show up from a place of Self Energy with curiosity, courage, creativity, compassion, and calmness.
Key Points From This Episode:
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Important context for this podcast, the work this community does, and how to learn more.
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How this episode can be productive for your CPTSD recovery, even if you don’t have kids.
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Different configurations within the framework of parenting.
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Things that can prevent us from parenting from a grounded place of pure personal power.
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Why breaking the cycle of trauma is one of the main goals in our parenting relationships.
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The deep importance of doing this work for your children (and for yourself).
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Insight into the Motherless Mother frequency that this work requires.
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Five activations children can bring up in our lives when we have unresolved trauma.
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Examples of how these activations might play out in your environment.
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The role of consciousness in helping us lead from a place of Self Energy.
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Practical and energetic considerations for cycle-breaking parenting.
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How to become a bridge to Healing Power while also healing yourself in the process.
Quotes:
“When activated, we start to drop into Primitive Survival Instinct, Hurt Parts, Wounded Younger Parts, Aggressive Protective Parts, Collapsed Protective Parts. – We’re no longer leading [or] parenting our child from a grounded, anchored place of pure personal power.” — Tanner Wallace [16:19]
“What am I doing for my kids to break the cycle [of trauma] so that their children are trauma-free?” — Tanner Wallace [19:21]
“There’s a lot of work planning [and practical considerations] that must go into cycle-breaking parenting.” — Tanner Wallace [31:43]
“When in distress, lean in to connect.” — Tanner Wallace [36:17]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
'A Season for Partners of Humans Recovering from CPTSD'
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