How do you know where someone is coming from in terms of ego states?

• Behavioural diagnosis: words, tone, gestures, posture, facial expressions. (frequency count)

• Social diagnosis: From what ego state are you relating to the other? What does that say about the others’ ego state?

• Historical diagnosis: What were you like as a child? How did your parents behave?

• Phenomenological diagnosis: Re-experience of past with connected thinking, feeling, behaviour you had then and there.

To be absolutely sure where someone is coming from in terms of ego states you need at least three checks.