Episode 3: Rejection - Coping with hurt when receiving a ‘no’

Career-Defining Moments

Jun 21 2023 • 42 mins

Have you ever experienced ‘the dark pit’ of rejection? Maybe you did not get that (dream) job, miss out on the internal promotion or have your brilliant idea ignored. Having something taken away can be incredibly painful, so how can we find a way of moving forward with a giant lump of pain and rejection in the way? In this episode, I chat to Brian Klindworth about some of the most painful and insightful times in our own careers when it comes to rejection and getting a ‘no’.

Some of the things we cover: • The difference between a rejection and a no • Focusing on what’s useful instead of what’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ • Can rejection be useful feedback and lead us to positive places? • Dodging professional bullets • Perfectionism and hustling for worthiness • Anger, anxiety and imposter syndrome • The courage to grieve and sit with painful (work) experiences • Emotional literacy to allow emotion • Hopelessness and lack of control around rejection and getting the ‘no’ • Why you might not be considered for promotions • The power of personal responsibility • How to access free learning and development • How to make peace with a negative outcome when there is no answer • Creating a space to welcome closure

Resources: • Big feelings (book): https://www.amazon.com.au/Big-Feelings-Okay-When-Things/dp/1838858512/ • Atlas of the Heart (book): https://www.amazon.com.au/Atlas-Heart-Meaningful-Connection-Experience/dp/1785043773/ • Feeling stuck on what’s next in your career? Start by downloading the free career checklist via ⁠https://www.thebridgecoaching.com.au⁠ or book a free chat with Emmy. • Get in touch with Brian Klindworth: https://www.brianklindworth.com/