📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Emotional IQ expert Joshua Wenner. They dive into the intricacies of emotional regulation, exploring how high amounts of stress impacts our brain and behavior. Joshua shares his journey from grief and trauma work to helping high achievers heal their relationships. The conversation covers codependency, attachment styles, and societal expectations that hinder self-care. Joshua offers practical advice on daily regulation practices and the importance of self-care for maintaining healthy relationships. Tune in for insights on transforming your life and love story through emotional awareness and self-prioritization.What We Explored This Episode0:00 Daily Emotional Regulation Framework13:35 Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships21:52 Nervous System Responses in Relationships27:03 Mental Frameworks for Moving from Codependency to Independence29:04 Societal Expectations and Women's Self-Prioritization30:05 Men's Self-Care and Nurturing Practices35:02 Embracing Contraction and Expansion in Personal Growth36:03 Joshua's Relationship Dynamics and Personal Growth39:12 Embracing Duality and Grief Work41:09 Emotional Regulation Through BreathingMemorable Quotes"When you're high-stressed, you move into the back of your brain, which shuts off compassion, empathy, and rational thinking. Getting regulated moves you to the front of the brain, where you can consciously choose how to respond." "In codependent dynamics, the anxious person leans in with controlling energy, while the avoidant person pulls away. This yo-yo pattern continues until both learn to regulate their nervous systems and address their wounds.""Life involves a constant contraction and expansion. Embracing both joy and grief, excitement and frustration, allows us to navigate life's ebb and flow more effectively."Episode ResourcesFacing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048 Connect with JoshuaJoshua’s Website - https://joshuawenner.com/ Joshua’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuawenner/ Joshua’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1🎙️Podcast Production & Marketing by

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, welcomes Susy Schieffelin, the founder of The Copper Vessel and The Sound Healers Academy. Susy shares her transformative journey from a high-paced corporate life in New York City to becoming a renowned sound healer in Los Angeles. She opens up about her struggles with alopecia, addiction, and the pivotal moment that led her to sobriety and self-love. Susy discusses the profound impact of sound baths, Reiki, and Kundalini yoga on her healing process. The conversation also delves into balancing masculine and feminine energies, redefining beauty standards, and the importance of self-care, especially as a mother and businesswoman. Tune in for an inspiring story of resilience, self-acceptance, and the power of holistic healing practices.What We Explored This Episode3:26: Susy's Journey to Self-Acceptance5:37: Susy's Struggle with Addiction and Recovery14:15:Core Themes21:36:Finding Balance in Masculine and Feminine Energies25:17:Amie's Story of Missed Opportunity29:49:Advice on Self-Care for Mothers32:44:The Importance of Self-Care for Parents36:38:Creating a Safe Nervous System40:53:Susy's Daily Cacao RitualMemorable Quotes"Becoming a mother shifted so much for me because before that, I was very good about my self care, but I was also quite rigid. Like, every morning it was sitting on my sheepskin for an hour to 2 hours, doing my perfect breath work and my chanting and my Kundalini practice. And when you have a newborn and when you have little kids, it's not realistic to do that.""I moved from New York to California. And that was when I experienced my first sound bath. I had already been to rehab. I had already started meditating. I had already begun a daily gratitude practice, but I couldn't stay fully sober. When I moved to California and went to my first sound bath, it felt like something shifted within me.""I trust so deeply that the universe will put the person in front of me who can support me, can support my babies, so that I can fill up my cup and be the best possible mom to these little ones. And it's a gift to let other people love you and hold you. It feels good to help people. It feels good for him to get to care for the kids."Resources MentionedThe Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Surrender-Experiment-Journey-Lifes-Perfection/dp/080414110X Connect with SusySusy’s Website - https://www.thesoundhealersacademy.com/ Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecoppervessel Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thesoundhealersacademy/ Susy’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheCopperVessel Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn:

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes master coach Andrea Tessier to explore the profound impact of inner child work, somatics, and internal family systems (IFS) on personal growth and self-worth. Andrea shares her journey from a regimented teaching career to becoming a certified master coach, emphasizing the importance of understanding and integrating our inner parts. The conversation delves into how childhood trauma shapes our nervous system and influences adult behavior, offering practical insights into building self-trust and harmonious relationships. Listeners will gain valuable tools to transform self-sabotage into self-love and enhance their connection to intuition and creativity.What We Explored This Episode00:05:40: Explanation of Internal Family Systems (IFS)00:06:15: Impact of Childhood Trauma on the Nervous System00:12:58: Understanding Parts Work in IFS00:18:13: Breakdown of Manager, Firefighter, and Exile Parts00:25:24: Connection Between Inner Child and Self-Trust00:30:10: Navigating Relationships and Partner Dynamics00:35:13: The Importance of Self-Trust and Integration00:42:57: Distinguishing Between Pullback and ProcrastinationMemorable Quotes"Our society is really built on this concept of willpower, that we should just be able to will ourselves to do something, be something, know better, do better. And when we can't, we go into shame and guilt and rigidity around it. When we're trying to will parts of us into submission, we're actually disregarding some really important wisdom and creating a level of self-trust.""Firefighters are extreme protectors. If your house is on fire, you want to call the firefighters—they are going to put that out. Firefighters in our internal system can show up as addiction, eating disorders, or explosive rage and anger. They are parts of us that we feel are really extreme, and they are protecting a younger part of us.""The inner child is like the most critical piece. Yes, it holds the pain and trauma and hurt, but it is also responsible for our creativity, innocence, play, and aliveness. The more we can awaken the inner child, the more we have direct access to that, and who doesn't want that? Because that's where life is really good."Resources MentionedClear Mind Clear Path: An Unconventional Guide to Decision Making for Overthinkers by Andrea Tessier - https://www.andreatessier.com/clear-mind-clear-path Connect With AndreaAndrea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tessier.andrea/ Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1🎙️Podcast Production & Marketing by

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes financial wellness coach Katy Chen Mazzara. Katy shares her unique perspective on money, emphasizing its role as an exchange of energy and its connection to self-worth. The conversation explores how childhood experiences shape our financial beliefs and the importance of aligning money decisions with personal values. Katy offers practical advice on managing finances, including tracking income and expenses, and the significance of slowing down before making major financial decisions. She also discusses the emotional aspects of debt and the importance of self-forgiveness in achieving financial freedom. This episode is packed with insights to help listeners develop a healthier relationship with money.What We Explored This Episode00:05:33: Connection Between Self-Worth and Finances00:10:17: Understanding Childhood Money Stories00:13:29: Defining Money and Its Value00:14:20: Practical and Energetic Approaches to Money00:16:08: Methods for Tracking Finances00:17:32: Making Money Conversations Fun00:19:04: Discussing Money in Relationships00:21:52: Emotional Connection to Money00:22:15: Concept of Money Not Being Real00:24:13: Evaluating Purchases and Personal Value Systems00:26:03: Aligning Money Decisions with Core Values00:32:47: Steps to Manage Newfound WealthMemorable Quotes"Money represents freedom, and that's all it represents. The more money I have, the more freedom I have. It's that freedom of choice as well.""Our self-worth is about who we are and what we bring to the table. If you know this, you can let things go a lot easier. Your financial success is built upon how good you feel about yourself.""The faster way to pay off debts is applying two things: slowing it down and only applying as much as you need to per month, and doing an energetic clearing out by forgiving yourself for those debts and releasing feelings of shame and guilt."Resources MentionedThe Artist's Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/Connect With KatyKaty’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katychenmazzara/ Katy’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-chen-mazzara/ Katy’s Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/767774630314880 Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1🎙️Podcast Production & Marketing by

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes special guest Sam Gibbs Morris, a Leader in Self-development, Psychedelics, and Breathwork. Together, they explore the dynamics of creating safe and trusting environments in romantic relationships. Sam shares his personal journey of overcoming pain, addiction, and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies both internally and externally. The conversation delves into the collective wounds of men and women, the significance of vulnerability, and practical tools for fostering deeper connections. Listeners will gain insights into breathwork, heart-opening practices, and the importance of maintaining open communication in relationships.What We Explored This Episode00:06:17: Sam's Journey and Relationship with Masculine and Feminine Energies00:09:25: The Importance of Masculine Holding the Feminine00:15:10: The Importance of Feminine Holding the Masculine00:19:48: Encouraging Vulnerability in Men00:25:54: Communication and Addressing Issues in Relationships00:31:03: Unexpected Challenges in Conscious Relationships00:34:46: Embodiment Practices for Connection00:37:15: Sam's Morning Routine and Personal Practices00:38:26: Supporting Each Other's Nervous Systems in RelationshipsMemorable Quotes"It's so important to cultivate acceptance and self-love along the journey, even if it doesn't look like what society or our parents think it should.""One of the things that we get to be aware of is our core wounds when we come into relationships. A lot of times, those wounds become weapons. We weaponize an abandonment wound or a rejection wound, and it falls into gaslighting or making the other person feel less than for having their experience." "The work is just beginning. You can do a ton of work by yourself, but the next level of work is when you meet someone and get into a relationship. The relationship will be the ceremony, and your willingness to stay in that discomfort through it is the basis of what conscious means in a conscious relationship."Resources MentionedWaking the Tiger: Healing Trauma - A book that explores the nature of trauma and how it affects the body and mind.Connect With SamSam’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/samgibbsmorris/Sam’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/samgibbsmorris369Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1🎙️Podcast Production & Marketing by

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Dr. Erin Haskell, a world-renowned leader and Doctor of Divinity. They delve into the intricacies of self-love, spirituality, and the science behind ending personal suffering. Dr. Haskell shares her journey from trauma to spiritual awakening, emphasizing the importance of daily spiritual practice and the pitfalls of seeking external validation. The conversation explores how to break free from societal programming and align with one's true self. This episode is a deep dive into the transformative power of inner work and the pursuit of genuine self-love.What We Explored This Episode00:00:00: Introduction and Welcome00:05:04: Understanding the Doctor of Divinity00:07:57: Erin's Personal Journey and Overcoming Obstacles00:10:35: The Myth of Spirituality and Manifestation00:14:30: The Source of Suffering00:17:30: Breaking the Cycle of Suffering00:20:22: The Trap of Self-Love Industry00:23:19: Navigating Divine Self-Love and Human Experience00:26:33: The Importance of Daily Spiritual Practice00:28:01: The Future of Spiritual Practice and Mental Health00:29:27: How to Connect with Dr. Erin Haskell00:31:00: Erin's Daily Spiritual Practice00:32:08: Erin's Excitement for Future Research and Practices00:32:49: Closing Remarks and GratitudeMemorable Quotes"The myth of spirituality is that when I become spiritual enough, I'm going to be able to manifest anything that I want. The truth is, all the good things and all the bad things are not necessarily me just using the power of my mind to manifest, but rather for the evolution of the species.""All suffering comes from basically putting your power outside of yourself and resisting what is. The moment we do that, it's just an ongoing suffering. It never, ever works.""The true self-love can only come from one place, and it's from the divine, beloved source within. You have to go into self-love without one need, without one thing you want to manifest, with a pure, pure heart."Episode ResourcesSpiritual Psychology School - Founded by Dr. Erin Haskell, offering courses and certifications in spiritual psychology - https://www.spiritualpsychologyschool.com/Connect with Dr. ErinDr. Erin’s Website - https://www.drerin.tv/Dr. Erin’s Show Website - https://www.drerinshow.com/Dr. Erin’s LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/drerin/Dr. Erin’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinfallhaskell/?hl=enDr. Erin’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/erinfallhaskell/Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn:

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Andrea Aguilar, an embodiment coach and psychedelic facilitator, to discuss the importance of self-care and balancing masculine and feminine energies. Andrea shares her personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and the impact of losing her mother at a young age. The conversation delves into the concept of embodiment, the significance of listening to one's body, and the transformative power of psychedelics. Andrea also offers insights on how to approach psychedelics safely and the importance of finding the right facilitator. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of self-discovery, healing, and the practices that support personal growth.What We Explored This Episode00:00:32: Introduction by Amie Barsky00:02:36: Andrea Aguilar's Background and Journey00:04:32: The Concept of Embodiment00:07:07: The Role of the Nervous System in Embodiment00:09:47: The Practice of Embodiment and Authenticity00:17:03: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies00:24:43: Andrea's Personal Story of Loss and Healing00:31:31: Introduction to Psychedelics for Healing00:35:33: Finding the Right Facilitator for Psychedelic Experiences00:38:05: How to Connect with Andrea Aguilar00:39:10: Andrea's Daily Self-Care Practice00:40:04: Closing Remarks and GratitudeMemorable Quotes“When we become an embodied leader, an embodied mother, embodied sister, it is being able to hold the fullness of our lives with grace, with compassion and dignity and reverence.”"We are shifting into the next level of our human consciousness. And how we do that is we can start to play and manipulate the chemicals in our brain that bring us back to oneness, to a remembrance of who we are and why we're here.""For most of my life, the word intuition didn't exist. The word self-love didn't exist. I was so programmed to believe that if I give everything outside myself, everyone else and everything, my full and divided attention and love and appreciation outside myself, that was what I was supposed to do."Episode ResourcesPreparing for Transformation (Free E-Book) -https://www.consciousmother.com/offers/Wz4tMJJ9/checkoutConnect with DreaDrea’s Website - https://www.consciousmother.com/Drea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/conscious.mother/Connect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1🎙️Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the importance of self-care and breaking free from societal pressures with guest Kim Bilk, a women's hormone health expert. Kim shares her journey from a high-stress lifestyle that led to losing her period, to discovering holistic approaches for hormone healing and womb health. The conversation covers a range of topics including sexual reflexology, the significance of menstrual cycles, and the practice of yoni steaming. Kim also introduces the concept of cosmic breath and its benefits for connecting with one's feminine energy. This episode is packed with practical advice and empowering insights for women looking to prioritize their well-being.What We Explored This Episode00:00:32: Introduction and Welcome00:03:09: Kim Bilk's Background and Journey00:07:19: Understanding Womb and Yoni00:10:26: Trauma and Its Impact on the Pelvic Area00:19:35: Introduction to Sexual Reflexology00:25:19: Yoni Steaming and Its Benefits00:30:28: Importance of Sharing and Sisterhood00:32:04: Daily Practices for Connection and Gratitude00:37:45: Kim's Daily "I Come First" Practice00:38:27: Closing Remarks and GratitudeMemorable Quotes"Our period actually is a symbol of our health. Some people will say it's our fifth vital sign. So I did compete again, and I didn't lose my period. The big thing was really just pulling back on stressors in my life."“Yoni is the Sanskrit word for womb. Think of where we carry children, right? Just in our pelvic area, just below the belly button. Everything's not the vagina. The vagina is internal. The external is the vulva. We have a uterus, we have fallopian tubes. So the womb just encompasses that whole area.""Cosmic breathing is a form of breath work. Place your hands on your womb, just below the belly button, and take an inhale, imagining the breath of air coming right from your clit. Breathe in, let it come up the front side of your body to the crown of your head. As you exhale, let it go down the backside of your head, down through the neck, spine, tailbone, looping around."Episode ResourcesCarbon38 - Mentioned as a fitness and wellness brand - https://www.carbon38.comConnect with KimKim’s Website - Use "WOMB15" for 15% off at https://www.sacredwombcycles.comKim’s Instagram - https://.instagram.com/kimbilyk_Kim’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kim.bilykConnect With AmieDownload My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork Website: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube:

📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTubeIn this inaugural episode, host Amie Barsky welcomes Megan Thoma, a renowned dating coach who specializes in helping women navigate the complexities of relationships. Megan shares her insights on breaking free from societal expectations, healing from toxic relationships, and recognizing the red flags and green flags in dating. She delves into the science behind why women often stay in relationships past their expiration date and discusses the concept of a "loveability level." The conversation also explores how early childhood experiences with caregivers influence adult relationships, the importance of defining personal values and standards in relationships, and practical advice on building self-trust and effectively communicating needs and desires in a relationship.What We Discussed00:01:23 - Megan's Journey into Becoming a Dating Coach00:03:21 - Why We Choose to See the Good in People00:06:03 - The Importance of Grace in Relationships00:07:02 - Communicating Needs in Relationships00:08:30 - Setting Standards and Values in Relationships00:10:36 - The Role of Pheromones in Attraction00:11:28 - Understanding Red Flags in Relationships00:13:51 - The Impact of Familiarity in Relationships00:15:41 - Building Self-Trust00:17:27 - Listening to Your Body's Signals00:19:00 - The Importance of Trusting Yourself00:21:10 - Small Practices for Building Self-Trust00:23:34 - Healing Old Patterns and Owning Your Voice00:25:28 - Practicing Vulnerability and Communication00:27:19 - The Importance of Expressing True Desires00:29:27 - Practicing with Safe People00:31:19 - The Power of Microscopic Truth in Communication00:34:05 - The Importance of Vulnerability for Connection00:36:05 - How to Connect with Megan Thoma00:38:10 - Megan's Personal Practices for Self-CareMemorable Guest QuotesOn Falling in Love with Potential:"We excel at falling in love with potential due to our early experiences with inconsistent caregivers. As children, we cling to the hope that 'maybe someday' they will fulfill our needs. This pattern often continues into adulthood, where we find ourselves repeatedly drawn to potential rather than reality in our romantic relationships."On Expressing Needs in Relationships:"There's a difference between trying to change someone and expressing your needs. It's about communicating what makes you feel loved and seen. For instance, I value words of affirmation and small gestures like notes, which might not come naturally to everyone. But when I share this openly, it invites my partner to meet my needs in ways that are meaningful to me."On Building Self-Trust:"Building self-trust involves listening to your intuition and honoring the small, often overlooked internal prompts. Whether it's taking a different route or grabbing a coffee, these actions reinforce your ability to trust your own decisions. Over time, this practice strengthens your internal guidance system, making you more confident in your choices and more attuned to your true desires."Connect with MeganMegan’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/megan_thoma/Megan’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/megan.thoma.7/Download My Free Breathwork Practice

Welcome to the "I Come First" Podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish - it’s self-care, and it is essential.Yes, you heard me right, we are flippin’ the script!Are you tired of being the superhero for everyone else while your own needs take a backseat? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out, wondering where in the world your own spark went?If you're nodding along to that, then buckle up sister, because you found your tribe!Hi I'm Amie Barsky, nervous system and trauma master coach and breathwork facilitator, here to guide you on a journey of self-care and empowerment.From a young age, I bought into the belief that being the 'good girl,' meant putting myself last. I also followed the rules - convinced that the only way to success was constant hustling, pushing, proving, and people-pleasing. I tried to live up to those unrealistic standards & it left me in overdrive, battling overwhelm, anxiety, spouts of depression and disconnection from my true self.I have supported hundreds of women worldwide as they break free from similar cycles, and now it’s your turn!This is the podcast for ambitious women who are tired of feeling overworked, under appreciated and are done putting themselves last! This is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a roadmap to help you break free from the pressure of societal norms, understand your nervous system and reconnect to your fierce inner strength.Join us on this wild ride as we rewrite the rules, and share the secrets to putting yourself first. Each week, we’ll be sharing practical tools, advice, inspiring stories and unstoppable energy.Let’s make “I Come First” your daily mantra and reclaim your zest for life!Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathworkConnect with AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarskyPodcast-ee4kv/featured