The Secrets to Making Love Last: Overcoming the 7-Year Itch and Beyond

Parenting and Marriage in the Digital Age

16-10-2024 • 43 mins

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In this episode of Parenting and Marriage in the Digital Age, we explore why some marriages thrive while others end in divorce. With divorce rates rising—50% for first marriages, 60% for second marriages, and 73% for third marriages—understanding why relationships struggle today is more crucial than ever.

We compare the longevity of past generations, where silver and ruby anniversaries were common, to modern-day challenges. Why do relationships face more struggles now, and what can you do to build a lasting relationship?

Key Topics Discussed:

  • The 7-Year Itch: Why many marriages fail around the 7-year mark due to complacency, dwindling intimacy, poor communication, and unrealistic expectations.
  • Swipe Culture & Transactional Relationships: Instant gratification and a transactional approach to relationships contribute to disconnection, making long-term commitment harder.
  • Generational Differences: Life expectancy has doubled since the 1800s, and with that, the length of commitment has changed.
  • Unrealistic Expectations from Media & Social Platforms: The pressure of perfect relationships portrayed in movies and social media.
  • External Pressures: Raising children, family dynamics, and societal pressures add complexity to modern relationships.
  • Values & Emotional Maturity: Aligning values and emotional maturity are key to navigating relationship challenges.

How to Make Relationships Last:

  • Regular Check-Ins: Discuss your needs, values, and goals with your partner.
  • Prioritise Time Together: Schedule date nights, intimate moments, and trips to maintain connection.
  • Staying Connected: Keep the spark alive by maintaining attractiveness and emotional connection.
  • Unplug to Reconnect: Reduce technology use and focus on your partner.
  • Plan for the Future: How we plan to stay connected and plan for growing old together.

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Meet the Hosts

Nichole Farrow
A relationship and family coach with 7+ years of experience helping couples and families build healthier relationships. Featured on BBC 5 Live, Tatler, BBC Radio 4, and Spears Magazine, she brings deep knowledge and empathy to the podcast.

Ben Farrow
A professional builder and devoted husband, Ben offers a relatable perspective on balancing work, hobbies, and family life. When not on a construction site, he enjoys working on cars, crafting, and leading family adventures.

Our Mission
Our mission is to help couples maintain strong relationships, keep the spark alive, and create a nurturing environment for raising children. We focus on navigating challenges in a tech-driven world, finding balance, and thriving as a family.

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