How to fight without destroying your relationship

Parenting and Marriage in the Digital Age

31-07-2024 • 41 mins

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Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how you handle it makes all the difference. In this episode, we discuss how to navigate conflicts without destroying your relationship. We delve into the four horsemen that can end a marriage, explore the three conflict styles, and share our own. Discover how to engage in healthy arguments and repair effectively, ensuring your relationship stays strong and resilient.

Key Takeaways

  • Spend time outside of conflict talking about how you handle conflict, what triggers you, what it’s like to fight with you, and how you can repair it.
  • When raising issues, focus on "I feel," the situation, and the solution.
  • Focus on understanding rather than rushing to convince.
  • In conflict, make and look for repair attempts (e.g., "I'm sorry," "I see your point") and aim for a 5:1 positive to negative interaction ratio.
  • If you feel flooded, walk away and agree to come back later.


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Meet the Hosts

Nichole Farrow
A relationship and family coach with 7+ years of experience helping couples and families build healthier relationships. Featured on BBC 5 Live, Tatler, BBC Radio 4, and Spears Magazine, she brings deep knowledge and empathy to the podcast.

Ben Farrow
A professional builder and devoted husband, Ben offers a relatable perspective on balancing work, hobbies, and family life. When not on a construction site, he enjoys working on cars, crafting, and leading family adventures.

Our Mission
Our mission is to help couples maintain strong relationships, keep the spark alive, and create a nurturing environment for raising children. We focus on navigating challenges in a tech-driven world, finding balance, and thriving as a family.

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