Is up to our partners to meet our needs?

Parenting and Marriage in the Digital Age

12-09-2024 • 29 mins

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Are our needs solely our responsibility, or should our partners step in to fulfil them? As relationships mature, should we be able to anticipate each other's needs, or is this expectation setting us up for disappointment? In this episode of Parenting and Marriage in the Digital Age, we dive into the six basic human needs—certainty, variety, significance, connection, growth, and contribution—and their impact on relationships. We explore whether it's realistic to rely on your partner to meet all your needs or if cultivating self-reliance is key to a healthier connection. We also discuss the long-term effects of unmet needs from childhood and how they shape adult relationships.

Key Takeaways:

  • Identify Your Needs: Learn about the six core needs and identify which are most important to you.
  • Balance Self and Partner Needs: Discover the importance of meeting your own needs while supporting your partner’s needs to maintain a balanced relationship.
  • Impact of Unmet Needs: Understand how unmet needs can erode relationships and contribute to issues like infidelity and attachment problems.
  • Regular Check-Ins: Incorporate regular check-ins and open communication, including love languages, to ensure both partners feel valued and supported.
  • Healthy Ways to Meet Needs: Focus on constructive ways to meet your needs and those of your loved ones without compromising your own well-being.

Tune in to learn how understanding and meeting your needs can lead to stronger, more fulfilling relationships! 🎧

Get your FREE Meeting each other needs exercise here. We use this in our own marriage as well as with all Nichole's clients and it works every time!

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Meet the Hosts

Nichole Farrow
A relationship and family coach with 7+ years of experience helping couples and families build healthier relationships. Featured on BBC 5 Live, Tatler, BBC Radio 4, and Spears Magazine, she brings deep knowledge and empathy to the podcast.

Ben Farrow
A professional builder and devoted husband, Ben offers a relatable perspective on balancing work, hobbies, and family life. When not on a construction site, he enjoys working on cars, crafting, and leading family adventures.

Our Mission
Our mission is to help couples maintain strong relationships, keep the spark alive, and create a nurturing environment for raising children. We focus on navigating challenges in a tech-driven world, finding balance, and thriving as a family.

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