A Meditation For Connecting In Polarized Times, With Scott Shigeoka

The Science of Happiness

Oct 19 2023 • 9 mins

Having a curious approach to life can improve our mood, creativity and relationships. Scott Shigeoka leads a visualization exercise to help you approach someone you might disagree with with an open and curious mind.

Link to episode transcript: https://tinyurl.com/4dfsxr2x

How to Do This Practice:

  1. Find a comfortable place to begin the practice, focusing on your breath.

  2. Imagine that you are going to interact with a friend during a moment of conflict. Visualize the meeting, like the space around you and how you greet each other.

  3. Picture yourself showing a curious and loving perspective. Take note of what you would say, the tone of your voice, your body language, and in particular the types of questions you ask to impact the conversation.

  4. Pay attention to how you would feel if your friend was receiving your curiosity well, compared to if they weren’t.

  5. Visualize yourself thanking your friend for their friendship and curiosity before leaving the meeting.

Today’s Happiness Break host:

Scott Shigeoka is an author and storyteller who focuses on themes of curiosity and well-being.

Order Scott Shigeoka’s book Seek: How Curiosity can Transform Your Life and Save the World:https://tinyurl.com/4jrxbupj

Learn More About Scott’s work:https://tinyurl.com/y5xyxky7

Follow Scott on Instagram: https://tinyurl.com/3acu6jhm

Follow Scott on Twitter: https://tinyurl.com/3m3k3bm9

More resources from The Greater Good Science Center:

Why Curious People Have Better Relationships:https://tinyurl.com/2xw5y9yr

How to Stay Open and Curious in Hard Conversations: https://tinyurl.com/y2f2e9ce

Six Surprising Benefits of Curiosity: https://tinyurl.com/7kcr32su

How Curiosity Can Help Us Overcome Disconnection: https://tinyurl.com/9kaas6nz

What Curiosity Looks Like in the Brain: https://tinyurl.com/22rj6nbh

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We're living through a mental health crisis. Between the stress, anxiety, depression, loneliness, burnout — we all could use a break to feel better. That's where Happiness Break comes in. In each biweekly podcast episode, instructors guide you through research-backed practices and meditations that you can do in real-time. These relaxing and uplifting practices have been shown in a lab to help you cultivate calm, compassion, connection, mindfulness, and more — what the latest science says will directly support your well-being. All in less than ten minutes. A little break in your day.

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