When our kids are feeling upset, many of us have been told that we need to teach our kids how to self-regulate on their own. But if we take a long hard look into neurodevelopment and how that affects our body and behaviors, and our kids' bodies and behaviors, you can see that kids can’t always regulate themselves. But how do we help them learn to self-regulate then?  In this episode, we speak with Dr. Mona Delahook, a Child Psychologist and author of Beyond Behaviors as well as her newest book, Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids. She’s a mom to 3 grown kids ranging from 26-34, and is trying to shift the lens and change the paradigm of how our world views challenging behaviors! We talk about how others can experience certain situations in a different way than others, how we can help our kids by using co-regulation, and what can we do as parents to nurture and build our kids’ ability to self-regulate. Resources We Shared: Calm & Happy Parenting Time to get your kids to listen and help out more without the fighting! This is your complete solution to shift the responsibility of "doing everything for everyone" to your family and to give you the kind of relationship you want with your kids and the entire family! Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges by Mona Delahooke, PhD Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids by Mona Delahooke, PhD Visit No Guilt Mom Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We’d love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! No Guilt Mom YouTube Channel Check out everything we have and subscribe to be notified every time we have new videos added for parents and kids! Take this 2-minute quiz to pinpoint exactly where you can make adjustments to feel energized, encouraged, present, confident, intentional, and aligned. Heather Chauvin, author of Dying To Be A Good Mother created this quiz to help identify where to focus, so you can conquer your energy leaks and step into becoming the best version of yourself! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices