The Love You Want, It Starts With You!

I am joined by Julie Fitzpatrick, award-winning Therapist and coach and Founder of Millieside Therapy & Coaching. She works with empowering Business Owners and professionals to Unlock the power of their imagination so they can Become Unstoppable! “We need to create a society where we stop our need for constant and immediate gratification and accept delayed gratification as normality in certain circumstances. This is especially important when striving for growth, connection, and success.” Anne Hellgren In this episode, we discuss how our programming and current society are affecting how we show up in life and how we react to what is happening to us. As coaches, we dive into the topic of the current state of how we live, in which a lack of presence, entitlement, constant offense, and need for instant gratification have formed our life experiences and relationships with those around us. How mindful are we about how our newly formed attitudes of constant dissatisfaction in the smallest of things are affecting our relationships, romantic or not? We also share some tools and techniques to help you get back into a healthier mindset that serves us, rather than keeps us trapped in a state of constantly feeling like we are lacking or not enough. This is an episode for those who need an uplifting message that the best is yet to come if we adopt a healthy mindset and move away from negative thoughts when we can.  Can you please do me a favor if you enjoyed listening… Please click on the “FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE” button. Also please SHARE the podcast with someone who needs to hear this today!  With love till next week…. Connect with Julie Fitzpatrick Linktree Connect with Anne Hellgren: Relationship Coach and Podcast Host to “The Love You Want Podcast”  Can you please do me a favor if you enjoyed listening… Please click on the “FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE” button. Also please SHARE the podcast with someone who needs to hear this today!  Linktr.ee Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

This is an episode that everyone needs to hear! The concept of energy has been a massive topic in the last couple of years and for a good reason. Whether you believe in the power of energy or not, the fact remains that we cannot thrive in an environment that depletes us constantly.  “Whether you believe in the power of energy or not, the fact remains that we cannot thrive in an environment that depletes us constantly. Therefore, you will not reach your full potential if you allow people or things that deplete you, or steal your energy, to take up space in your life.” Anne Hellgren In this episode, I talk about the importance of keeping people and things that are draining us or even toxic to us, away. This can be hard when the person who’s stealing your energy is close to you, but that doesn’t mean you remain without choice. You still have the choice of how much time you spend in the company of such people. You also have the choice of whether to completely cut them off. Yes, it may be harsh and perhaps a last option in some cases. But remember, this is about you being able to have a healthy state of mind so you can be there for those who truly need you - and for yourself! This isn’t selfish, it’s self-care!  If you find yourself in a situation where you would like to get away from certain behaviors, thoughts, or people that are damaging to your positive energy and state of mental and emotional health, reach out to me at anne@annehellgren.com for a 20-minute complimentary session to see what the next best steps for you could be. Life is precious, let’s treat it that way. Can you please do me a favor if you enjoyed listening… Please click on the “FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE” button. Also please SHARE the podcast with someone who needs to hear this today!  With love till next week…. P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Linktr.ee

In this heartfelt episode, I invite you to join me on a deeply personal journey as I recount my harrowing experiences with abuse and dysfunction in relationships. My story is a testament to the incredible strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of healing. “To encourage survivors of relationship abuse to speak out, it's crucial that we refrain from asking why they stayed. Such questions can intensify their shame and suffering. Instead, let's focus on how we can support them in their healing process. This approach fosters understanding, empowers survivors, and creates a safe space for them to share their experiences and seek help.” Anne Hellgren Main Discussion Points: 1. My Path through Abuse: I open up about my own experiences with the painful realities of abuse and dysfunction within relationships, shedding light on the emotional and psychological toll it can cause. 2. Fueling a Mission for Change: I share how my personal journey of healing and recovery has become the driving force behind my mission to help others break free from the same patterns of abuse and dysfunction. 3. Practical Strategies for Healing: I offer practical strategies and tools drawn from my own experiences for those seeking to heal from dysfunctional relationships. These include insights on establishing healthy boundaries, rebuilding self-worth, and recognizing the warning signs of problematic relationships. 4. Embracing Healthy Connections: I emphasize the significance of nurturing healthy and supportive connections after breaking free from dysfunction. I provide insights into how individuals can create and maintain meaningful, loving relationships. With love till next week….  PLEASE SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND SHARE THE PODCAST if you enjoyed listening. P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx Connect with Petra Brunnbauer and The Jōrni Podcast: Website Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.comWebsiteLinkedInFacebookInstagram

We are joined by Milka Kamau to delve into a powerful story of resilience and healing as we explore the unspoken struggles surrounding mental health.  “As we continue to be silent about our experiences in mental health, we’re fostering the stigma to continue. The way for us to end the stigma is to come out and say I’m going through a mental health illness. And as we say that, the stigma will end. It will have no place.” - Milka Kamau We learn about Milka’s experiences growing up -  feeling like something was wrong with her, constantly seeking validation, and wearing a mask to hide her true self. She takes us to the emotional complexities of her relationship with her father, navigating abuse and strict household rules, and the impact it had on her mental well-being. This story doesn't end in despair. Milka shares her realizations and shows us her path to healing. We highlight the importance of seeking help and raising awareness that mental health conditions are treatable. But in order to end this stigma, one must first break their silence. We explore the power of sharing serious messages about mental health, abuse, and PTSD, urging you, our listeners, to spread this important episode far and wide. Remember, your voice matters. Milka also talks about her advocacy efforts, their role in a global group striving to collect resources for individuals with mental health conditions, and their relentless pursuit to make a difference.  Together, let's create a world where mental health is openly discussed, understood, and supported.  Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Milka Kamau: LinkedInYouTubeFacebookInstagram Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

Most of us at some point felt like we needed our partners more than they needed us. And while this can be a normal feeling when it ISN’T a constant feeling, and when the other person also shares the same feeling from time to time. It is however not healthy when there is a desparate or overly neediness of one person to another.   “Everyone wants to feel needed in a relationship, but no one wants to be with a needy person.” Anne Hellgren This episode will discuss some of the issues that arise when one person is overly needy to highlight how it can lead to the demise of a relationship. I will also be sharing what you can do to avoid feeling overly needy in a relationship. Remember, these steps shared below can be applied to any relationship and not just romantic ones. Here are steps you can take to stop being overly needy: 1. Practice Self-Reflection 2. Build your Self-Confidence and Self-Worth 3. Develop Individual Interests. 4. Set Healthy Boundaries Together. 5. Practice Self-Sufficiency 6. Communicate Openly and Honestly 7. Celebrate Independence Remember that making changes takes time, and it's okay to seek support along the way. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you work toward a healthier and more balanced relationship dynamic. With love till next week…. P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

In this episode, I’m talking about how to fail forward when your relationships fail. Usually, failed relationships aren’t something most of us want. And in fact, can be an extremely difficult time for many. With divorce rates in the Western world averaging 52% (currently), there are clearly a lot of failed relationships out there. This is not even counting non-marriages. “There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. But every relationship has the ability to teach you something about yourself, others, and the world.” - Anne Hellgren I discuss what it really means to fail forward in a relationship, and how we can use failed relationships to improve our lives moving forward. And also how to let go of things and behaviors that may be keeping you in a pattern of failed relationships. I will also share some tools that you can use if you find that you need to heal from a failed relationship that has felt you hurt, angry, disappointed, and more.  If you feel that you are going through a stage in your life and want some support on how to overcome it, reach out to me at anne@annehellgren. Life is best lived when you are able to learn, heal and move on from what doesn’t serve you! As always, I would be forever grateful if you can share this. 2023 has taught me that many of us are in the same boat - just not aware of it or sharing the same language or courage to share our own experiences. Let’s make a difference if and where we can. With love till next week…. P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.comWebsiteLinkedInFacebookInstagram

If you are anything like the vast majority of people around the world, you have struggled with always showing up as your authentic self, constantly and unapologetically.  “As much as I don’t like using the word ‘regret’, I feel strongly enough on this one to use it. My one regret is not showing up UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME sooner in my life.” Anne Hellgren We are so conditioned - FROM BIRTH- to feel, act, think, and be in a certain way. Sometimes this serves us so beautifully. Sometimes it hinders and hurts and even destroys us so fundamentally.  The saddest thing, in my view, is that the conditioning goes on well beyond our childhood. You can form ideas of your worth and what is “wrong” with you or “acceptable” with you and etc based well after your childhood.  I want to unpick these issues in this podcast. I want to discuss where we get our programming that forms us so we can question - IS THIS REALLY ME?  When we do identify “it” is me - or at the least the version I want to be even if I’m not there yet, how can I stop believing that I need to be apologetic for being me? Not the programmed me - but the me that has perhaps gone against what the family, religion, culture, society and everyone’s damn expectations of me should look like and be like? This is a deep one and will shake some feathers - within you and in your circle of people!!! You have been warned…BUT I PROMISE YOU…doing the work to show up unapologetically you is the BEST GIFT you will ever give yourself!!  Reach out to me on anne@annehellgren.com if you want any support on this or other relationship and self identity issues. As always, I am forever grateful if you can share this. One thing 2023 has taught me is that many of us are in the same boat - just not aware of it or sharing the same language or courage to share our own experiences. Let’s make a difference if and where we can. With love till next week…. P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email: ⁠anne@annehellgren.com⁠ ⁠Website⁠ ⁠LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠Instagram

This episode is all about how you are navigating through your life, whether you are single or in a relationship. I want to challenge you during this episode to ask yourself if you actually have a plan for who you spend time with, how you spend time with them, and what you both bring to each other through that relationship. “The relationship you’re in has the power to affect all other areas of your life.” - Anne Hellgren A lot of the times when I think about relationships that really didn’t serve me or which I did not serve, it boils down to a couple of things, but the theme is - I had no clear intention and wasn’t living with purpose in that relationship!  This is going to be a deep one, but stick with me! I’m about to give you some deep insights that you can learn and use in ALL areas of your life. If you’re single and want a relationship - this will help you get clarity on what kind of relationship would truly be suitable for you.  If you’re already in a relationship, you will learn how to improve it so you can experience deeper and more honest connections with your partner.  And if you are happily forever single, you can use what I share to create great non-romantic relationships. :-) Talking points: Intention - do you know why you want to be in a relationship? Is that intention even yours or someone else's? Let’s get clarity here!Purpose - What are you looking to get out of that relationship? What is drawing you to get into a relationship? What are the short-term and long-term goals? How will it fulfill you and inspire you in other areas of your life? Would love to hear your shares, send me an email at anne@annehellgren.com If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share it with them. If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favor? Could you please SUBSCRIBE AND RATE it?  I love to connect with my listeners, so if you are struggling with something in your relationship or struggling to find the kind of relationship you desire - I’m offering you a FREE 30-minute coaching call! Thank you for being a listener to this podcast and supporting it!  CLICK HERE TO BOOK TODAY!  (P.S. I will not continue to offer this for much longer due to time constraints!) Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email: anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

In this episode, I am going to go deep and vulnerable about what I did to learn to love myself more. I did cause I know not doing it would keep me on a path of dysfunctional habits, thoughts and actions. I wanted more for myself and I hope this episode inspires you to think about what you are currently doing in your life that is stopping you from having the kind of relationship you want with yourself first - then others. As I always say, it starts with you! Now I am able to proudly stand in my peace and truth of who I am and how I show up - even during the bad days - my self-love helps me endorse the tough moments and keeps me going.  I talk about: Let go of other people's opinionsLet go of negotiating my self-worthLet go of thinking self-love is selfish What is it that you need to stop doing? What do you need to let go of? Would love to hear your shares, send me an email on anne@annehellgren.com!  If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share it with them. If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favour? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE AND RATE it?  I love to connect with my listeners, so if you are struggling with something in your relationship or struggling to find the kind of relationship you desire - I’m offering you a FREE 30 minute coaching call! A thank you for being a listener to this podcast and supporting it!  CLICK HERE TO BOOK TODAY!  (P.S. I will not continue to offer this for much longer due to time constraints!) Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

In this episode I will be keeping it short, sweet and very real! I want to talk to you about how you need to learn to protect your peace in your relationships. Just because you are in a relationship, doesn’t mean that you are responsible for constant negative damping from your partner. It doesn’t mean that you should allow yourself to live in a constant state of drama caused by your partner. And sure as hell doesn’t mean that you are constantly responsible for managing their moods and healing all their wounds.  “Don’t let other people’s unhealed trauma be your daily drama.” Anne Hellgren  We each need to take responsibility for how we show up in our relationships. We are responsible for our happiness, emotional regulation and peace of mind. So that said, I encourage you to take charge of these factors and make sure that you evaluate if what you are getting from your relationship is growing you or draining you. Then make the decision to either change a draining relationship through seeking help, or changing the environment. Either way, the choice to protect your peace is on you- whichever way you choose to do so. If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favour? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE AND RATE it? Also, being the kind person you are, who do you think you can share this with to protect their peace?  I love to connect with my listeners, so if you are struggling with something in your relationship or struggling to find the kind of relationship you desire - I’m offering you a FREE 30 minute coaching call! A thank you for being a listener to this podcast and supporting it!  CLICK HERE TO BOOK TODAY!  (Ps. I will not continue to offer this for much longer due to time constraints!) Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

In this episode, we delve into the topic of self-sabotage in relationships and share strategies to overcome this destructive pattern. “Until you learn that unhealed trauma or fear is affecting your programming, you will continue to self-sabotage your relationships - consciously or subconsciously.” Anne Hellgren Main Segment: 1. Understanding Self-Sabotage Explore the reasons behind self-sabotage in relationships.Discuss common patterns and behaviors that indicate self-sabotaging tendencies.Emphasize the importance of self-awareness in breaking free from this cycle. 2. Unearthing the Underlying Fears  Delve deeper into the fears and insecurities that drive self-sabotage.Reflect on past experiences and traumas that may contribute to these fears.Provide guidance on identifying and challenging negative beliefs to foster healthier relationship dynamics. 3. Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Compassion  Highlight the role of vulnerability in building meaningful connections.Discuss the importance of self-compassion and self-care as foundations for healthy relationships.Encourage open communication and honest expression of fears and emotions. 4. Seeking Support and Professional Help Explore the benefits of seeking support from trusted friends, family, or therapists.Discuss how external guidance can provide fresh perspectives and help navigate emotional challenges.Normalize the act of seeking help as a sign of strength and commitment to personal growth. 5. Practicing Patience and Celebrating Progress Emphasize the need for patience throughout the journey of overcoming self-sabotage.Encourage listeners to celebrate even small victories and acknowledge setbacks as part of the process.Provide motivation to keep moving forward and maintain a commitment to personal growth. Conclusion: Remind listeners that self-sabotage can hinder the potential for healthy and fulfilling relationships.Encourage them to apply the strategies discussed to break free from self-sabotaging patterns.Remind Listeners that they can get a COMPLIMENTARY COACHING CALL with myself! CLICK HERE TO BOOK. Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

I was drawn to this topic following a conversation I had with a friend during the week. Most of today’s society will make us believe that monogamy is the standard way to exist in a romantic relationship and while I believe the vast majority favour it too, I am drawn to explore the topic of non-monogamy relationships. And why some people choose to have open and non-monogamous relationships. "Love knows no bounds. Open relationships offer a path to redefine commitment and embrace limitless connections." Anne Hellgren This episode explores the challenges and benefits of having more than one romantic partner at a time. And when and how it works and doesn’t work out. What rules need to be in place and when does it go from non-monogamous to cheating? Have you or are you currently in an open or non-monogamy relationship and would like to share your direct views on this podcast? Send me an email on anne@annehellgren.com and would love to have you on the show!  Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

This week I share an interview where I was interviewed by Anthea McCourtie on her podcast ‘Action Women’.  I share my own experiences with domestic abuse and how I have broken the toxic and terrifying cycle of abuse suffered at the hands of past partners. I also share about my work and how I help others to gain and maintain meaningful, empowering relationships. “Unless we have open and honest conversations about abuse, it will keep happening behind closed doors- just as the abuser would have it.” - Anne Hellgren Some Key Points: People sometimes suffer domestic abuse in silence because they are afraid to talk about the things that matter. If we don't vocalise, then we cannot hope to heal effectively. Escaping domestic abuse is not an easy thing. Often we are so conditioned by the time it begins that our initial reaction to its appearance is a loss of hope and a feeling of being trapped. Cultures often dictate that women are meant to be subservient to their spouses. Submission is taught, and normalised. This needs to change. Change has to begin within ourselves if we want it to take root. Start by loving yourself, which will make abuse a crime against someone we come to care for. Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! If you know someone who needs to hear this, PLEASE SHARE this episode with someone who needs to hear it! Sometimes people may suffer in listen, but you can help them stop the suffering sooner rather than later. Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

Today's episode focuses on building trust in relationships, the foundation for a deep and meaningful bond. In this episode, I will share some key elements of trust as well as strategies for building and maintaining trust. "Trust is not just about faithfulness but also about being vulnerable and open with one another." - Unknown Key Elements of Trust in a Relationship: Trust: comprises several core components: reliability, honesty, vulnerability, and integrity.Reliability: Being dependable and following through on commitments.Honesty: Open and transparent communication as the basis for trust.Vulnerability: Feeling safe to be authentic and share without fear of judgment.Integrity: Acting in alignment with personal values and being true to one's word. Strategies for Building and Maintaining Trust: Effective Communication: Open and honest dialogue, active listening, and seeking to understand each other's perspectives.Setting Clear Boundaries: Respecting and honoring each other's boundaries to establish a safe space.Building Emotional Intimacy: Sharing vulnerable moments, thoughts, and feelings to deepen the emotional connection.Consistent Actions: Small gestures, acts of kindness, and keeping promises to build trust over time.Forgiveness: Allowing the healing process and restoration of trust after mistakes or misunderstandings. Final Thoughts and Advice: Building trust is an ongoing effort that requires commitment from both partners.Patience, open communication, and seeking professional help if needed are crucial in rebuilding trust.Trust is a two-way street, necessitating vulnerability and a willingness to extend trust to your partner. IF YOU MISSED THE LIVE WEBINAR ‘How Toxic Relationships Affect Your Mental Health’ You can watch it NOW. Please note this link will be up only until the 17th of June 2023. If you are interested in this webinar after this date, please use my Calendly to schedule a time to speak.  Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

I am so honoured to be joined on this episode by Matt Fiddes! Matt is one of the most respected experts in the international world of martial arts and fitness.  Matt’s achievements have seen him honoured at the highest level, after being inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame and presented with the prestigious ‘Martial Arts Superstar Award’. He is also the owner of the world's largest martial arts franchise! “If you want your partner to understand and support you and your growth in business, take them with you when you go to business empowerment events!” Matt Fiddes Matt has also been privileged to have been Micheal Jackson’s friend and bodyguard, where he learned a lot from a very exclusion circle of people. He is also a serial entrepreneur, mentor and a genuinely lovely human! Nothing is off limits in our conversation and Matt is a dream guest who shares his truth unapologetically and honestly, even if they may be controversial! We talk about success, money, divorce, marriage, sex, and so much more! I met Matt at an entrepreneurs & business event hosted by his friends Rob Moore and Jessen James, and I had the pleasure of sitting opposite him during dinner. His story on stage and our conversation during the dinner promoted me to have a deeper conversation about all his success, his first marriage, life with Michael Jackson as his friend, and his current marriage with his beautiful wife Moniqe Fiddes. He shares extremely valuable insights on what it takes to make a great relationship, all while juggling the pressures and responsibilities of his global companies of worth over £100 million! Matt is also my mentor and is very generous with giving back to others! Much sure you follow him on Instagram and join his MF.club! Links Below! ONE Week left to go! Have you signed up for my FREE Webinar on “How Toxic Relationships Affect Our Mental Health, AND what you can do”? Do so now by clicking here!  Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect With Matt Fiddes: MF.Club Website Instagram  Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

Being in a toxic relationship can cause significant mental health problems, such as emotional distress, depression, chronic stress, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder, amongst other issues. This episode will discuss some of the signs to look out for as a result of being in a relationship that is toxic. If you find yourself or someone you know experiencing the symptoms and going through the scenarios discussed in this episode, please seek out help as soon as possible. The longer one stays in such relationships the more damage is done. Also, please share it with others who you feel would benefit from the episode. Please don’t forget to SIGN UP for my FREE WEBINAR on THIS EXACT TOPIC!  I will be going deep with you for 60 minutes on how to identify toxic relationships, even those that may not be so obvious. I will show you how they are affecting you so you can make a very informed decision about your next steps and how to go about them.  Please also share this webinar with those that need it! Let’s stop living a life that we were never created to live- and start coming into your true power and happiness! SIGN UP FOR THE WEBINAR HERE! If you feel you’ve been affected by any of the above, I would love to offer you a free 30-minute coaching call. CLICK HERE to schedule it at a time that suits you. My token of appreciation for being a listener to this podcast! Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email: anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

I am joined by Anthea McCourtie, who is a registered nutritional therapist, yoga instructor, personal trainer, and Transformation coach. We discuss how our body image affects our self-confidence and how that goes on to affect all other areas of our lives, including our relationships.  I was drawn to having Anthea on this podcast as her approach to increasing our confidence through our body image is something I feel we need to discuss more in a time where filters, social media, mainstream media, etc. tell us that we need to look a certain way. We discuss that instead of waiting to create the body you want before you truly start to love yourself, you should start by nurturing and working out your body first. Once you do this you will be able to understand just how amazing your body is, ditch the calorie counting, and create a healthy relationship with yourself - so you feed your body what it needs to thrive and look great too. And ultimately increase your self-confidence! Make sure you also listen to her Podcast - Action Women! Action Women is for women ready to unleash their power and take real action toward their goals!  Make sure to check out Brendon Burchard’s GrowDay App to get daily inspirational audio recordings, a journal, and weekly teaching sessions from some of the world’s greatest minds PLUS much more!  Brendon Burchard’s GROWDAY APP:  Get a 14-DAY FREE TRIAL! Want to share your thoughts or be a guest? Reach out to me using the links below! I would love to hear from you! Do me a favor, if you enjoyed any of the episodes could you please SUBSCRIBE and RATE my podcast today? Would be so appreciated! Connect with Anthea McCourtie Website: ⁠www.youbyanthea.co.uk⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠  ⁠Youtube⁠ ⁠Twitter Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

For those of you who know me or the podcast, you’ll know that my mission is to help as many people be empowered in themselves first, so they can be empowered in their relationships. This episode is going to share with you some things that you should never feel guilty about. Whether the guilt is coming from you, or others, and trust me, you will have experienced people trying these points on you!  I hope this message inspires you to create a different and more empowered mindset and create inner peace within you. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share. We have all been here at some point and you never know who really needed to hear it today!  As promised in the podcast, here are the links to Trent Sheldon’s podcast link as well as Brendon Burchards’ Growthday app. I cannot recommend these enough! Brendon Burchard’s GROWDAY APP:  Get a 14-DAY FREE TRIAL!Trent Sheldon’s Podcast Want to share your thoughts or be a guest? Reach out to me using the links below! I would love to hear from you! Do me a favor, if you enjoyed any of the episodes could you please SUBSCRIBE and RATE my podcast today? Would be so appreciated! With Love Anne Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

While what one woman finds attractive in a  man can differ from person to person, here are a couple of things high-value women will be highly attracted to in a man. I found these to be true in my own experiences, my friends, and my clients. Clarity - Knowing who you are and where you are going and what you want. Confidence- We may not always rank high in this one, but the good news is, we can always work on our self-confidence. I have experienced through my work and personal life that men with very low self-confidence dating someone they consider “out of their league” doesn’t work out well. Unless of course, they work on their confidence. In an effort to feel better about being in a relationship with this person, can develop toxic habits like being controlling, very jealous, paranoid behavior, and even emotional abuse. Why? people who are not loving themselves will try to cut you down to their size so you don’t outshine them.  Connection- How you connect with her will go a long way. Are you in tune with what she likes and doesn’t like? Are you trying to really get to know her by having honest conversations? Are you attuned to how she wants to receive love, attention, and appreciation?  Stability- This is huge if you’re looking for a serious relationship. No one wants to feel unsure about where their life is headed and especially after you get to a certain age and want a serious relationship with the right person. If you cannot provide her stability by showing her that you serious through your actions and not just words, she will eventually wisen up to your tactics.  Financial Security- Some of you may not like this, but I’ll say it anyway. Most high-value women want a man who can provide for them and their future families. I am not talking about large bank deposits, but enough to know that life won’t be a constant struggle financially. After all, it is one of the highest reasons for divorces- YES Money! Attitude- Women may not want you to be positive 24/7 but for me, few things turn off faster than Mr. Gloom Doom. Women want to know that even through the hard times and the struggles, her man is still able to maintain a sense of leadership and a positive mindset that will help them through the tough times. I’m not saying fake it or don’t talk about your real fears and stresses, just TRY to be the captain of the ship in the midst of storm.  If you feel that you’ve been affected by any of the above, I would love to offer you a free 30-minute coaching call. CLICK HERE to schedule it at a time that suits you. My token of appreciation for being a listener to this podcast! Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email:anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram

I am joined by Isobel Gorden who is a trauma-sensitive therapist who talks about her experiences of being married to a narcissistic alcoholic. She shares how being in a relationship with a narcissist can influence your whole life. You will also learn that being in such relationships can be difficult to identify as narcissists are usually very good at manipulating and lying. They are also very clever at masking it until you are deep into the relationship. By this point, you are likely to have some sort of brainwashing and emotional abuse that causes you to doubt yourself and your decisions. You will also have probably been emotionally and psychologically beaten down so you find it hard to leave the relationship.  While this episode is not about sharing some sort of diagnosis of what it means to be a narcissist, you will learn to identify some of the red flags. These flags shouldn’t be ignored as the deeper you get involved with such people the more damaged you are likely to become. The emotional scares that follow can hurt for years to come, and in many cases will affect your self-worth and confidence. Given the tactics used by narcissists, you may also find that your self-clarity has been affected. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and you can heal and move past the trauma. You will however need to be ready to leave that situation as healing cannot occur when you’re still in such a toxic environment. If you feel that you’ve been affected by any of the above, I would love to offer you a free 30-minute coaching call. CLICK HERE to schedule it at a time that suits you. My token of appreciation for being a listener to this podcast! Please don’t forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review if you enjoyed listening to the podcast! Connect with Isobel Gordon Email: isobel@intherighthands.co.uk  ⁠Website⁠ ⁠LinkedIn⁠ Connect with Anne Hellgren: Email: anne@annehellgren.com Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram