Episode 55: How To Stop Self-sabotaging Your Relationships

The Love You Want, It Starts With You!

Jul 6 2023 • 25 mins

In this episode, we delve into the topic of self-sabotage in relationships and share strategies to overcome this destructive pattern.

“Until you learn that unhealed trauma or fear is affecting your programming, you will continue to self-sabotage your relationships - consciously or subconsciously.” Anne Hellgren

Main Segment:

1. Understanding Self-Sabotage

  • Explore the reasons behind self-sabotage in relationships.
  • Discuss common patterns and behaviors that indicate self-sabotaging tendencies.
  • Emphasize the importance of self-awareness in breaking free from this cycle.

2. Unearthing the Underlying Fears

  • Delve deeper into the fears and insecurities that drive self-sabotage.
  • Reflect on past experiences and traumas that may contribute to these fears.
  • Provide guidance on identifying and challenging negative beliefs to foster healthier relationship dynamics.

3. Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Compassion

  • Highlight the role of vulnerability in building meaningful connections.
  • Discuss the importance of self-compassion and self-care as foundations for healthy relationships.
  • Encourage open communication and honest expression of fears and emotions.

4. Seeking Support and Professional Help

  • Explore the benefits of seeking support from trusted friends, family, or therapists.
  • Discuss how external guidance can provide fresh perspectives and help navigate emotional challenges.
  • Normalize the act of seeking help as a sign of strength and commitment to personal growth.

5. Practicing Patience and Celebrating Progress

  • Emphasize the need for patience throughout the journey of overcoming self-sabotage.
  • Encourage listeners to celebrate even small victories and acknowledge setbacks as part of the process.
  • Provide motivation to keep moving forward and maintain a commitment to personal growth.


  • Remind listeners that self-sabotage can hinder the potential for healthy and fulfilling relationships.
  • Encourage them to apply the strategies discussed to break free from self-sabotaging patterns.
  • Remind Listeners that they can get a COMPLIMENTARY COACHING CALL with myself!


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