Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) read less
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Episodes

Memorial Day Break: Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More
May 27 2024
Memorial Day Break: Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle sending wedding cards to exes, being polite to Siri and Alexa, asking people for favors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Riding in cars QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I send a card to my ex who is getting remarried? Should you say "please" and "thank you" to Alexa and Siri? VENT OR REPENT: Asking for favors, Texting before a party CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Canyon friends, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa Yacht Rock YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 178 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discovering Letitia Baldrige, Handling Airport Pickups, Brushing Teeth at the Office, and More
Apr 15 2024
Discovering Letitia Baldrige, Handling Airport Pickups, Brushing Teeth at the Office, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the biography of Letitia Baldrige, handling airport pickups, brushing teeth at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Letitia Baldrige A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport Pickups QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to brush and floss your teeth in an office bathroom? My teacher just told the class incorrect information...how do I correct her? What do I do if friends are talking about me behind my back? What do you do if you're invited somewhere and you just don't want to go? VENT OR REPENT: Luggage in hotel elevators, Dog tote bags CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the book, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Letitia Baldrige's obituary in the New York Times YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 222 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Spring Break: Passing Salt and Pepper, Asking for Pickles, Running Into Acquaintances, and More
Apr 8 2024
Spring Break: Passing Salt and Pepper, Asking for Pickles, Running Into Acquaintances, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle passing salt and pepper, asking people if they're going to eat their pickles, running into acquaintances at bars, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing salt and pepper A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Menu substitutions and secret menus QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How soon is too soon to ask someone if they're going to eat their pickle? What do I do about an acquaintance who is mad at me for not including them in a night out? VENT OR REPENT: A noisy neighbor update, Unsupportive comics CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A musical voicemail, A middle school party THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dining scene from Batman (1989) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 176 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Identifying Salt and Pepper Shakers, Using AI for Thank You Notes, Walking Up Escalators, and More
Mar 11 2024
Identifying Salt and Pepper Shakers, Using AI for Thank You Notes, Walking Up Escalators, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle identifying salt and pepper shakers by their holes, using AI (Artificial Intelligence) to write thank you notes, walking up escalators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Salt and Pepper Shakers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Artificial Intelligence (AI) in Etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to walk up escalators? How much should you tip the maître d' at a restaurant? VENT OR REPENT: Forgetting someone at pilates, Hogging a hot tub CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a listener, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW HAL 9000 from "2001: A Space Odyssey" Toys hanging from the ceiling at the 21 Club in New York New York Times article from 1979: "Restaurant Tipping: The Captain, the Waiter, The Sommelier..." YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 218 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Taking Flowers From Funerals, Giving Guests Plastic Cutlery, Asking About People's Weight, and More
Mar 4 2024
Taking Flowers From Funerals, Giving Guests Plastic Cutlery, Asking About People's Weight, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking flowers from funerals, giving guests plastic cutlery, asking about people's weight, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How can we politely let a waiter know we aren't interested in hearing them perform the specials? Is it acceptable for someone who brought flowers to a Celebration of Life event to take the flowers back with them after the service? Do I have to RSVP to a wedding invitation that was sent to me at my father's address? What do I do about friends who only offer disposable plastic cutlery in their home? Bonkers: Weighing exactly 117 pounds THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Peugeot pepper mills YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 217 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Eating Soft Boiled Eggs, Getting A Professional Massage, Being Judgy at Airports, and More
Feb 26 2024
Eating Soft Boiled Eggs, Getting A Professional Massage, Being Judgy at Airports, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soft boiled eggs, getting a professional massage, being judgy at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Soft boiled eggs A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a professional massage QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you respond to "I appreciate you"? What do I do about a 1960s-themed birthday party that my husband doesn't want to dress up for? VENT OR REPENT: Being judgy at the airport, A loud woman at the theatre CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to our listeners, Thanks to the mahjong club THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Pocillovy (collecting egg cups) "Volcano" at St. Anne's Warehouse (YouTube) Intro to mahjong (YouTube) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 216 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
President's Day Break: Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More
Feb 19 2024
President's Day Break: Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about commandeering televisions, RSVPing to Facebook events, returning shopping carts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about guests who were rude and disrespectful to me in my home? How do I handle a neighbor who drops by unannounced and invites herself to events? Is it rude to change your Facebook Event RSVP the day of the event? Should I send a thank you note to my host after being their house guest? What's the correct procedure for needing to spit something out and you only have a cloth napkin? Vent: Returning shopping carts THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Shopping Cart Theory (YouTube) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 97 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dressing Your Personality at Weddings, Helping People Who Trip, Giving Money to Cashiers, and More
Feb 12 2024
Dressing Your Personality at Weddings, Helping People Who Trip, Giving Money to Cashiers, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about "dressing your personality" at weddings, helping people who trip, giving money to cashiers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "Dress Your Personality" mean as a dress code on a wedding invitation? What should you do if you see a stranger trip and fall in public? When paying at a counter with cash, should you place your money on the counter or put it into the cashier's hand? How do you respond when someone says "I work, but I don't have to"? Bonkers: Abandoning your colleagues at a restaurant THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Chateau Marmont and Neptune's Net on Wikipedia Bumpits commercial on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 215 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices