Eldercare Success

Nancy May, CareManity, LLC

Join us in Doing it Best with Eldercare Success where we explore ways to relieve the stress, exhaustion and overwhelm that we all face in caring for an aging parent, frail spouse, or partner. Fear, frustration, emotional and financial strain do not have to be your MO! In this show, we dive into unraveling the tricks, traps, and gotchas that create more questions than answers while caring for those we love. Join Nancy May, and her guests as she helps relieve the pressures and delivers solid ways to find more joy and freedom as we care for those with those we love. Here you’ll learn how to find the ground under your feet again. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead. keeping our feet on solid ground. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy read less

Who's Drugging Dad at the Care Home?
5d ago
Who's Drugging Dad at the Care Home?
In this episode you might be surprised to learn how often chemical restraints are used on our folks to keep them calm, sleepy, and complacent, and easier to care for in hospitals, rehab facilities, nursing homes, and even in our own homes by some lesser concerned home health aides. Sometimes it’s tough to figure out if this is happening to your parents while hospitalized. All you have to do, though, is ask about every medication they’re being given and why. You’ll also likely see these medications showing up as billed to their accounts. Care facility treatments and situations in your own home, or mom and dad's, when you’re not there may be more difficult to detect.  Here, I share a true story on how some simple over-the-counter medications were first started by my dad (his wish, not mine), and then continued on, for a different reason, by an aide.  How did I figure this one out, and put a quick stop to it?  Tune in and learn the details.  Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal, or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Messages from Your Loved Ones (Pt #1)
15-03-2023
Messages from Your Loved Ones (Pt #1)
Can you get support, guidance, and love from a parent, spouse, or even a family member who died before you were born? Turns out, that might be true if you know about how spiritual guides or mediums work.  This is part one of a two-segment show where my guest, Sloan Tate, an accredited Medium, and I dive into how you can tap into those you have loved and moved on. We also discuss things you should avoid when seeking out this type of spiritual guidance.  There are things you can do to tap into the wisdom of others. Sloan shares some interesting tools you can use to help you on this journey.  Guest: Sloan Tate is a second generation, spiritual medium and best-selling author of A Guide to Afterlife Communication. Born with natural mediumship gifts, she first learned the importance of using intuition while training horses on her family's farm. Sloan rediscovered the importance of developing this connection in everyday life through the study of meditation and yoga. Sloan is accredited with over 500hrs of yoga teacher training, is a Holy Fire ®  III Karuna Reiki ® Master, and has studied mediumship at the Arthur Findlay College and with several renowned mediums in the United States. Sloan is known for her unique spiritual humor and is an advocate for normalizing mediumship to support better practices in global mental health.Video of a live reading and additional information about Sloan's book.Sloan's Facebook Group, The Mediumship Support groupHost:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity,...
Lucky 7, Ways to Feel Better.
08-03-2023
Lucky 7, Ways to Feel Better.
In this episode, we'll be discussing how to get rid of those crappy, crummy, pissy moods that can come with caring for an elderly parent. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, stressed, and frustrated when caring for someone you love who needs your help all the time. However, sometimes the worst feelings can get the best of us.  It happens to me too.! In this episode, I share seven practical tips to help you dig out of that hole and find solid ground again. Not every day will be filled with sunshine and roses, and it’s OK to have bad days. Just try not to let them get the better part of you and your day.  I hope this helps you. It helped me! Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Final Words with the Wall Street Journal
01-03-2023
Final Words with the Wall Street Journal
In this episode, my guest, James Hagerty, the Wall Street Journal Obituary writer, and I discuss how to capture the most interesting parts of our parents and loved ones’ life stories.  Too often, those final days come about, and we lose, forever, stories about what our parents did in their lifetimes.  How does one start, though? What are the best questions to ask? Where do you search for things about them?What happened in their times, that they might have difficulty remembering themselves?  You might be surprised how enjoyable and important their stories can be to you, your siblings, your children, and your grandchildren. In some cases, historical societies, schools, and even museums may take notice.  As James says, “ if obituaries can’t be fun, what’s the point in dying?”Learn the best ways to draw out the more intriguing stories from those you love, from a Wall Street Journal Obituary writer who chronicled and summarized world-renowned celebrities, business moguls, famous artists, and some of those who made our world more interesting.  Guest: James R. Hagerty, Author, Yours Truly, The Obituary Writer's Guide to Telling Your Life Story Based in Pittsburgh, James is the lead obituary writer for The Wall Street Journal. Over the past four decades, he has worked as a reporter, editor, and bureau chief for the WSJ and the International Herald Tribune in Hong Kong, London, Brussels, Paris, Atlanta, and New York. He is the author of "Yours Truly" and "The Fateful History of Fannie Mae.The Washington Post named Yours Truly one of the 10 noteworthy books published in December 2022. "No one understands the treasures to be found in life stories better than James R. Hagerty," says the New York Times bestselling author, Bob Green in his advance review of the book. Having written more than 1,000 obituaries in the past seven years, Hagerty believes that everyone has interesting stories to tell and that preserving them can be the best gift ever given to loved ones. “Being famous is not a prerequisite for valuing and preserving your best stories and the lessons you’ve learned," he says.Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not
Get a 5 Year Old Care Advocate, NOW!
22-02-2023
Get a 5 Year Old Care Advocate, NOW!
In this episode, I share how even a whiny five-year-old can help us become better advocates and caregivers for those we love.  It starts with one key question that adults often forget to ask, themselves. That simple question, asked over and over again, can be annoying to respond to. But, with patience and some extra thought, you may be able to satisfactorily answer it more often.  And, in doing so, you just might get some surprising results.  Tune in to this Winter Short and learn more.  I promise it’s easier than you might think.Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Tough Choices, Right Decisions, Every Day Counts!
14-02-2023
Tough Choices, Right Decisions, Every Day Counts!
What happens when the quality of care provided by your mom’s care facility was great, but then declined to a point where you’re worried that she’s suffering?  Do you just suck it up and hope the quality of aides and services will get better? Or do you call medical transport, wrap her up in a blanket, and move her to a place that will make every minute with her count?  In this episode, we’ll tell you how this real-life, boots-on-the-ground, mother-daughter team fought to find the right place to finally find peace. Guest: Cindy Whitehead is an American professional skateboarder and public advocate for girls in sports.  A pioneer of vertical skateboarding, she was inducted into the Skateboarding Hall of Fame in 2016.  Her TEDx talk in Santa Monica, CA titled “Girl is NOT a 4 Letter Word” is about her experience growing up in a male-dominated sport.  She is also the author of several Girl Power journals and It’s Not About Pretty.  Today, she is a world-renowned wardrobe stylist who specializes in dressing athletes and models for athletic and lifestyle-based ad campaigns, commercials, movies, and editorials.   Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Surprising ways to find more strength.
08-02-2023
Surprising ways to find more strength.
Personal treasures or talismans have been used for a long time by caregivers, and those grieving, to reduce pain and stress. In this episode, I share a bit of history and some ways that you can use personal items to help you recover from loss and make better care decisions.  My own experience with such simple items as my mom and dad’s handwritten notes, a silver bangle bracelet, and even a fleece jacket of my dad’s, gave me strength when I felt lost. You might be surprised to learn that it’s not a ‘woo-woo’ thing but can actually help ground your head, heart, and actions.  Here are a few related links that you might find interesting.   Before you decide to click on the links below, a heads up: some may be a little creepy. Oh, I forgot to share that when my dad passed, I collected the rifle shell from his veteran memorial gun salute. Those shells were taken to my local jeweler where some were dipped in silver and others in gold. Each shell casing had a special phrase engraved, that meant something to my sister (who got one), and each of his aides (all who received one too). Yes, I have one as well. Each shell was hung off a necklace chain that was different for each of us. I personally wear that necklace when I need a little extra strength and motivation. Here's a link to that jeweler, who is pretty special herself. Campus Jewelers in Wilton, CT. If you do call them, please say hello to Sonya for me. Ways people remember loved ones (NY POST)Grave Metallum Jewelry artisan: incase you want to create something different for your family.Victorian hair artMourning hair watch fabHost:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the
Researching Hospitals to Get Better Care (Part #2)
01-02-2023
Researching Hospitals to Get Better Care (Part #2)
This episode is Part Two of my discussion with attorney Dan Frith. The quality of care our aging parents receive can vary by which hospital they use. The one closest to home might not be the safest, or even appropriate for them, or you. Not all hospitals are the same, nor equal, nor even similar in the types of services they offer or specialize in. It’s important to assume that hospital systems are businesses too.  Before you need one, learn how to research your local hospital. Understand the strengths, weaknesses, and reputation, of a hospital that's nearby, or in another state.  In this episode, we’ll cover how to get the details you need on all those specialists watching over your parents’ recovery.  You do have choices, and it’s important to know how to get what you need if a loved one's life, or even yours, is ever at stake.  Helpful links:HHS.Gov Hospital compare US News Best Hospitals, reportHospital Safety GradeGuest: Dan Frith, JD has been practicing law in Virginia for over 35 years and is with the law firm Frith& Ellerman, Law Firm, P.S. He limits his practice to litigation of medical negligence cases, wrongful-death litigation, and business/employment claims. Dan has represented clients throughout Virginia in both state and federal courts, authored numerous publications, and is a frequent speaker for continuing legal education programs for other trial attorneys.Dan is a recognized member of the Million Dollar Advocate Forum due to the results of his diligent work for his clients. Dan has served as a chair of both the Litigation section of the Virginia State Bar and the Standing Committee on Professionalism. Dan currently is an active member of the American Association for Justice, and Virginia Trial Lawyers Association, and previously served as the President of the Virginia Chapter of the American Board of Trial Advocates. Since March 13, 2003, Dan has received the highest rating by his peers (AV) from Martindale-Rubble.Dan, a married father of two boys, is a graduate of Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University and Washington and Lee University School of Law.Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare...
Things You'll Need When Bringing Dad Home
25-01-2023
Things You'll Need When Bringing Dad Home
How do you prepare your home, or a parent’s home, so it’s safe for them to return to after a hospitalization or long-term rehab stay?  They might have recovered, but the last thing you want is for another issue or accident to happen.  In this episode, we provide a list of suggestions to help you, the family or professional caregiver, better ensure continued safety and sustained quality of life for those you care for, even if their physical or mental abilities are starting to decline. Resource PDF download: Here's a link to the PDF mentioned in this episode, which will give you a list, and links to items that will be helpful to you and your parents. Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.fgm3KRt0A8ZgywxbkmOtThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Due Diligence on MDs (Part #1)
18-01-2023
Due Diligence on MDs (Part #1)
In this episode, we discuss how to learn if your doctor is the right one for your parents, or you. Sometimes we base our trust on a doctor’s “likeability,” or bedside manner.  But someone who seems good doesn’t mean they are good or even competent.  When it comes to your health, skills, competency ( a low "accidental" death rate), and experience usually trump attitude and charm.We also touch on some other points and questions to ask:What’s the prime age for a doctor,? When might you want to re-think using the doctor your parents have used for years?How do you know your doctor’s qualified to treat your parents’ specific conditions?  Note they will change over time and can change quickly.Should you trust a doctor’s online medical website ratings?Should you rely on a doctor’s referrals to other specialists?   When might it be dangerous to work with a general surgeon?  When you’re pressured to make decisions during a critical health scare, how do you take out the emotion and do what’s best for those you love?  Finally, how do you avoid signing away all your, or your parents’ rights before getting a procedure?If there's an issue that you are seriously concerned about, with your doctor, you can fire their doctor. There's a lot more to learn from this episode. Tune in and share with those you care about, and others caring for a parent too. This information could make everyone's life just a bit better. Here's an extra link/resource that may be helpful to you: The Federation of State Medical Boards. Guest: Dan Frith, JD has been practicing law in Virginia for over 35 years, and is with the law firm Frith& Ellerman, Law Firm, P.S. . He limits his practice to litigation of medical negligence cases, wrongful-death litigation, and business/employment claims. Dan has represented clients throughout Virginia in both state and federal courts, authored numerous publications, and is a frequent speaker for continuing legal education programs for other trial attorneys.Dan is a recognized member of the Million Dollar Advocate Forum due to the results of his diligent work for his clients. Dan has served as a chair of both the Litigation section of the Virginia State Bar and the Standing Committee on Professionalism. Dan currently is an active member of the American Association for Justice, Virginia Trial Lawyers Association, and previously served as the President of the Virginia Chapter of the American Board of Trial Advocates. Since March 13, 2003, Dan has received the highest rating by his peers (AV) from Martindale-Rubble.Dan, a married father of two boys, is a graduate of Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University and Washington and Lee University School of Law.Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles...
Can You Predict Emergencies?
11-01-2023
Can You Predict Emergencies?
In this episode, I share some research done on the most challenging days of the week for those who care for an aging parent or spouse.  From this, I learned that there really is an official calendar day called Blue Monday. Also, there are specific days when it seems, the effort of caregiving is that much more stressful.  It’s good to know this and be better prepared. I also dive into some ways to make the tough winter months a bit easier for you and those you’re caring for.  Here's a link to my friends, Walter and Naiad Einsel, and their love story. This will lift anyone's mood. That's a promise. Quotes to help lift your mood on a bad dayTranscript: Episode #51, Can you Predict Emergencies? Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2023 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Disability and Caregiving
04-01-2023
Disability and Caregiving
What happens when you’re both a caregiver and, at the same, disabled yourself?    In this episode my guest Daniel Hodges, JD, who is blind, was a caregiver for his parents and children while needing special care himself from the medical community.  We discuss how he was able to succeed at this, by being a non-stop advocate for himself and those around him to overcome surprising biases and other obstacles put in his way.  Our conversation includes:How to get doctors to treat you with respectHow to get more time when needed.What happens when a doctor wants to “Fix” you or your loved one – and it goes wrongWhen the doctor goes outside the box to be a savior/heroHow quality of care can decline if you’re perceived to have a disability.Bias and ignorance in the medical community and how to make things work in your favorIn addition, we dive into how best to sharpen your own self-advocacy skills and get more from your doctor and healthcare providers, than the average person. Learn how to work the system before it works you over! Special Note: I am fortunate to have Daniel as a friend and guest here on the Eldercare Success podcast. I am confident that his words and experiences will be lessons that you, the listener will learn from too. NancyThe TRANSCRIPT for this show is available by clicking here. Guest: Daniel Hodges, JD Social entrepreneur, connector, and servant leader. My unique approach to access, inclusion, and health equity facilitates real solutions. When each of us has a chance to succeed, all of us benefit. He is the cofounder of Pure Access and the President and Founder of The Peaces of Me Foundation.Daniel was born blind, and with a connective tissue disorder called Ehlers Danlos syndrome. His constellation of symptoms is so rare that they have never appeared together in any medical text that I have been able to find. He says "Sometimes I struggle to lead with this part of my story because my health struggles do not define me. EDS has taken a lot of things, but it will not take my identity. Nevertheless, my experiences provide me with a valuable lens through which I view the world. It inspires me to question the status quo on several levels, and it causes me to dream of what we can yet achieve." Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.
Toxic People Who Hurt You
28-12-2022
Toxic People Who Hurt You
Caring for those we love is tough enough. When toxic people enter our lives wanting more of our time, attention, energy, and even money, offering nothing in return, they make caregiving even more difficult.  In this episode, I share some tips on identifying, assessing, and more easily separating yourself from those I refer to as time vampires, bloodsuckers, and jerks.  I also discuss how to turn things around and find more good souls to bring joy, kindness, and sharing into our lives and those we love and care for. This is a great way to end the year and start 2023 with a lighter heart.Note:  people who whistle or hum throughout the day are actually (unintentionally) toning their vagus nerves, which puts them into a more relaxed state.  That’s why people who whistle or hum frequently are usually happier than those who don’t.  Click her for other benefits of stimulating your vagus nerve.  Give it a try.  Happy New Year to all! Lots of Love, NancyHost:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2022 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Finding Special Gifts
14-12-2022
Finding Special Gifts
This show is in memory of James Degenheardt who was a gift that showed up on my dad's doorstep one New Year's Day.Finding that special, thoughtful gift for an aging parent, or loved one can be tough.  Even more so when you are short on time, or just can’t bear the thought of going shopping. In this episode, I share how I faced this same dilemma as my folks got older – after all, who really needs another bathrobe or pair of slippers?  One way to do this is to think outside the (gift) box: what stories did they tell you, what memories did they share, that was extra special to them? Build on those memories. Find things, or people they may have known, or places they loved to go that will bring those memories back, in a different format. A little creativity can go a long way: messages and songs from special people, photo storybooks, short trips to places they once knew and loved, etc. The stories I share may just spark your imagination and help you create a unique gift that could surprise even give you, a ton of joy too.  Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2022 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Help Line: Choking, Breathing, Speaking, Eating and more!
07-12-2022
Help Line: Choking, Breathing, Speaking, Eating and more!
Imagine not being able to eat, swallow or enjoy your favorite foods.  Or feeling so tired you could fall headfirst into your soup bowl! Or, even worse, getting your tongue cut, and rebuilt due to cancer, and having to learn how to talk again! Would thinking about these things happening freak you out? Well, there’s lots to learn from my special guest in this episode, and some good things, too.Often when someone’s parent has a stroke, heart attack, early dementia, or other health issues requiring hospitalization, they’re typically referred to a rehab facility, or special nursing care facility. This can include different types of physical and occupational therapy.  Some of these therapists wind up saving lives, this even includes speech and language pathologists. In this episode, Phyllis Ayman and I dive into situations where hospitals, rehab facilities, skilled nursing homes, and even in-home care professionals don’t know how the simple act of swallowing works, and thus frequently ignore the condition.  When things like this are missed, they could result in early or sudden death. We dive into ways to:Prevent choking hazards Reduce the chance of aspiration pneumoniaUnderstand the impact of a stroke or dementia on eating and swallowingDo “weightlifting” for your throatKnow when a cough isn’t from a cold or allergyYou’ll even learn how to make sure that the medical facility discharge nurse/doctor hasn’t missed critical information relevant to your parent’s quality of life. As an extra bonus, we discuss six top tips to determine when to call in a speech and language pathologist.GUEST: Phyllis Ayman is an expert Speech/Language Pathologist, Certified Dementia Practitioner, Trainer, and Manager and holds a Certification in Montessori for Dementia. She has worked in approximately 45 skilled nursing/short-term rehabilitation facilities and is the principal owner of Phyllis Ayman Associates and the author of Nursing Homes to Rehabilitation Centers, What every person needs to know, and Dignity & Respect.Phyllis is the host of the podcast Seniors Straight Talk, on the Voice America Empowerment Channel. She is also a board member of the Massachusetts Advocates for Nursing Home Reform. Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views,...
Electronic Pickpocket, How to Protect Against
30-11-2022
Electronic Pickpocket, How to Protect Against
In this short episode, we talk about how to protect your parent’s credit cards from getting skimmed while in their wallets. RFID chips are now embedded in almost all our credit cards. For those of us caring for aging parents who are out and about shopping on their own, or with the help of an aide, the idea that their cards can be charged without their knowledge just adds another layer of concern to our caregiving workload.There’s some controversy about whether these cards can be skimmed from a distance, yet this recently happened in my family. Although it wasn’t fraudulently skimmed, a purchase transaction was placed on their card, before they were able to take the card out of their wallet.Tune in for some simple researched tips you can do now to prevent some financial catastrophes from happening later.Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2022 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Remember Everything! Caregiver Toolkit
23-11-2022
Remember Everything! Caregiver Toolkit
The stress from caregiving can wreak havoc on one’s entire body.  Yet our brains and mental abilities often end up suffering the most.  While in caregiving mode, some of us end up with overload. We feel like our brains are in a total fog.  We question whether we’re the ones with dementia or suffering from early-stage Alzheimer’s.  Fortunately, that’s probably not the case.  In this episode, Matt DiMaio, the Memory Maestro, gives us some easy ways to reduce stress, have some fun, and remember anything and everything we want.  You won’t have to hunt through the 50 sticky notes you’ve posted on the fridge after learning how to use his techniques.  In this episode we discuss how to:Turn your brain into your BEST service toolLeverage the ways your brain works naturallyUse the tone of your voice to remember thingsCreate an easy mental remembering filing system Have fun and reduce stress too.You'll also learn about the three causes of what Matt calls “Forgetory.” Knowing this will help you in nearly every situation where you need to remember important things. That alone could make a huge difference in your life, the lives of your family, and those you care for. Guest: Matt DiMaio, The Memory Meister, is a .world renowned authority on how to increase your ability to remember nearly anything. He's known for teaching powerful mental strategies, tactics, and techniques to BE SMARTER-FASTER. Learn everything and anything faster and easier than you ever dreamed possible. You can learn more about Matt through his YouTube channel where he explains simple ways to double your brain power in half the time. You can reach Matt through his websites An Incredible Memory, and Start Remembering. He's the author of three incredibly useful memory books, which are also available on Amazon. Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical,...
How to research problems before they happen to you
10-11-2022
How to research problems before they happen to you
How do you identify a problem doctor or facility before they become a problem for you?We all put more effort, time, and research into buying a car than into selecting medical care for our parents, and ourselves.  Why do that?  In this episode, I share easy ways to find out if the doctor, rehab, or care facility you select for your parents is competent, qualified, and honest about what they do.That “care home” may look like a luxury resort, but how do you research and dig out their hidden secrets?  The answers are in plain sight -- if you know where, and how to look. BONUS: Here's an extra tip sheet with details on how to dig deeper and investigate medical providers online before you make any decision to have them cut into you with a scalpel. Click here, for that bonus tip sheet. Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2022 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy
Law, You, and Care Facilities (Part #2): Avoid becoming a victim.
09-11-2022
Law, You, and Care Facilities (Part #2): Avoid becoming a victim.
Part two: Holding everyone at the facility(ies), including you, accountable (Part #2)Here, in part two, we dive into more ways to avoid falling into the traps that Long Term Care homes, nursing homes, rehab facilities, in-home aide agencies, and hospitals use to protect themselves from your or your parents’ outrage. Are your folks one of what they consider their “golden meal tickets,” or corporate profit “cash cows?”  This doesn’t mean they are going to get the best care.   Learn whether you’re getting the right care for your parents, and avoid those things these facilities often do that wind up shortening their lives or outright killing them (and your wallets) in the process.  Finally, we discuss ways to be a better advocate for your parent’s care.  It takes more than just walking in and loudly squawking.  There’s a lot more here. Tune in for more insider tips on how to raise the quality of care your parents can get in our health and aging care facilities.  Guest: Lauren Ellerman, JD, Partner, Frith & Ellerman, PC. Lauren's practice is focused on Medical Malpractice, Non-Compete litigation, and Nursing Home Abuse and Neglect. She helps clients in a range of civil litigation matters, including medical malpractice, and business litigation. She was recognized as one of the youngest Super Lawyers in Medical Malpractice for the Commonwealth of Virginia. In 2020 she was named the BEST Lawyer in America in Roanoke for Plaintiff’s Medical Malpractice, and the first female to receive the nomination.She is the co-author of  How to Beat Your Virginia Non-Compete. Lauren and her husband, Whit, are very active in the Roanoke Valley: opening a restaurant, The River and Rail; starting a non-profit Turn the Page, Inc., attending Second Presbyterian Church; spending time with their daughter, and dogs; and, camping as much as work will allow.Host:  Nancy May, Author of How to Survive 911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After!  is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to www.howtosurvive911.com. Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, Eldercare Success.Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be considered or used as...