Ask Dr. Julie Hanks

I’m excited to bring you another FAQ podcast episode! Join me as I sit down with Richie and answer more of your frequently asked questions. Tune in to hear answers to questions like:How do I stand up for myself with in-laws who want me to be traditional and politically conservative when I am neither of those things?How can I help my daughters know their worth?Who am I anymore without children to care for? How do I transition from full-time stay-at-home mom to whatever I am currently?How can I be a partner to my husband without constantly nagging him to do things?And more!In this episode, we discuss a book called Fair Play by Eve Rodsky. Fair Play is an excellent resource for couples who want their relationship to be founded in partnership. You can click the link below (affiliate link) to purchase a copyFair Play by Eve RodskyIf you have a question you’d like to hear me answer in a future FAQ podcast episode, email it to me with the subject line “Podcast Question” at hello@drjuliehanks.com.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this bonus podcast episode I talk with Dr. Jennifer Douglas about March’s theme in the Dr. Julie Hanks Group Coaching Membership: How do I stop seeking others’ approval?In this dynamic conversation we uncover the roots of perfectionism, share phrases and mantras that help battle perfectionist thinking, talk about how overfunctioning at home is a form of perfectionism, discuss the benefits of breaking free from approval seeking, share how to deal with the guilt that accompanies leaving perfectionism behind, and more. This is a conversation you don’t want to miss!All during March we’re talking about how you can stop seeking others’ approval in the  Dr. Julie Hanks Group Coaching Membership. It’s an affordable way to work with me and be part of a community of women who are striving for emotional health.For $39/mo (a fraction of the price of therapy or 1:1 coaching) you get: ☀️3 group coaching sessions(sessions are recorded to view anytime)☀️Access to all of my courses (including NEW Boundaries course)☀️Membership in a private Facebook community of women☀️Access to all past group coaching calls☀️And more!Start your membership today at drjuliehanks.com/membershipHave you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this bonus podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Morgan Francis about overcoming body shame and cultivating body love. Dr. Francis is a licensed therapist who offers courses and therapy services on her website that can help you stop hating your body.During our time together we talk about how we develop body shame, the different ways body shame can show up in our day-to-day lives, and what influence social media has had on body shame. Dr. Francis also shares about body neutrality, which is a helpful way to approach the way you think about your body, especially if you don’t feel ready to love it yet.All during February we’re talking about overcoming body shame and cultivating body love in the Dr. Julie Hanks Group Coaching Membership. It’s an affordable way to work with me and be part of a community of women who are striving for emotional health.For $39/mo (a fraction of the price of therapy or 1:1 coaching) you get: 3 group coaching sessions(sessions are recorded to view anytime), access to all of my courses (including NEW Boundaries course), private Facebook community of women, access to all past group coaching calls and more!Start your membership today at drjuliehanks.com/membershipHave you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

Jennifer is a mother of 1 and a widow who recently remarried. Growing up, she always felt that her parents had a great relationship because they put each other first. Now that she is remarried, she wants to know if this approach is the best way to make sure everyone in her home is taken care of.Instead of always setting one person before another, I encourage Jennifer to look for ways to balance her relationships with her daughter and husband. Rather than thinking of one coming before another, I invite her to strive for a balance between the two.During our conversation we also tackle mom guilt and the false idea that mothers should be the only ones to care for their children. Because there is no such thing as a perfect person, letting your child spend time with different people gives them exposure to things you cannot offer them. This will make them a healthier, more well-rounded person.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this bonus podcast episode, I sit down with my podcast editor Richie and answer another round of your frequently asked questions. Listen to find answers to questions likeWhen do I know if I am depressed or just in a rut?How can I respect members of the LDS Church when I don’t respect the Church’s actions?How can I have respectful dialogue about my faith transition with family and friends?How do I make peace with my aspirational shame?And more!If you have a question you’d like to hear me answer in an FAQ podcast episode, email it to me with the subject line “Podcast Question” at hello@drjuliehanks.comHave you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, I talk with Cyd and address the question “When my parents don’t respect my boundaries, how can I find a middle ground between putting up with it and shutting them out?” Cyd expresses frustration at her parents’ inability to accept her for who she is without trying to manipulate the choices she makes.Cyd is doing a great job setting boundaries with her parents and genuinely wants to pursue a relationship with them. At the same time, she feels like she is going in circles having the same conversations and resetting the same boundaries. The pain and fear that Cyd’s parents feel are keeping them from understanding her. We talk about how this does not mean they do not love her; in fact, it’s probably the opposite. They want what’s best for her, and they think they know what that is. Cyd recognizes that her parents are coming from a place of love, but that she may have a superficial relationship with them unless they are willing to change.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com. To learn more about this topic, see the following resource:Managing Difficult Family Relationships During a Faith Transition course

In this episode I talk with Tamee and answer the question “Why do I have such a hard time when I tell my kids no?” Tamee shares that even though she knows she isn’t responsible for making sure her children are always happy, she feels responsible whenever they have a negative response to hearing no.Tamee grew up in a house where she felt unsafe, uncomforted, and even invisible at times. Little Tamee was driven by fear, and she may be directing the way Adult Tamee parents. We discuss how her discomfort may stem from her fear that her children will feel the way she did as a child. I invite Tamee to tell her younger self that Adult Tamee has got this. She is taking care of her children’s needs, and they know they are loved.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com. To learn more about this topic, please see the following resource:Reparenting Yourself course

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Chrissy Powers about the difference between self care and selfishness. Chrissy is an LMFT, creative coach, writer, therapist, and mother of three. Her work focuses on encouraging others to live their fullest lives through unfreezing patterns of trauma.Taking care of yourself and being selfish are two different things, and yet so many women feel selfish for taking care of themselves. Listen as we:Share our definitions of self care versus selfishnessDiscuss why so many women struggle with self careThe emotional, spiritual, and physical aspects of taking care of yourselfAnd so much more!If you’re interested in prioritizing your self care, join my Group Coaching Membership! We are focusing on this topic all month long.When you join you’ll get:⭐️3 group coaching sessions each month with me⭐️Private FB group⭐️Access to all previous topics & coaching calls⭐️Access to DJH courses⭐️A community of like-minded women to connect & share your journeyHave you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this podcast episode, I talk with Natalie and address the question “How can I find healing from the challenges of being a quadruplet?” One of Natalie’s biggest challenges is comparison, both in comparing herself to her quadruplet siblings and to those around her.Natalie seems to have somehow decided that she doesn’t measure up. I ask her to turn inward and reflect on her definition of what is good enough. What makes someone a good mother? A good partner? A good sibling?When Natalie shares what she sees as good enough, she’s a lot closer to success than when she compares herself to other people. We talk about how she is changing from having external motivation (what do others think of me?) to internal motivation (what do I think of myself?). This process is difficult, but it will lead to her living a more genuine life.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this bonus podcast episode, I sit down and answer eight of your most frequently asked questions. Listen to see how I answer questions like:I want another child, but my husband does not. How do we navigate this?How do I keep a good relationship with my parents while pursuing my authentic life’s path, even if that path may hurt them?How do my partner and I work together if I leave the Church and he stays?What are some strategies I can use to work through aspirational shame?Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode I talk with Caitlin and answer the question “How do I handle the fear of temporal and eternal consequences if I leave the Church?” Caitlin’s faith journey has led her to some questions about the LDS Church. But whenever she contemplates leaving, she feels fear. What if she forfeits something by leaving the Church?As Caitlin and I talk, it becomes clear that a lot of her decisions stem from a place of fear. If the only reason you’re doing something is because you are afraid, your life cannot be very fulfilling. Caitlin and I talk about what she wants from life and what is going to bring her the most joy. I remind Caitlin that no decision is forever. She can choose to step back from the Church and change her mind later if she wants. Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, I talk with Benjamin and answer the question “What can I do when my ex doesn’t want to co-parent?” Benjamin shares that there are still a lot of hurt feelings between himself and his ex wife due to infidelity. While he is interested in coparenting for the benefit of his children, she is uninterested in having that closeness.Benjamin asks how he can build trust back with his ex. From what he shares with me, however, it sounds like she may be uninterested in rebuilding trust at this time. I advise Benjamin to instead enjoy the time he gets to spend with his children, to be the best parent he can be, and to leave the door open should she change her mind. Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, I talk with Rebecca and answer the question “How can I better connect and communicate with my orthodox family now that I’ve left the LDS Church?” Rebecca left the LDS Church and came out as gay. Her family has been accepting and supportive, but she has noticed they tend to be awkward and avoidant when her girlfriend is around. To Rebecca, it feels like she is being rejected.I ask Rebecca if there is room for people to be awkward around her and her partner without rejecting them. I invite her to recognize moments when she feels that awkwardness and allow room for other interpretations. I also encourage her to tell her family exactly what they could do when she is around to help her feel loved and celebrated.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, I talk with Jodie and answer the question “Am I helping or enabling my adult child who suffers from mental illness?” Jodie’s daughter moved home from college after experiencing a traumatic event, and Jodie is struggling to know when to help her versus when to step back. Jodie worries that if she doesn’t do enough to help her daughter, her daughter will go on a downward spiral that could have been prevented. I remind Jodie that she is not in control of her daughter’s life. Her actions will not prevent her daughter from struggling with her mental health. She is in control of her own actions and taking care of her own mental health.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, I talk with Shelby and answer the question “How can I cope with the idea that my dad will always choose the Church over me?” Shelby has left the LDS Church. At times when Shelby has asked her father to be on her side, he has told her that he will always put the Church first.I invite Shelby to reframe her thoughts about her father having to choose her or the Church and open up the possibility that her father can choose both. She cannot change her father or make his choices for him, but she can change the story she tells herself about what his choices mean.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com. To learn more about this topic, visit the following resources:Managing Difficult Family Relationships During a Faith Transition courseReparenting Yourself course

In this episode, I talk with a mother and answer the question “How do I navigate a relationship with my difficult parents who do not support my gay son?” This mother grew up in a home where individuality was discouraged, and she often felt attacked for sharing opinions that differed from her parents’. Their traditional Christian views are unsupportive of her son, and she worries for what they will say that may make him feel unloved and invalidated. At the same time, however, she feels immense guilt for opposing her parents in any way.During our time together, I ask this mother what she longs to hear from her parents. She tells me she wishes to have her parents accept her, hear her, see her, and support her in making her own choices. She shares experiences from her life that detail how she has worked tirelessly to get this validation from them but has not received it.I encourage this mother to ask her parents to listen to her and validate her experience. It’s possible her parents don’t know how to respond in a healthy way, so I ask if she could give her parents the words that she wants to hear from them. I also urge her to find adults who can nurture her in this stage of life.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, I talk with Rachel and address the question “How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have been made by me?” Rachel shares a few examples with me that have left her wondering “What if?” Now that Rachel is about to become a mother, she is struggling with the choice of whether to be a stay-at-home mom (which her parents have always encouraged her to do) or have a career. We talk about how she can set boundaries with her parents around the input that they give. Though she can’t control what her parents say, she can control what she is willing to talk to them about.I also remind her that whatever decision she makes doesn’t have to be permanent. She can do both, choose one, and change her mind down the road!Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com. To learn more about this topic, visit the following resource:Reparenting Yourself: Grieving and Healing Unmet Childhood Needs course

In this bonus episode of the podcast, I talk with Sal Osborne of @comingoutcoach about communicating with active LDS parents during a faith transition. Sal talks about the evolution of her relationship with her mother, who was an active member of the LDS Church when Sal came out. Sal shares ways that we can help those going through a faith transition feel accepted and loved for who they are. It is possible to connect with the people in your life in meaningful ways whether you are or aren’t part of the same religion. The secret? Communication and putting your relationship first.Be sure to follow Sal @comingoutcoach on Instagram!We are talking about communicating with believing family members in my membership group this November. To dive deeper into this topic, sign up today! For $39 a month you’ll get:Group coaching with mePrivate Facebook groupAccess to all of my coursesThemed downloads, journal prompts, and affirmationsAnd more!Visit drjuliehanks.com to sign up today.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com. To learn more about this topic, visit the following resource:Managing Difficult Family Relationships During a Faith Transition course

In this episode of the podcast I work with Sariah and address the question, “How can I work through my fear of rejection?”  Sariah grew up in an abusive environment, and she sees the impact of that in her daily life and relationships. She tells me that she feels her fear of rejection crop up especially around her family.Sariah shares that she is working really hard to be accepted in a family that is not very functional, and that she essentially has to betray herself to gain their acceptance. We talk about how young Sariah literally relied on her family to survive, and how it is scary to feel like you won’t receive the love and approval you need and deserve both as a child and as an adult.I invite Sariah to tell herself that she is not a burden, that she belongs, and that she is enough. Younger Sariah needs a lot of validation, and her family isn’t likely to provide it. Now that she is an adult and not wholly reliant on her family, she can give herself that validation she needs. I also applaud the work that she has done. It takes a lot of work to create a functional adult life after going through a difficult childhood.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com. To learn more about this topic, visit the following resource:Grieving and Healing Unmet Childhood Needs course

In this episode, I coach Kellie and address the question, “What do I do when I see my mom favoring my sister-in-law who has a personality disorder?” Although Kellie has repeatedly set boundaries with her mother that relate to her sister-in-law, Kellie’s mother has not respected those boundaries. This has left Kellie feeling like she cannot trust her mother.Kellie shares that her mother has been self-absorbed throughout Kellie’s life; that her needs often came second to her mother’s. She sees this pattern continuing by her mother choosing not to honor the boundaries Kellie has set.When a parent engages in unhealthy behavior, their child has a special closeness with them. But there is also a cost for this behavior. Kellie shares with me that she misses the closeness she used to have with her mother, but also that she is relieved to not have to pay the price any longer.Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks, browse DJH merch, and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.