40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Rick Clemons

Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age! read less

225: Harker Jones – To Find Your Passion – Just Do Something!
May 19 2023
225: Harker Jones – To Find Your Passion – Just Do Something!
So many gay men struggle to find their passion, purpose, and to be happy. But, why? It's actually quite simple. They do nothing. They try a little, don't get the quick fix, and then give up. Harker Jones has never given up, but that's not the only reason he has constantly lived in his passion. Today he reveals the other stuff he has done to stay in his creative passions, even as a gay guy over 40. About Harker Harker Jones grew up on a dirt road in Michigan in a town so small it doesn’t to this day have a traffic light. Upon completion of college he found his way to the entertainment hub of Los Angeles where, as a queer writer, he has completed the Amazon #1 best-selling gay love story Until September and nine screenplays, revealing truths through humor and horror. His short thrillers Cole & Colette and One-Hit Wonder have been accepted into 60 film festivals combined, garnering several awards. He was managing editor of Out magazine for seven years, spent two in gay porn, and worked at Disney Publishing. He’s a member of both the Los Angeles Drama Critics Circle and Mensa, loves cats and carbs and would like to be a one-hit wonder but would settle for being killed in a slasher movie. Connect With Harker Facebook Instagram Twitter Join Our Live Chats For 40+ Gay Men The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls! You can also listen to the podcast on…
224: Jon Fischer – Embracing Your Bear and Bare Self
May 12 2023
224: Jon Fischer – Embracing Your Bear and Bare Self
Our gay culture has labels for everything - Twink, Side, Daddy, Top, Otter and even Bears - Oh My. Yet, we often allow these labels to hold us back from believing we don't fit in, and even worse that we shouldn't love ourselves - just as we are. This candid conversation with Jon Fischer (Coach Cub) explores the Bear Culture and how we can be more accepting of ourselves and others in our community - regardless of the age or labels. About Jon Jon Fischer (Coach Cub) is a Board-Certified Health & Wellness coach who lives in Brooklyn, NY. He's a podcaster, and facilitator who has worked with hundreds of clients in the bear community - a niche community within the larger GBTQ community - on general wellness goals, body confidence, and self-love. He runs a group call Belly that hosts bear yoga, cuddle piles, meditation, and workshops in NYC and virtually - as well as a retreat called Camp Bear Hug in Portugal. Connect With Jon Website Facebook Instagram Upcoming Events Camp Bear Hug - Lisbon, Portugal - July 1 - 9, 2023 Camp Bear Hug, Wine and Bear - Porto, Portugal - September 3 - 10, 2023 Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
222: Jarrod Lee – Daring To Be Fit On Your Terms As A Gay Man
Apr 28 2023
222: Jarrod Lee – Daring To Be Fit On Your Terms As A Gay Man
The battle of the bulge. It confronts you everytime you sit down to eat, sneak that snack, look in the mirror - if you even look in the mirror, and all you can think is "What's the point?" The point is YOU. You are worthing of being your best self in a way that aligns with you - if you Dare. Joining me today is Jarrod Bruce Lee, founder and CEO of The Daring Academy (for gay men) - helping gay men 35+ overcome body-shame, and build incredible, fit and strong bodies - no matter their age, genes or experience.  Guys, this is truly worth a listen if you are ready to take those small but important steps towards better health as a gay guy over 40. About Jarrod Jarrod Bruce Lee is the CEO of The Daring Academy (for gay men) - helping gay men 35+ overcome body-shame, and build incredible, fit and strong bodies - no matter their age, genes or experience. Featured on Queerty, Men’s Health, as well as 300+ lives transformed, and 3,000+lbs body-fat lost - he helps gay men demolish the beliefs that they aren't "worthy" of having the bodies they want, that “it is too late for them to get fit”, that wanting to look good is “shallow”, or that they need to go on extreme diets or workout for long hours to get in shape. By simplifying fitness and nutrition, members often share that fitness has become fun, that healthy eating has become enjoyable for the first time - and that they didn’t think they could LOOK and FEEL positive changes in their bodies and selves so quickly. Whether it is fitting back into their favorite clothes, loving their new confidence in the bedroom, or having new energy to thrive throughout the day. If you'd like help with looking and feeling at your absolute best, whilst supported by gay men who understand - the best way to get in contact is to DM JarrodBruceLee directly on instagram with the message : "Gay Men Over 40 Podcast”. (Special promotion for Gay Men Over 40 - the first three men to DM this will receive a free consultation to help them succeed on their body journey) Alternatively you can also complete this free 40 point checklist - to help you identify the areas needed to turn your body-confidence and health into reality. Connect With Jarrod Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here -
221: Wil Fisher – Embracing your deeper self as a gay man
Apr 21 2023
221: Wil Fisher – Embracing your deeper self as a gay man
Instead of embracing our deeper selves as gay men, we often allow our "rejectionist mentality" to show up and turn that dimmer switch down on our life. But what would happen if you put on your drag face and became fierce to willfully live out loud as a gay man over 40. Guiding us with a open-hearted conversation about being vulnerable and allowing your shame and rejection die so that you can step into you - whether through 1:1 work or group retreats. Are you ready to dive into to your deepest self? Let's go there. About Wil Wil Fisher is best known as the host of the “Queerly Beloved” podcast, and as the founder of his life coaching business, WillFully Living. Currently residing in sunny San Diego, Wil offers healing and transformation work through one-on-one coaching, classes, and in-person retreats. Prior to his time is San Diego, Wil lived on the east coast where he received his MA in applied theater from City University of New York, and founded a company called Man Question, which offers theater-based facilitation to help folks explore their relationship to masculinity and manhood. He presented this work to a range of audiences from college universities to men at a maximum-security prison. His final acts before leaving the east coast included serving as the Executive Director of Easton Mountain, an LGBTQ Spiritual Retreat Center, and performing his solo show, "Of and On Again" a story about his relationship with gender and his drag alter ego. Heart Live Retreat Hearts Live! A retreat for GBTQ men on August 11-14th in California. Hearts Alive is a retreat for like-minded GBTQ men to come together, away from their default worlds, to reflect on their lives, connect with their hearts, do some powerful transformational work and boldly step into a more expressed and authentic version of themselves. We’ll look at the areas of our lives where we aren’t showing up in the most aligned ways and we’ll discover strategies to shift that. Our time together will be nourishing and joyful as we playfully grow connections with each other and form loving, heart-centered community. Connect With Wil Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
220: Court Vox – Sex, Intimacy, and Being Your Most Delicious Erotic Gay Self
Apr 14 2023
220: Court Vox – Sex, Intimacy, and Being Your Most Delicious Erotic Gay Self
If you are tired of shoving your sexual curiosity into the closet, then today's podcast is for you. No more need for shame around being a sexualy, erotic, intimate being. Those are all elements of who we are as human beings and those beautiful characteristics show up for all of us in different ways. Guiding us to step out of our boxes of sex, intimacy and the erotic, Certified Sex and Intimacy Coach Court Vox invites all parts of our sexual selves to the table for a delicious buffet of being sexual human beings, regardless of age, race, gender, or sexual orientation. About Court Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA . He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Body Vox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship's seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives. When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years. Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe. Explore Courts Offerings Sacred: 6 night/5 Day Retreat in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico CONNECT San Francisco: 3 Day Workshop Prysm Festival - July 21-23 Get a 25% Discount on Sensation Toys Using MEN40 Discount Code Connect With Court Website Instagram Upcoming Events Sacred Men's Retreat, San Miguel de Allende, MX: Sept 17-23 Connect San Francisco Workshop: May 5-7 Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
218: Sex, Queer, and Christian – OH MY!!! – Jon Carl Lewis
Mar 31 2023
218: Sex, Queer, and Christian – OH MY!!! – Jon Carl Lewis
Sex, queer, and Christian. For some people those three just don't go together. However, if we are made in the image of God, does that mean...??? Unraveling this interesting construct of Christianity, Sexuality, and Sex, is Jon Carl Lewis, founder of Sex & The Queer Christian community. In this candid conversation we discuss this interesting triad and how as humans we simply need to allow ourselves to be our sexy, sexual, God made selves. About Jon Carl Jon Carl Lewis is the host of Sex & the Queer Christian, a growing, sex positive community dedicated to helping LGBTQ+ folk make sexual decisions and construct a personal sexual ethic in line with their values as part of the Body of Christ. A trained and certified spiritual director, Jon Carl seeks to help Queer Christians and their allies come to peace with their sexual and relational decisions while being a blessing and a witness to the world of Christ’s radically promiscuous love. Jon Carl lives with his husband of over twenty-six years in Central Jersey where he serves as a cantor and occasional preacher at a beautifully diverse, radically affirming United Methodist congregation. Connect With Jon Carl Website Facebook Twitter Instagram   Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
216: Over 40 Fitness Hacks For Gay Men – Brad Williams
Mar 17 2023
216: Over 40 Fitness Hacks For Gay Men – Brad Williams
One of the hardest things to do as a gay guy over 40 is to accept that you are a gay guy over 40. Then add the battle of the bulge, the changing "what you can eat without putting on the pounds," and suddenly life SUCKS! Here' to guide us through some Over 40 Fitness hacks, is fellow podcaster Brad Williams, host of the Over 40 Fitness Hacks Podcast About Brad Over the last decade, Brad owned and operated three gym locations in Orange County, and oversaw 40+ independent personal trainers each with their unique training styles. He built a loyal following and sought-after client/trainer community culture within each of his gym locations. Post COVID, Brad had to focus more on online training and had started his first fitness podcast called Over 40 Fitness Hacks. He wanted the show to revolve around his passion of helping the over 40 crowd fight the aging process, while still having a social life. Connect With Brad Website Twitter Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
215: Coming Out & Losing Out – John MacDonald
Mar 10 2023
215: Coming Out & Losing Out – John MacDonald
Imagine that you have waiting all these years to finally be yourself. Over 50+ years to truthful. Finally the day comes and you feel alive and finally on your way. But wait, the universe had another road for you to tow. But does that stop you? Maybe, but as today's guest shares, avid listener John MacDonald, you're never too old to go for being your most authentic self, regardless of what roadblocks get thrown your way. About John John was never married but he has a 24 year old daughter, and has spent most his life in the closet, because coming from a small Rural Town he never imagined living as an out gay man. Finally after a my third brush with Cancer, a rare Urethral Cancer, he decide he had to come out and accept his sexuality and start living as his authentic self. That was 5 years ago and he was just getting going when he was diagnosed as having Atypical Parkinsonism. While it is challenging an adjustment to trying to meet other men when you have complex health issues, especially ones that impact your ability to perform sexually and make movement, John wants  to share his story to inspire other men to keep going. Connect With John Website Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
214: Find Your Gay Wellness Match – Peter DeWitt
Mar 3 2023
214: Find Your Gay Wellness Match – Peter DeWitt
Making your way through life as a gay man can be challenging. Then finding the right support whether that be for your mental, physical, or spiritual health can be even more challenging. Realizing this was a common issue for so many gay men, Peter DeWitt, founded Gay Wellness - a one-stop hub for finding therapists, coaches, yoga, masseurs, and much, much, more, all geared towards gay men and their unique needs. Today Peter shares his story of helping you get your gay wellness on. About Peter Peter grew up in Mexico City, Nashville, and California, and Spain, and has dedicated the last 18 years to practicing various forms of wellness modalities: yoga, meditation, somatic therapy, nutrition, and massage. He came out as a gay man in my mid-20’s, and sought out gay mentors, therapists, and wellness providers of all kinds on his own healing journey. He knows firsthand how important it is that gay men have access to other gay practitioners, as he's experienced his share of anxiety around his queer identity. This has been fuel that motivated him to create Gay Wellness - that all gay people all over the world could benefit from the same. He loves connecting with all kinds of people and loves being of service to the LGBTQ+ community! Connect With Peter Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
213: Electrifying your way out of gay male body shame – Craig Cullinane
Feb 24 2023
213: Electrifying your way out of gay male body shame – Craig Cullinane
Imagine, activating your life force by being 100% comfortable in your erotic self. Genuinely connecting your heart and your genitals in a way that makes you feel aligned, and alive in a way that is a work of love. Helping us embrace our sexual energy is Craig Cullinane, embodiment coach and former Director of the Body Electric School. Craig invites us on a journey to have a healthy relationship with pleasure without guilt and shame that so many gay men struggle with as they find their erotic soul. About Craig Craig Cullinane just completed serving as the Director of the Body Electric School for the last four years and has served on the Body Electric faculty for more than ten years. As an embodiment coach, he supports his clients in centering their most treasured desires with simple habits that translate into real results. For 6 years, Craig was the Director of Programming for Rehabilitation Through The Arts (RTA), inviting incarcerated people into a process of growth and healing through artistic expression. Craig holds a Master’s degree in Service, Leadership, and Management from the SIT Graduate Institute. Connect With Craig Website Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
210: Stroking the big “E” to get along better as a gay man – Rob Volpe
Feb 3 2023
210: Stroking the big “E” to get along better as a gay man – Rob Volpe
It's really easy to get bitchy with each other in our gay male community. Whether it is on the apps, in relationships, or when we are trying to come out. But what would happen if we worked on the big "E" and I'm not talking about erections. Instead, imagine using EMPATHY to better understand each other as gay men. Empathy Activist Rob Volpe, and author of the book Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time, shares insights on how to be more empathetic and still be your unique and powerful gay male self in a hetero male world. About Rob Rob Volpe is an astute observer of life and a master storyteller who brings empathy and compassion to the human experience. As CEO of Ignite 360, he leads a team of insights, strategy, and creative professionals serving the world’s leading brands across a range of industries. He is the author of Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time. As a thought leader in the role of empathy in marketing and the workplace, he is a contributor to Entrepreneur’s Leadership Network and frequently speaks on the topic at conferences, corporations, colleges, podcasts and with the media. He is a graduate of Syracuse University’s S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications and lives in San Francisco with his husband and 3 cats. Connect With Rob Website Facebook Instagram Twitter LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…
208: Gay Men’s Get Out of Debt Guide – David and John Auten-Schneider
Jan 20 2023
208: Gay Men’s Get Out of Debt Guide – David and John Auten-Schneider
Debt. Most Americans, and many, many, many gay men have it. Why? Because we want to live a fabulous life and then we end up fabulously in debt. No fun at all. I know. Been there done that a couple of times. So how do you manage all this and do it with fabulous gay style? Call on the Debt Free Guys - David and John - hosts of the Queer Money Podcast. So let's talk money guys and see what we can do to get you on track and having a powerful relationship with money. About David & John With their writing and speaking for DebtFreeGuys.com and Queer Money® podcast, David & John Auten-Schneider help queer people (and allies) live fabulously not fabulously broke. As certified LGBTBEs, they are the queer voice in both personal and business finances. David and John’s work has appeared on Forbes, Yahoo!Finance, NBC’s Squawk Box and The News with Sheppard Smith, ABC News, Rachel Ray Show and Good Morning America to name a few. They’ve partnered with some of the best in financial services, including Capital One, Experian, MassMutual, American Express, Prudential. They’ve partnered with some of the best LGBTQ+ organizations including, The Trevor Project, Callen-Lorde, The William Way Foundation, One Colorado and LGBTQ+ centers nationwide. Their goal is to connect LGBTQ+ people with the information and tool they need to reach financial security. Connect With David & John Website Podcast Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…