It's the simple things that make you attractive.  With everything factored in ,  you will have a dating life tailored to you.  No one mans connection is the same nor should it be.  You live your life, you attract who you attract depending on your personality and genetic position.  There will be women you will mesh with effortlessly without trying to impress and do magic tricks.   These are the women you should cater towards.  There are men who are average who do very well,  because looks isn't everything,  it certainly helps but you must also take into account personality,  confidence,  potential,  self love,  good vibes,  even just having a similar background as certain women can help their attraction towards you.   A variety of factors beyond looks contribute to attraction.  It doesn't mean you should discard looking your best.  That is always a plus.