“What you are doing as you do this work is you're bringing online an aspect of you that has been in atrophy.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  Our minds are all about patterns. We are naturally wired to respond to anything and everything we encounter with the survival instinct that will keep us safe. On the contrary, our intuition has a mind of its own. Intuition is that wild idea you have that seems risky and nonsensical. Intuition is that fun adventure that popped up that seems ridiculous and even dangerous to try. Intuition is that voice that many of us are taught to basically silence, but it has so much to tell us if we listen.That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing the challenges, the importance, and the characteristics of a journey towards understanding and listening to your intuition more frequently. It’s an invaluable skill that we’ve constantly been indirectly taught to ignore by society. Tune in to this conversation to learn about possible challenges you’ll face as well as tools to help you further fine-tune your ear for your inner-intuition’s voice. “Just because we can’t verify something today scientifically, doesn’t mean it’s outside of the realm of reality.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Personal development and intuition work is largely about reawakening your child-like inner-self.Listening to your intuition will seem like it doesn't make any sense to your logical brain at first.When things don't go right, it's often when we aren't operating from a relaxed state.Most beautiful things in life happen “over the edge.”The mind’s job is to keep you alive so it will naturally go against your risky intuition.Growth is rarely comfortable.When we're dealing with difficulty and discomfort, the mind is often the one producing that.“The irony is that when you actually quiet yourself down is when the world gets loudest for you.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“What I learned is that if you feed your largest organ food, it heals.” - Trina Felber(click to tweet)  Do you love your skin? Do you take care of it? Most of us are probably pretty comfortable with saying they take decent care of their skin. The problem is that we are sold mainstream products that aren’t actually that healthy for our skin and riddled with dangerous ingredients. So even if we have a good regimen, it can be even better!That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Trina Felber, the founder and Creator of Primal Life Organics. She’s a dental health and natural skincare expert, Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist and a mother of three.  Tune in to this conversation to learn about Trina’s company Primal Life Organics to learn about treating your skin with the food it needs.You can learn more about Trina and her company here: https://www.primallifeorganics.com/“Everything comes down to cellular activity.” - Trina Felber(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:You may think you are stuck in your career, but look at it as a stepping stone.Commercial skincare products are harsh on your cells.When water evaporates from your skin it also dries out the natural oils your skin needs.Skincare and hygiene projects should improve the health of your body, not just make it appear healthier.Brushing your teeth with mineral based products such as Trina’s product “Dirty Mouth Tooth Powder” rather than fluoride helps your teeth revitalize.Dehydrated skin will expedite the wrinkling process.Think “skin-food” instead of “skincare.”“When I create products, I look at what I want the product to do in terms of healing the body.” - Trina Felber(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I understood that what I am inside is not what I showed to the world… because that’s the weird thing about delusion. You do not know that aren’t seeing the right picture.” - Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani(click to tweet)  Have you ever felt like you’re constantly chasing something more? You checked off your boxes, you’ve crossed off your list and you’ve reached your financial goals. Yet, for some reason you still feel a void. What is that about?It’s normal for us to put our self-worth and value in milestones and tangible accomplishments. It’s what the world tells us to do. But once we reach those goals and still feel unfulfilled, why doesn’t the world tell us what to do then? Suddenly we don’t know what to do. Yet, the people around us think we’ve got it all figured out. Surely something is wrong with us...Right?Well, believe it or not, life is about more than success stories. Therefore, maybe there’s some inner work for each of us to do. That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Life Philosopher and Co-Founder of Mindvalley, Kristina Mänd Lakhiani to discuss authenticity and the way it affects us and others around us.Tune in to this conversation to learn what we might encounter in life as we begin stripping away layers of our facades and coming to know our true selves.You can learn more about Kristina in the links below.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand Instagram: @kristinamand  Website: www.kristinamand.com“I was just trying to understand who I am. And when I did, the beautiful facade of my life completely crumbled and fell into pieces.” - Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Even people who have “made it” can be teachable. Many incredibly “successful” people tend to be driven by a feeling of “not enough-ness.”Achieving careers or wealth are only bandaids to the real personal development that gets to be done.Looking at only your faults that need to be fixed is an unhealthy habit.Masks are appropriate and necessary sometimes. The problem comes when we start to rely on them. Sometimes we have to admit hard things to ourselves that might go against society’s tradition.It’s inevitable that being your authentic self might hurt people you love.  “There will be the moment when you’ll have to communicate, to the world and to the people you love the most, something which might hurt them. And you will still have to be true to that.” - Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“To me, an artist is someone who translates their creative energy into tangible form.” - Adam Roa(click to tweet) So many of us are often told “you have potential.” We’re given platitudes of our “could-be” future but not all of us are given personal development tools to help us reach that potential. It can be frustrating to always feel like you aren’t where you could be. Well, what if there was a way we could take more of the driver-seat approach to life? What if we could stop letting life happen to us and allow us to happen to life?On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by the multi-talented, touring spoken-word artist, author, motivational speaker, filmmaker and life coach Adam Roa. Adam tours the world opening the minds of many by artistically sharing his message to resonate with people at the core. The result? Many changed lives.Tune in to this conversation to hear how Adam is using his art and life experiences to help people change their own reality. Also, stay tuned to grasp knowledge and wisdom that will lead you down the path of changing your own life too!You can learn more about Adam at his website https://www.adamroa.com/The Cliff Notes:There’s a difference between understanding art on a logical level versus feeling the experience emotionally. Art allows us to glorify and admire the things we see as mundane.Our fear to embrace our uniqueness is a biological result of our ancestors’ survival instincts.People often act in patterned behavior rather than conscious intention.Everyone is essentially loving themselves in the best way they know how. Forgiveness is an act of self-love, but not an act of condoning.Seeing our enemies with compassion is an act of self-love.Generational genetic trauma can be broken by the work of healing. When you make changes in your own life, you give others access to new possibilities.Growth is not linear. Growth is an upward spiral.“Anything that you can imagine for your life right now is a limitation.” - Adam Roa(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“It's about realizing who one is without the mask that one has negotiated a reality through.” - Paul Selig(click to tweet)  Purpose is ultimately the goal that most of use live our lives for. We want to find out why we're here and we want to find our meaning. We search everywhere for purpose, but sometimes we are unaware that it’s already being fulfilled. That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Paul Selig, an incredibly wise and well respected author of spiritual guidance literature. Paul Selig is considered to be one of the foremost spiritual channels working today. In his breakthrough works of channeled literature, I Am the Word, The Book of Love and Creation, The Book of Knowing and Worth, The Book of Mastery, The Book of Truth and The Book of Freedom, author and medium Paul Selig has recorded an extraordinary program for personal and planetary evolution as humankind awakens to its own divine nature.Paul was born in New York City and received his master’s degree from Yale. A spiritual experience in 1987 left him clairvoyant. As a way to gain a context for what he was beginning to experience he studied a form of energy healing and began to “hear” for his clients. Described as “a medium for the living,” Paul has the unique ability to step-into and “become” the people his clients ask about, often taking on their personalities and physical characteristics as he “hears” them telepathically. Paul’s work has been featured on ABC News Nightline, Fox News, the Biography Channel series The UneXplained, Gaim TV’s Beyond Belief and the documentary film PGS: Your Personal Guidance System. He has appeared on numerous radio shows and podcasts including Coast to Coast AM with George Noory and Bob Olson’s Afterlife TV.Paul offers channeled workshops internationally and serves on the faculty of The Omega Institute, The Kripalu Center and the Esalen Institute. Also a noted educator, he served on the faculty of NYU for over 25 years. He directed the MFA in Creative Writing Program at Goddard College for many years, and he now serves on the college’s Board of Trustees. He lives in New York City where he maintains a private practice as an intuitive and conducts frequent live-stream seminars.Tune in to this conversation to journey into the vividly profound and eye-opening experience that we had the pleasure of interviewing him about.You can learn more about Paul at his website www.paulselig.com “The guides say the action of fear is to claim more fear and every choice you make in fear gets you more of the same.” - Paul Selig(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:"Guides" are there to help us navigate our journey and life.Self-realization allows you to be without fear.We are constantly fulfilling a purpose even when we're completely oblivious to it.You are not defined by your career. Your purpose does not rely on your occupation.If we are looking for what could be called God, we need not look anywhere but in front of us because God is in all things.When we view all things and people as interconnected by a source, we experience life more vividly.Sometimes what we think we want has the potential to derail us from a better journey.“I don't know what there is to aspire to once we understand that all we really have is right now anyway.” - Paul Selig(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I find it to be of paramount importance that you first have to lead.” - Guy and Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) We’ve previously discussed aspects of parenting in our podcast on episode titled “Don’t Make Parenting Harder Than It Needs To Be,” but we all know parenting is forever a learning process. There is so much to take into account when we are dealing with the changes in culture from our generation to theirs. Although we all have our own styles of parenting, there are some tools that can help any parent begin the process of building healthy or healthier relationships with our children. That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we’ll be diving into practices that could potentially change your entire experience of raising a family. Tune in to this episode as well as episode 174 to begin either developing a better relationship with your child or preparing yourself if you plan to have children in the future!“At the end of the day, I don’t care how amazing of a household you create and how good you are as parents… They’re receiving reality through their own filters and constructs.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Unconscious parenting is when you try to get your children to live the life you wish you lived.Conscious parenting is about nourishing your child to flourish in whatever direction they’re gravitated to.Your children are constantly watching and imitating the way you act and react to life.Competition is a culture that the new generations are seemingly detaching from.When we get frustrated at our children, it’s important to ask ourselves why we responded that way.To ask your child for forgiveness when you make mistakes is to show them that you are just as human as they are.Instead of being a parent to only tell your children what to do, consider being a parent that grows with your children. When children see that you’re unwilling to grow, they will imitate that behavior.“I think the new generation is seeking cooperation over competition.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“If the internal voice is calm and consistent, it’s much more likely your intuition.” - David Solomon(click to tweet) One of the most valuable things to possess is purpose. Decisions, relationships, career choices, and much more usually tend to become much more meaningful and beneficial when we can attribute them to a purpose in our lives. Although many of us know that having purpose is valuable and beneficial, it can be difficult to discern whether our actions and decisions are guided by purposeful intuition, or just emotional reaction to a circumstance. The ability to trust your intuition is not something that is automatic. It takes practice, experimentation and time. That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by David Solomon, a seasoned Shaman, coach, healer and researcher, to discuss the invaluable skill of intuition. In this episode you will gain tools that you can practice to learn how to discern which of your inner voices to listen to in your life journey. Tune in to this conversation to take yet another invaluable step towards becoming more and more aligned with yourself and your journey.You can learn more about and connect with David through the links below:www.magicalgoldenage.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/davidmagicsolomon/https://www.facebook.com/DavidMagicSolomon“If we honor our intuition, it usually gets louder and if we don’t, it becomes more silent.” - David Solomon(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Intuition is your calm consistent internal voice, not your frantic, emotional and impulsive voice.Experiment with your internal dialogue to learn how to discern your intuition.Often the frantic voice is the defensive one that tries to protect you from vulnerability.When trying to discern you internal dialogue, journal the two voices and start to look for patterns over time.A useful follow-up tool to this discernment is giving these voices distinct names and identities.All of your internal voices involved have a unique purpose.Trusting your intuition is a skill that takes time and practice.“When a voice tells you to do something and you’re wondering if it’s your intuition, if you just keep asking why, you can often get to the core root of it.” - David Solomon(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“The perfect combination of chaos and stability creates growth.” - Dr. Allen Bittaker(click to tweet)  Physical pain is one of the main forms of communication that we listen to in our bodies. It grabs our attention immediately and sometimes we can’t manage to take our attention away from it once it’s there. It communicates that something is going on that the body is not used to and that you need to be made aware of it. And although pain is what we are most familiar with in terms of our body telling us something, it’s not the only thing our bodies tell us.Our body communicates with us in numerous ways that take time and mindfulness to become aware of. Thankfully there are practices that help us do just that: listen to our own body language. That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Allen Bittaker, a skilled chiropractor who practices a nontraditional technique called Network Spinal technique which integrates both mind and body to release tense energies that the body might have deposited. Tune in to this conversation to grasp concepts of becoming more in-tune with practices that help you listen to your body and release energy that needs to be relinquished.  You can learn more about Allen Bittaker here:https://www.facebook.com/pg/Dr.allen.bittaker/services/“This world is made up of language whether it’s spoken or not.” - Dr. Allen Bittaker(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Chiropractic is a practice of physical and spiritual merging.A crucial part of growth and release is less forcing and more allowing of the self to grow.Rolfing is a practice that reorganizes and restructure the fascia in the body.The philosophy of pain being crucial to growth isn’t necessarily valid. Growth can be effortless.The human body contains far more microbes than it does cells.A big part of our anxiety is that we run from it too often rather than sit with it.Talking out the things that come up for you are crucially therapeutic.Human beings make decisions but rarely make choices.“A rule for me is to listen to what I say because when I say things, that’s my truth.” - Dr. Allen Bittaker(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“If you are looking for someone to tell you what to do, then I would offer that what you are looking for is not a coach. What you are looking for is a crutch.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  So many of us waste so much time staying intimidated by what life could have in store for us. Some of us have career dreams, relationship dreams or financial dreams but we always tell ourselves “someday” because we’re waiting for the right time. Well what if we stopped waiting for someday arrive? What if we finally started to move in harmony with our lives towards the growth we really want? Well we offer coaching on just that! On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, join us as we discuss guidance questions from some of our listeners. We’ll be going in-depth into the different parts of us that, as human beings, hold us back from the growth that so many of us desire. If you constantly find yourself wondering why you haven’t made the progress you’d hoped to make in life, or why it feels like you keep cycling back to the same space you started at, no matter what you do to try changing your life, then this is the episode for you. Tune in to this conversation to digest some invaluable nuggets of wisdom which are just morsels of what you could gain by signing up to join our coaching program! “It’s not about having the right decision forever.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Our job is not to give you the answers of what you “should do.”When you look for people to tell you what you should do, you are really looking to place the responsibilities of your actions on someone else.What’s more important than knowing whether a tradition is “right” is knowing whether it’s right for us.You are capable of things beyond your wildest dreams.The punishment you give yourself after a mistake is usually the same type of punishment you used to receive as a child.Simply understanding the source of your obstacles does not automatically solve your obstacles.Stop letting your life be dictated by your fears.Take a risk of saying yes to an opportunity that can make the difference you truly want.Stop waiting for “someday” because that day never comes. Take the risk now.“The only thing standing in the way of your greatness is you.”- Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“It’s all so temporal. Nothing is here to stick forever. It will stick forever if you are the one holding it in place.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  Going through changes, pain and discomfort are all just parts of life. Everyone experiences them and everyone relates to them. Some have more significant effects on us than others. But what if we could look at it all from a bigger picture? If nothing else, there’s one thing that we can take away from every uncomfortable experience that we have, and it’s that those moments are trying to get our attention. But the type of attention we give it is what makes all the difference! We can either fight it, or we can receive it as an opportunity to gain knowledge of our circumstances.On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we’ll be discussing the way in which we often are inclined to be impatient with our discomfort rather than sitting with it and asking an important question, “What is this experience trying to tell me?” Tune in to this conversation to learn how to look deeper into your experiences and integrate them into your growth rather than fight them.“Structures work for a period of time, and then as we evolve, the structure stops having any validity.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Meet every experience of pain, joy and everything in between with a loving embrace of peace.Focusing on expectations from others can detract from our growth process.Sometimes old structures need to be dismantled and rebuilt.If we get stuck on the momentary discomfort, we miss the bigger picture.Like modern technology, our systems go through upgrades. It’s not instant and it takes time and patience.How can you give love, patience and grace to somebody if you're not giving it to yourself?Tiredness can come from trying too hard to manage and your system to feel a certain way.Transformation is unique for each person and there is no right way for it to happen. Pain isn't there to tell you to fix it, it's there to let you know that something requires your attention.“Every single cell in your body is constantly regenerating, so if you come from that mindset around your body, you also do that with the emotional stuff as well.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) “You’re never gonna be sad forever, you’re never gonna be frustrated forever, you’re never gonna be happy forever.” - Guy & Ilan FerdmanLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I'm always figuring it out. I never feel like I have the ultimate answer.” - Guy & Ilan Feldman(click to tweet)  Parenting is HARD. It’s a continuous journey of growth and development for all parties involved. But most of you already know that sometimes it’s lovely and sometimes it’s messy.Imagine if there were ways we could effectively help our relationships flow more harmoniously with our children. We are so caught up in the act of “parenting” that we feel the need to always tell our kids what to do, how to behave and who they should be as a person. But what if that isn’t what it’s really meant to be about? What if it’s really all about energy?Well on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we’ll be diving into the ways in which our energy affects our kids. Ultimately, parenting is an invaluable personal development feedback system that often gets completely overlooked. Tune in to this conversation to learn how you can turn your parenthood into a partnership with your children rather than a war.“How can we actually start to have a vision of our kids as the greatest guides for us?”- Guy & Ilan Feldman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Your children are your greatest asset to personal growth.Our triggers are always from the same core of us, no matter where or when they happen.Discipline the child from a vantage point of 10 years from now, not just for the present moment. An overbearing parent is usually a fear-driven parent.There's usually a "conscious parent" and an "autopilot parent" at war within each individual.It's very human to occasionally feel shame or remorse for your style of parenting.If we allow ourselves to feel safe and at ease, we involuntarily help our kids feel safe and at ease. We have such a limited time with our children before they move on and grow up, so why waste so much time being upset with them?“A teacher doesn't tell you what to do or how to think, they tell you where to look.” - Guy & Ilan Feldman(click to tweet) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“There’s an endless number of ways to make money, but there’s not an endless number of ways to make money that will make you really happy.” - Frankie Fihn(click to tweet) Life is always a journey no matter where you are, what you do, or who you know. Sadly, we often lose sight of our journey because we are conditioned to focus on the dollar.It’s no secret that money doesn’t buy happiness. But as Robert Kanell said in a previous episode, “Having money helps, but it’s just a tool.”That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Frankie Fihn to talk about finding the journey that is meant for you. Frankie is the entrepreneur behind many businesses like Sacred Plant Retreat—and in today’s episode, he unpacks the lifestyle that keeps you aligned with your purpose rather than a lifestyle overly focused on monetary gain. Tune in to this conversation to go deeper within and gain tools and knowledge that will help you figure out what you really want out of life. You can learn more about Frankie and Sacred Plant Retreats here“When work feels like work you’re going to have such a hard time moving the boulder. When work feels like play, you’re going to be so much better off.” - Frankie Fihn(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Knowing your purpose in your career is so much more important than just making a lot of money.Find what you are actually good at. Find what you enjoy. Find who you can serve and what they need.Look at business as a collaborative effort rather than a capitalist mindset.If we find the right questions to ask, we’ll know how to find the right answers.Your plan B career can fail just as much as plan A so you may as well invest in plan A.Recognize that some entrepreneurs can succeed by risking it all and putting all eggs in one basket, and other may succeed by slowly developing their business on the side of their day job. Having a voice of doubt is natural. Rather than trying so hard to resist and silence it, just learn to sit with it. Let it pass and know that they are just thoughts and you don’t have to agree with them.“What the world really needs is for you to innovate your gifts in a new way.” - Frankie Fihn(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“In full divine union with myself, I could therefore see divine union beloveds everywhere.” - Marci Lock(click to tweet) It’s common for us to struggle with identity, self image, and life experience. We get caught up in our imperfections and become uneasy in situations that are unfamiliar. One of the things many of us are missing is presence. It’s not taught to us in our childhood—that we are allowed to love the parts of ourselves that may seem like they are not yet deserving. Instead, we are taught that we must work and strive and fight to “get there.” Not the opposite—just to be. On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Marci Lock to discuss what being fully human is really about. Marci Lock is a sought-after mentor and change agent to global influencers, worldwide game-changing business owners and high producing leaders in living an epic life in all aspects. Tune in to this conversation to learn how you can begin your own journey!You can learn more about Marci Lock here“You can say you’ve experienced love throughout your life, but it’s been love based on human experience…with attachments, expectations, conditionality…” - Marci Lock(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:It’s not about “having it all” but rather being at peace in every experience.We often serve those around us because we feel the need to look like a “good person” in somebody’s eyes.We spend so much time trying to find our identity in a practice, profession or people group. Instead, we should find our identity within ourselves that is independent of external things.Being in complete wholeness and self-acceptance is a form of service to the world. There is no need to “get there.” What we need is to realize we are already “there” and focus on being fully with ourselves.Love yourself from such a place of self acceptance that you can receive support and accept the times you need it.Do you/can you allow yourself to love the parts of your being that make you uncomfortable?“When we just [be] in our fullest love in light of who we are, you’re not affected by the environment you go into, you bring the light and illumination to the environment.” - Marci Lock(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“How can you love others if you’re not truly loving yourself?” - Robert Kandell (click to tweet)  Do you feel unhappy with your life right now?Despite others telling you that you’ve achieved success in your career, finances, relationships and other areas, do you still somehow feel unfulfilled?If so, perhaps you aren’t living in YOUR success. You may possess the fortune that society tells you is the dream—but deep down, is it actually YOUR dream? Maybe you know that there is something truly ingrained in you that you desire—but it has been neglected for the sake of achieving the status quo.That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by bestselling author, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and life coach—Robert Kandell—to talk about what might cause us to feel empty despite our “success.”  Tune in to this conversation to learn a few tools that will help you discover whether you are really living the authentic life that you seek out to live.  You can learn more about Robert Kandell here: robertkandell.com“How can you fully be on service to the universe if you’re not taking care of your own needs?.” - Robert Kandell(click to tweet)The Cliff Notes:Ask yourself: What does it really mean to be a man today?Men need to wake up and pay attention to realize what they need to do to be better partners.Due to the dynamic of societal privilege, it’s common for men to feel like they aren’t allowed to feel unfulfilled with their careers and fortune even if they really are.CONFRONT yourself and honestly ask, “Am I really happy with myself in life right now?”INVESTIGATE the issues in your life. We all have some unhealthy behaviors in our life. What is causing them and how can we address them?COMMIT to a change in your lifestyle. Commit to self improvement.It is almost impossible to solve the deeper issues driving our unhealthy behaviors without the help of others.When you truly discover and declare what it really is that brings you fulfillment, nobody will be able to successfully argue against you,.“Invest in yourself first to build your foundation, and then have your life expand around it.” - Robert Kandell (click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  It’s safe to say that the majority of us have an ideal life that we would like to achieve. Some people want better physical health, some have career goals, and others may have mental and emotional health goals. Well, these all have one thing in common:They require COMMITMENT.They require TIME.They require PATIENCE.The problem is—there are so many of us that run away from those words. We want it here and now. We want it yesterday. We don’t have time for the research, the routines, the goal-setting, the nuance. We only have time for the results. Right? Well, good luck. That’s not going to last.That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are discussing the CRUCIAL importance of getting rid of the “I want it now” mindset. It creates unhealthy patterns that don’t help us sustain healthy goals. To get the life you truly want, you must really learn to love and commit to the long-term journey of getting there. Tune in to this conversation to learn why you NEED to stop trying to find shortcuts to mastery and really develop the healthy habit of looking at your dreams and goals from a long term perspective. Be committed to the process rather than the product.“Nothing is about finding the ‘right pill’. It’s about finding a lifestyle that works for you and continues to make you feel good.”- Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Master cleansing is a 10-day regimen of taking in only water, lemon juice, maple syrup and cayenne pepper.A master cleanse is NOT a weight-loss cheat code.Society is too stuck in a short-cut mindset. There is no shortcut to mastery.Honest ask yourself: “Have I ever really found a shortcut to mastery?” Most likely not.When you want to change your patterns, you aren’t only making a conscious decision, you are battling with years of subconscious development. Working with a coach is imperative to becoming aware of habits that are a byproduct of your subconscious. Habits that you cannot see yourself.“There are no ****ing shortcuts.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Relax so that you’re really at your best and you can really feel what’s aligned for you so you can take the best action.” - Eric James(click to tweet)  It’s not uncommon for us to experience our lives and even our physical bodies in dissonance. We wonder why circumstances in life seem to work against us, or we feel like our body isn’t operating in its best state for us to perform well at our tasks. Well all of that could actually be a consequence of the way we are used to approaching life. Perhaps our actions aren’t in alignment with the path we have set before us. Perhaps, our body is misbehaving on a cellular & molecular level that way are oblivious of?Today on Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by the wonderful entrepreneur Eric James. We discuss mindsets and practices that can help us get more out of our lives. One of which being red light therapy which studies have shown help our bodies interact more accurately and efficiently with the energy that surrounds us. Tune in to this conversation to learn about approaching life from a spiritually and biologically more balanced state of being.“I really understand that it does not change how I feel at all. It does not make me more fulfilled or happier to have more money.” - Eric James(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:We should live life and take risks as if we are certain that things will eventually work out.   The universe is ultimately always performing a balancing act within itself.When we act from a neutral place rather than a place of resistance, we can allow life’s opportunities to unfold.Sometimes taking the right actions aligned with your path will cause your logical mind to push back and tell you that it’s foolish.Red light therapy allows mitochondria to be cleansed and function more efficiently.Light deficiency is a problem in today’s society that causes the body’s cell function to be compromised. Rather than spending all of our energy trying to feel better, we should focus on getting better at feeling.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“You can be in a room with hundreds of people and still feel alone.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  One of the most common issues in relationships is communication.Often, during heated disagreements, we have a tendency to start behaving in patterns that our system has developed as a defense mechanism over time. Some of us use anger as our outlet, while others use withdrawal or silence. But all of these defense patterns come from an internal need that feels neglected. Our hurtful reactions to one another are a result of not knowing how to check in with ourselves during heightened emotions.That’s why on today's episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are sharing a coaching call with one of our clients—a couple going through the very familiar struggle of being a harmonious, coexisting unit.  Tune in to this conversation to hear Guy & Ilan’s tips and tricks for navigating relationship dissonance.  “The first thing to realize is that everyone’s just trying to get their needs met.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)The Cliff Notes:Combat aggression and anger with soft-spoken passivity. Trying to communicate in the midst of reactionary behavioral patterns is almost a waste of time.Only allow yourselves to discuss disagreements when both of you are rested and centered.Make a commitment in your relationship to designate self-care days.Get in touch with what part of your inner childhood-self is hurting during trigger moments.At the end of the day, all we are seeking is to connect with each other.When do you feel love, acceptance and support in your relationship? When do you not?Check in with your system with compassion when you find yourself beginning to react in your unhealthy patterns.“People come together to heal their parts because, inevitably, what we are attracted to is what didn’t get completed with our parents” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“The energy of resistance is the second most powerful energy to manifest something.” - Guy &  Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  It’s human nature to worry.And typically, it has nothing to do whether our situation feels good or bad. When we’re stressed, we worry that we’re stressed. And when we experience happiness, we worry that we’re not experiencing it more. Our tendency to respond with negative emotions carries energy behind it that we need to deeply understand before we can overcome it effectively.That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we’re jumping on a live call to discuss why we self-sabotage and what we can do to understand the energy behind it. We all know self-sabotage is ultimately unhealthy, so why do we keep doing it? Tune in to this conversation to learn ways to navigate our negative response patterns to the reality that continues to unfold around us.“Your opinion does not matter about how reality is unfolding. It’s just gonna keep on unfolding.” - Guy &  Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Changing “I have to” to “I get to” allows us to open up.When you put your head down at night, do you feel complete with your day?When situations are going too well, your system is triggered to believe it won’t last.Understand that your old patterns don’t want to disappear.Enjoy the show of reality unfolding, rather than trying to develop opinions about it. Become the parents your parents never were for your inner child.Our problems are rooted in childhood traumas rising up seeking resolution. “It’s not about the action that you take in this world, it’s about the quality of the energy behind the action.” - Guy &  Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“You can build the sexiest, most amazing car in the world. But if you don’t have the right fuel, you aren’t going anywhere.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet)  We have to get things done. Our jobs, our relationships, our classes—at each step in the road, a to-do list forms, and we spend our time checking off the items. But often times, the tasks don’t get accomplished, and we then are left wondering why. It turns out that, more often than not, this is due to a lack of energy and awareness in the approach. That’s why on today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are jumping in a live call to discuss the difference between masculine and feminine energies. So often, in our lives and careers, we find ourselves leaning to one side more than the other—even when we know the real magic lies in balancing the two forces.  Tune in to this conversation to learn how to elegantly walk the tightrope of masculine and feminine energy! "There's not a right or wrong way to do anything." - Guy & Ilan Ferdman(click to tweet) The Cliff Notes:Understand that neither masculine nor feminine energy is better than the other.Most people don’t feel safe enough to take action. You’ll reach the next thing by investing time in anything you’re moved towards. Tune in to what feels good right now, because that’s the only thing you can see. Create goals that excite and motivate, rather than induce stress. In general, the things the most disturb us in the external world are the things that we least like about ourselvesOur bodies are metabolic machines, taking energy and moving it through the system.Every challenge you experience is your system’s way of trying to solve childhood trauma.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Parenting is a self-improvement project in disguise.” - Lisa Howe(click to tweet)  Parenting is the greatest ask.  You have to raise children to be their best selves, by providing unconditional love and support. In theory, this makes sense—but when the realities of life get pressed against the stressors of child-bearing, it can be hard to see the picture clearly. That’s why self-regulation is so important. If we’re not taking care of ourselves, then we cannot expect to take care of another human being. On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by social worker—Lisa Howes—to discuss the best parenting strategies. Over the past 25 years, Lisa has helped children and families navigate the complex hurdles that come with being part of a family unit.  Tune in to this conversation to learn how to approach parenting from a place of curiosity, so you start to learn from your children. You can learn more about Lisa Howe at becomingpeaceful.com“All relationships improve with connection and vulnerability.” - Lisa Howe(click to tweet)  The Cliff Notes:Read more about Dr. Markham’s Aha! Parenting here. Peaceful parenting boils down to being kind and firm.Research shows that just 5 deep breaths can slow your thinking to a point of response.A meditation practice for 8 weeks will shrink the amygdala, lowering your flight-fight response.When emotionally triggered—stop, drop, and breathe (where ‘drop’ means ‘to drop your agenda.’)Understand that in almost every case, there is never an emergency.Treat your children as your master teachers, so they grow up not believing you’re infallible. Read The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. The way you create your children is the way they end up.Our thoughts create our feelings, and those feelings create our beliefs.Find the solution by articulating what you love about your child.“If a child is having a meltdown—it’s not our job to stop it. It’s our job to help them through it.” - Lisa Howe(click to tweet)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.