323: My 6-Month No Shopping Update

08-02-2023 • 28 mins

Are you aware that the #1 reason why people shop is based on emotion? Yes. Emotional shopping is a thing!

Welcome to today’s episode of the ‘School of Self-Image’ Podcast with host and self-image coach, Tonya Leigh, where personal development meets style. This is a go-to podcast for women who desire to transform their self-image so that they can create mind-blowing results in their lives.

Style is my life, so obviously shopping was part of my idently. If you’re listening to this podcast, you know that I’m currently detoxing from shopping. I decided to challenge myself for 6 months. No shopping. Period.

4 months have passed and to tell you honestly, I’m still struggling. I have a bunch of pushback from myself and the people around me. I never really felt the "pressuer" before now. Is it culteral? It is an addiction? Is it a comfort or a way to fit in? I am learning so much from saying no to shopping for six month and learning a lot about myself that I am excited to share. And today, I can finally say that shopping is not everything to me! Yes, you heard that right!

So if you’re up for this challenge and too curious about what it can do in your life, join me and listen to this week’s episode!

What I Cover In This Episode:

0:00 - Intro

0:35 - Life update!

2:30 - Reasons why you should focus on things you have control with

3:20 - What’s God's plan?

3:43 - SOSI: Figuring out what’s working and what’s not for you

7:53 - Takeaway #1: Some of your friends would think you’re crazy.

9:49 - Takeaway #2: Have a plan when you’re experiencing struggles to break a habit.

11:37 - Takeaway #3: Energy is everything.

12:34 - Takeaway #4: The bigger the challenge, the more likely you might fall along the way.

17:01 - Takeaway #5: Some of your spending decisions come from luck and scarcity.

18:31 - Takeaway #6: Keep your why in front of you.

19:38 - Takeaway #7: It feels good to honor your own words and commitment to the future.

21:56 - Takeaway #8: How to separate abundance from spending.

24:15 - Takeaway #9: It gives me time to realize what my future needs are.

25:38 - Takeaway #10: You learn to maximize the things you already have.

26:51 - Takeaway #11: A space for investing and appreciating assets more.

Quotes:

“ … I've remained calm. I'm staying focused. I'm dealing with the things that I can manage and control and letting everything else go because there's nothing I can do about it.”

“When you're in a state of worry, when you're in a state of stress, one of the things that help me is I write everything down that I'm worried about, and I create two lists, on one side, it's my list, and I move things to that side that I can influence, manage, control with my actions.”

“Listen, you all know I love beautiful clothes. I love style. I think the style has the ability to transform your life. However, I also know that we can have excuses and sabotage ourselves in the name of certain things, in the name of style, in the name of money, in the name of whatever.”

“You have to keep your 'why' in front of you.”

“Everybody was shopping, some people were buying things. I was so happy to just look. I did not feel at all. I was missing out. In fact, I felt like I was getting so much because visually I was so just happy. I was also happy knowing, number one, that I was honoring my commitment, even though I saw beautiful things. I was like, ‘Ooh, that looks like me, but not today.’ That felt good just knowing I was honoring my word and my commitment. Then it also felt good to know that I was investing in my future. By not spending money mindlessly, that money is going to exist in my future. Therefore, I'm investing in my future. “

“I think the best way to create your goal is to appreciate where you are right now because that is the energy of your future. You need to be practicing it now. But for me, the abundance that I've been feeling from this no-shopping challenge is about appreciating what I already have.”

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