How did the Wives come up with "Use Your Words" and do they follow their own advice?  Do the Wives still play on the second date?  Does Kat still use her Bedazzler before each theme party? What other stories and advice from Season 1 is still true and what has changed? In this episode, Ams and Kat reflect on Season 1: the good, the bad and the silly.  The Wives developed the idea of the podcast while in COVID lockdown, thinking if they can't play, why not talk about it in front of a microphone! They discuss how their play style has changed over time and discuss the definition of a demisexual and demisexuality.  They also share behind the scenes details on the recording and production process of the podcast. Now is a great time to re-listen to Season 1 while you wait for Season 4 to launch. Links to episodes from Season 1: 2HotWives Use Their Words 2HotWives Hit the Dating Scene 2HotWives Get to Play All About Erotica! (aka: The Wives Turbo Charge Their Sex Drive and Level Up Their Fantasies Through Sexy Stories) Impact Play (aka: This will only hurt a little bit) Triggers (aka: When Rough Sex Triggers Bad Feels) Sexy Dress Up Role Play the 2HotWives Way

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Unicorn Threesomes.  Unicorns, you say?  But unicorns are single women in the lifestyle and the 2HotWives are…wives!  Well, even though Ams and Kat are not unicorns, they can still be “guest stars” in a threesome. But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Apple Pom Spritz!  All you need is some apple cider, pomegranate syrup, and a little cannabis tincture! Mix one up while listening to Ams share her sexy experience landing a hot, bi bro. And wait, there are pictures involved?!?  Next, the Wives explore what it means to have a Unicorn Threesome. Unicorn threesomes are just any old threesome, it’s a chance to be welcomed as the cherished “third” in a couple’s fantasy.  While not every woman can be a unicorn, they can be the special guest in a threesome!     Why is it interesting to explore?  Well, apart from being a fantasy for many women, it’s an opportunity for partnered women to explore their sexuality without their primary partners and to be treated as a special guest in a couple’s most intimate space.  But unicorn threesomes also pose some challenges.  If you are a partnered woman, you may have trouble communicating your wants and boundaries alone.  You may even have safety concerns.  To learn more, the Wives talk with YouTuber, Toronto Unicorn about the dos and don’ts of exploring the lifestyle as a single woman.   Finally, the Wives decide on their sexy homework: Kat plans to go to a sex club with other ladies, while Ams looks for opportunities to invite herself into a couple’s bedroom. ABOUT TORONTO UNICORN:  TorontoUnicorn pulls back the curtain of secrecy on the swinger lifestyle, normally underground, for those curious to find their way to this sex positive lifestyle for themselves. Her mission is to “take the scary out of swinging and sex clubs” and invite sex positive people to observe the swinging world through her lifestyle vlogs and experiences. Learn more at https://torontounicorn.com/

How easy is it to line up a threesome as a unicorn?  How about going to a sex club as a solo woman? How did Ams and Kat do on their sexy homework for Unicorn Threesomes?  Tune in to find out.  A Unicorn is a single woman in the lifestyle.  She may enjoy meeting and playing with other couples (i.e. - a Unicorn Threesome) or she may engage in all sorts of social and sexual activities with other people in the lifestyle.  Don't fence her in! Even though Kat and Ams are not single women, they are both curious to explore the dynamic of a Unicorn Threesome and wanted to experience what it is like to be the special guest star to a couple.  In Unicorn Threesomes Part One (https://2hotwives.com/unicorn-threesomes-aka-come-and-knock-on-our-door/), they set themselves sexy homework: Kat decides to go to a sex club without Mr. Kat to see what that would be like, and Ams is going to ask some of her lifestyle couple friends if they would like to have a threesome.  In this episode, they report back on their sexy homework. But first, mix up this episode's Canna-Cocktail, the Autumn Bliss: mix honey simple syrup, cranberry juice, lime and ginger beer, then add your favorite cannabis tincture.  Make sure it is alcohol based and not oil based so that it mixes into the drink better.  And, if you prefer adding a spirit, add Gin instead.  While sipping on your canna-cocktail, listen to Kat share her hot tale of a sexy encounter on the Bliss cruise.  Kat doesn't usually play on the first date, and never in a public setting.  But, it turns out that a sexy Irish accent is all that she needs to break all of the rules. If you are curious about what the playrooms are like on the Bliss cruise, this hot tale is for you.  Next, Ams and Kat recount their sexy homework on Unicorn Threesomes.  Can Ams line up a threesome with friends?  Does Kat make it to the sex club? Listen in for the download.  Mentioned in this episode:  ForPlay Films: https://forplayfilms.com/ (Video: Menage a Tois, directed by Inka Winter)

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Boudoir Photography.  Boudoir photography is a style of intimate photography that captures individuals in a tasteful and empowering way, often in lingerie or semi-clothed, celebrating their unique beauty and sensuality. Boudoir photography can be a powerful tool for promoting self-love, body positivity, and empowerment. It challenges beauty standards and encourages women to embrace their uniqueness.  But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Pumpkin Spice (or, if you are looking for a little extra spice, add Bourbon).  Mix one up while listening to this episode's hot tale: Ams never thought she would play on a show bed, but at a recent house party, she decides to hop on with a playful partner and a sexy voyeur. Never say never! Next, the Wives describe their past experiences with boudoir photography, including professional pictures taken at Desire, plus some DIY photo shoots at home. To get an expert's opinion, the Wives talk with photographer Nicole Marie, owner of Nicole Marie Boudoir.  Finally, the Wives decide to book in for a boudoir photo session as their sexy homework. Nicole Marie is a boudoir and portrait photographer located in Easton, Maryland. She is a lifelong hobbyist photographer, professional photographer for 15 years and boudoir specialist for 9 years. Her passion is providing a luxury experience and empowering imagery for women from all walks of life. WEBSITE | FACEBOOK| INSTAGRAM More About Boudoir Photography What is a typical boudoir session like? A boudoir session involves grooming, wardrobe selection and usually hair and make up.  A positive mindset is important. It's about feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin. Who Should Consider Boudoir Photography? Boudoir photography is for anyone seeking to boost their self-esteem, celebrate their sensuality, or mark a significant life event. It's inclusive and welcomes individuals of all backgrounds and body types. How Does a Session Usually Go? A typical boudoir session includes a consultation with the photographer, hair and make up, followed by the photoshoot. The photographer creates a comfortable environment, guiding the subject through poses that highlight their best features. Who Should Have Boudoir Photos Done?  Boudoir photography is for any women seeking to boost their self-esteem, celebrate their sensuality, or mark a significant life event. It's inclusive and welcomes women of all backgrounds and body types. How Is It Beneficial for Women's Empowerment? Boudoir photography empowers women by promoting self-confidence, challenging societal beauty norms, and fostering self-esteem. It allows women to see themselves in a new, positive light, which can have a profound impact on their self-esteem and well-being. Resource Notes: https://www.imaginated.com/blog/what-is-boudoir-photography/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boudoir_photography https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmE8Uqx8gCE#:~:text=Learn%20how%20to%20take%20your%20own%20amazing,self%20portraits%20from%20me%20on%20Patreon%20at: for taking boudoir self-portraits https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ua-hOH-u_bA&t=0s composition for at home boudoir https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FzpQnm7ddPM diy boudoir

Do you need to be "hot" to be successful in the lifestyle? In this episode, the Wives explore aesthetics and attraction in ENM relationships, including an interview with Coach April from Naughty Gym.   This bonus episode was inspired by a number of listener questions that the Wives have received, where listeners have shared their concerns and insecurities about looks in the lifestyle. So, do you need to be hot?  The answer is not simple.  On the one hand, lifestyle dating is a lot like vanilla dating, and looks are a big part of attraction. So, yes, looks play into success in the lifestyle and improving your looks can improve your chance of success.  But on the other hand, people of all shapes, sizes and ages participate in the lifestyle, so no matter where you fall on that spectrum, there is a good chance that you can meet people and make a connection. Also, attraction involves more than looks: confidence, intelligence, and romantic mental and emotional connections are an important part of attraction for many people, including sapiosexuals, polysexuals, and demisexuals.  To get more advice on the issue of aesthetics, fitness and wellness in the lifestyle, the Wives talk with their good friend: Coach April from Naughty Gym.  Referenced in this Episode: Be Better and Being BadDon't You Want Me BabyDesire -  Riviera Maya About April: Coach April is a co-creator, with her husband Scott, of Naughty Gym, an online fitness and coaching platform tailored to the sex-positive community. April, a highly accomplished fitness and nutrition coach, has excelled in various fitness disciplines, such as competitive running, figure competitions, CrossFit, and Powerlifting. With a wealth of experience, she has guided thousands of athletes with diverse goals and fitness backgrounds, earning recognition as an expert in empowering women to feel confident in their bodies and motivating them to achieve their fitness aspirations.

How did the Wives do with their Boudoir photography sexy homework?  Tune in to find out.  But first, check out this episode's Canna-cocktail, the Winter Berry Smash.  Thanks to a listener tip, Kat found a tincture that uses nano-technology for quicker absorbtion and a faster experience. Then, Kat brings it home with her Hot Tale: a threesome with the Wives and Mr. Kat.  Is he the luckiest man on the planet?  You decide.  Then, the Wives took a field trip to Nicole Marie's Boudoir Photography Studio in Easton, Maryland.  Building on their experience taking boudior shots at Desire Resort in Mexico, the Wives came prepared with a Pinterest board, lots of wardrobe changes, and a bunch of beauty tips before they even get to the studio.  They got special hair and makeup treatment and had a four-hour photo session.  Things got suprisingly naked!  As a bonus, the Wives got to visit their friend Adrienne from Midlife Craving Podcast.  Finally, the Wives share Just the Tips on ways to have a fantastic boudoir photography experience.  Mentioned in this Episode: https://allebachphotography.com/  https://www.botanyfarms.com/products/nano-delta-9-microdose-gummies

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Tantric Sex.  Tantra is a complex and multifaceted spiritual and philosophical tradition that originated in ancient India. Tantric sex is the practice of using Tantric principles, such as mindfulness, breathwork and energy connection, to sexual experiences.  But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why don’t try this Canna-cocktail, the Hot Buttered Cider.  Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams, Mr. Ams and their friends have a grown-up sleepover, complete with Seven Minutes in Heaven: mini-threesomes while one person watches and keeps time.    Next, Ams and Kat explore Tantric principles and past experiences with mindful sex.  To learn more about Tantric Sex, the Wives interview author and educator Barbara Carrellas.  Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including solo tantra work, breath and energy orgasms and all-day sex sessions.  MORE ABOUT TANTRA The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra: Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality. Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies. Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection. Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies. Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth. Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization. Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things. Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years.  Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstacy as opposed to orgasm.  ABOUT BARBARA Barbara Carrellas is an author, artist, innovator, instigator and thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit. She is also a sex/life coach, sex educator, workshop facilitator, university lecturer, motivational speaker and theater artist. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure. https://barbaracarrellas.com/barbara-carrellas/ MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Nowadays - Cannabis infused drinks https://trynowadays.com/ Amorus Cards: https://amorus.net/ Game of Lifestyle: https://www.gameoflifestyle.com/

How did the Wives do with their Tantric Sex homework?  Tune in to find out.  But first, check out this episode’s Canna-cocktail, the Orange Berry Tea with a new nano-tincture.  Sip on this delicious cocktail while Kat shares her Hot Tale: a professional massage gets a BDSM vibe with cupping and scraping.  Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework, inspired by Barbara Carrellas' book, Urban Tantra. Kat shares her tantra ritual with Mr. Kat, while Ams explored solo tantra, including a no-hands, Breath and Energy Orgasm.  Finally, the Wives give their tips on exploring tantric practices.  MORE ABOUT TANTRA The original practice of Tantra encompasses a wide range of beliefs, practices, and rituals, and its principles can vary among different schools and traditions. However, some core principles are commonly associated with Tantra: Unity of the Divine: Tantra often emphasizes the oneness or unity of the ultimate reality, which may be referred to as Brahman, Shiva, Shakti, or other names depending on the specific tradition. The idea is that everything in the universe is an expression of this ultimate reality. Energy and Consciousness (Shiva and Shakti): Tantra often conceptualizes the divine as a dynamic interplay between masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) energies. These energies represent the dual aspects of the supreme consciousness, and the practice of Tantra often involves awakening and harmonizing these energies. Sacred Sexuality: Some Tantric traditions incorporate rituals and practices that involve sacred sexuality. The goal is not mere physical pleasure but rather the spiritual union of Shiva and Shakti energies within the practitioners, aiming for heightened awareness and divine connection. Ritual and Symbolism: Tantra frequently employs rituals, symbols, and ceremonies to connect with the divine. These can include mantra chanting, yantra (geometric diagrams), mudras (hand gestures), and various ceremonies designed to invoke spiritual energies. Embracing the Mundane: Unlike some ascetic traditions, Tantra embraces the material world and the experiences of daily life. It encourages practitioners to see the divine in everything, including ordinary activities, and to use the challenges of the material world as opportunities for spiritual growth. Teacher-Student Relationship: Traditional Tantric practices often involve a guru-disciple relationship. The guru is seen as a guide and spiritual mentor who leads the disciple on the path toward self-realization. Non-Dualism (Advaita): Many Tantric traditions advocate a non-dualistic perspective, emphasizing that the ultimate reality is beyond distinctions such as good or bad, pure or impure. Practitioners seek to overcome dualities and realize the underlying unity of all things. Many Westerners have been applying Tantric principals to sex for over 100 years.  Some of these principals include adding ritual and mindfulness to sexual experiences, focusing on breath and energy, fostering a deep connection between partners and focusing on pleasure and ecstasy as opposed to orgasm.

In this episode, Ams and Kat explore Pornography, focusing on ethical porn and feminist porn.   Pornography is sexual content designed to arouse, and let's face it, pornography is everywhere.  If you've written off pornography as not your thing, check out this episode for a fresh, feminist take on porn.  But first, if you are looking for a little buzz without the drawbacks of alcohol, why not try this Canna-cocktail, the the Lemon Blackberry Mule.  Mix one up while listening to this episode’s hot tale: Ams gets the best birthday present from Mr. Ams, a year of monthly MFM threesomes!  Listen in for what happened in February.  Next, Ams and Kat explore past experience with pornography: what they have liked and what's a little bit "ick".  To learn more about Pornography, the Wives interview producer and director, Inka Winter, owner of ForPlay Films.  Finally, the Wives set themselves sexy homework, including exploring new genres of porn and using porn for play dates and foreplay.  MORE ABOUT ETHICAL AND FEMINIST PORNOGRAPHY The concept of "ethical pornography" is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and values. Generally, it refers to the production and consumption of adult content that aligns with ethical principles and values, such as consent, fair labor practices, and respect for performers. Ethical pornography may prioritize factors like transparency, communication, and empowerment of the individuals involved in its creation. Key elements often associated with ethical pornography include:     Consent: Ensuring that all participants willingly and enthusiastically agree to be part of the production.    Fair Labor Practices: Treating performers and other personnel involved in the production with respect, fair wages, and safe working conditions.    Diversity and Inclusivity: Representing a diverse range of body types, genders, ethnicities, and sexual orientations to promote inclusivity and avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes.    Authenticity: Presenting realistic and consensual scenarios rather than perpetuating harmful or exploitative narratives.    Transparency: Providing clear information about the production process, including the treatment of performers and the ethical standards followed. Feminist pornography is a genre of adult content created with the aim of promoting gender equality, empowerment, and consent. It challenges traditional pornography that often objectifies and degrades women by portraying them as passive objects of male desire. Instead, feminist pornography seeks to depict sexuality in a more realistic and respectful manner, often emphasizing communication, mutual pleasure, and diversity. Key features of feminist pornography may include: Consent: Scenes depict enthusiastic and explicit consent between all participants, ensuring that no one is coerced or objectified.Diversity: It embraces diverse body types, sexual orientations, gender identities, and ethnicities, representing a wider range of human experiences and desires.Authenticity: Scenes may focus on real intimacy and connection rather than exaggerated performances. This can involve more realistic portrayals of pleasure and arousal.Empowerment: Women are often depicted as active agents in their sexual encounters, exploring their desires and expressing their own pleasure.Ethical Production: There is a commitment to fair labor practices, including fair wages and safe working conditions for performers, as well as respectful treatment both on and off-camera. Feminist pornography aims to challenge societal norms and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and promote a more inclusive and respectful approach to adult content. It seeks to provide alternatives for individuals who may find traditional pornography problematic or alienating. It's important to note that the definition of ethical and feminist pornography may vary among individuals, and what is considered ethical or feminist by one person may not be the same for another. If you are interested in supporting ethical or feminist adult content, you may want to research and choose producers or platforms that align with your values and priorities. ABOUT INKA WINTER Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films. Her films   titillate the senses through sexual chemistry, consent, autonomy, and the female gaze. Because Inka believes that education and emotional wellbeing are a central part of a healthy sex life, she started a YouTube channel, Sexucation, which aims to provide adults with factual information, often with the use of comedy, on topics such as birth control, cunnilingus, polyamory, and how to communicate during sex. Inka is also a certified sex educator and counselor and provides desire and arousal coaching.

How did the Wives do with their sexy pornography homework?  Tune in to find out.  But first, check out this episode’s Canna-cocktail, the Cherry Blossom Smash: a yummy combination or cherries and blood orange juice with just a dash of cannabis tincture.  Sip on this delicious cocktail listening to this episode's Hot Tale: the Wives host a Barbarella-themed house party and they get up to no good, with flogging, blindfolded kissing, eight-handed massages, and more! Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: who's ready for a week-long, porn-o-thon?  The Wives were so inspired by the hot, female empowered pornography, they start making plans to create their own..  Finally, the Wives give their tips on finding porn that feels female empowered and ethical.  MORE ABOUT ETHICAL AND FEMINIST PORNOGRAPHY The concept of "ethical pornography" is subjective and can vary depending on individual perspectives and values. Generally, it refers to the production and consumption of adult content that aligns with ethical principles and values, such as consent, fair labor practices, and respect for performers. Ethical pornography may prioritize factors like transparency, communication, and empowerment of the individuals involved in its creation. Key elements often associated with ethical pornography include:     Consent: Ensuring that all participants willingly and enthusiastically agree to be part of the production.    Fair Labor Practices: Treating performers and other personnel involved in the production with respect, fair wages, and safe working conditions.    Diversity and Inclusivity: Representing a diverse range of body types, genders, ethnicities, and sexual orientations to promote inclusivity and avoid reinforcing harmful stereotypes.    Authenticity: Presenting realistic and consensual scenarios rather than perpetuating harmful or exploitative narratives.    Transparency: Providing clear information about the production process, including the treatment of performers and the ethical standards followed. Feminist pornography is a genre of adult content created with the aim of promoting gender equality, empowerment, and consent. It challenges traditional pornography that often objectifies and degrades women by portraying them as passive objects of male desire. Instead, feminist pornography seeks to depict sexuality in a more realistic and respectful manner, often emphasizing communication, mutual pleasure, and diversity. Key features of feminist pornography may include: Consent: Scenes depict enthusiastic and explicit consent between all participants, ensuring that no one is coerced or objectified.Diversity: It embraces diverse body types, sexual orientations, gender identities, and ethnicities, representing a wider range of human experiences and desires.Authenticity: Scenes may focus on real intimacy and connection rather than exaggerated performances. This can involve more realistic portrayals of pleasure and arousal.Empowerment: Women are often depicted as active agents in their sexual encounters, exploring their desires and expressing their own pleasure.Ethical Production: There is a commitment to fair labor practices, including fair wages and safe working conditions for performers, as well as respectful treatment both on and off-camera. Feminist pornography aims to challenge societal norms and stereotypes surrounding sexuality and promote a more inclusive and respectful approach to adult content. It seeks to provide alternatives for individuals who may find traditional pornography problematic or alienating. It's important to note that the definition of ethical and feminist pornography may vary among individuals, and what is considered ethical or feminist by one person may not be the same for another. If you are interested in supporting ethical or feminist adult content, you may want to research and choose producers or platforms that align with your values and priorities. Bellesa.co: traditional, graphic porn, produced by women  Sssh.com: Female-led and Female-focused we're your source for ethically produced, explicit, sex-positive films. Afterglow. Porn by women; for everybody.  Quiz and free video based on results.  Frolic me Beautiful erotica Lustery real couple amateur porn.  Ersties fun, female produced porn with lots of tutorials ForPlay Films erotica for women, by women

What’s the big deal about squirting?  Is it the same thing as female ejaculation? Does it always happen during orgasm?  Can every woman squirt? Is squirt just pee?  If someone gushes or dribbles, is that still considered squirting?  What’s squirt made up of anyway?  The Wives answer these questions and more, including an interview with Lola Jean, the Squirting Queen. But first, it’s ORGY time!, Sip this episode’s juicy cocktail, the Mango Rum Spritzer, while listening to both Wives share their favorite orgy experience with two super-hot couples in Mexico.  Next, the Wives bust some myths on squirting: no, it’s not just pee, it doesn’t always include orgasm, it comes from the urethra, not the vagina.  And, despite what you see in porn, squirt doesn’t necessarily shoot across the room!   To get a sexpert’s opinion, the Wives interview Lola Jean, the world record holder in squirting volume.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Kat and Mr. Kat are going to work on their g-spot stimulation techniques, while Ams schedules some “me” time to explore squirting: using a Womanizer Duo toy.  About Lola Jean  Lola Jean is a Sex Educator, Wrestler, Pro Domme, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of.  Mentioned in this Episode Casual Toys - Womanizer Duo Wanderlust Swinger Podcast Travel with the 2HotWives! PCAP Desire Bliss Want to Learn More About Squirting? https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/ https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878  https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting?c=392364918709  https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a27008344/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/ https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-what-does-it-feel-like https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6522945/

Did the 2HotWives succeed with their sexy homework on squirting?  Tune in to Squirting Part 2 to find out.  First, start with a pitcher of the episode’s cocktail, Strawberry Mango Sangria.  We suggest that you make it a day ahead to let the fruits infuse their flavor. Then, Kat recalls a particularly juicy hot tale while on the Bliss Cruise: a MFM threesome.   Then, the Wives share the ups and downs of their sexy homework: Ams takes the advice of sexpert Lola Jean and starts with masturbation, while Kat and Mr. Kat focus on lots of g-spot foreplay.  Finally, it’s Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore squirting, either solo or with a partner.  Did we wet your appetite for sexual exploration?  Check out www.2hotwives.com for articles, advice, drink recipes and more.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Casual Toys – Womanizer Duo Wanderlust Swinger Podcast TRAVEL WITH THE 2HOTWIVES Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Podcast a Palooza: June 2022 Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022 Keep checking back for new events.  WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SQUIRTING? Check out these articles and references if you are curious about female ejaculation.  https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/ https://www.verywellhealth.com/skene-gland-5207878  https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/squirting?c=392364918709  https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a27008344/how-to-make-a-woman-squirt/ https://helloclue.com/articles/sex/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-what-does-it-feel-like https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-squirting-orgasm https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/female-ejaculation https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6522945/

If you and your partner enjoy recreational sex and emotional intimacy, you might be Swolly! Swolly is a form of consensual non-monogamy where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamorous relationships.  Are you Swolly?  Tune in to find out.  But first, mix up a Tennessee Peach, this episode's sweet and sophisticated cocktail while Ams fan girls over Bridgerton and shares her hot tale of a total mindfuck with a smart and sexy new partner.  Next, the Wives explore the difference between swinging and polyamory, including this middle ground of Swolly. Swolly is a person who identifies as both a swinger and a member of the polyamorous community in that they have multiple relationships simultaneously and also enjoy recreational sex. The term is a portmanteau of the words swinger and polyamorous. Ken Haslam of the Kinsey Institute originally coined the term Swolly.  Here are some key components to Swolly: The foundation is a marriage/committed couple.  That relationship takes precedence over all other polysexual and polyamorous relationships  The couple is open to polysexual relationship and may  seek out casual sexual encounters or sex with "friends" that don't involve deep connections.  The couple is also open to polyamorous relationships that involve both physical and emotional intimacy.  The level of intimacy can vary between relationships (some relationships are purely polysexual, polysexual with friendship, or polyamorous).  Polysexual relationships are less complicated and involve less commitment.  You have a responsibility to make sure your partner is well taken care of during a sexual encounter (consent, pleasure, aftercare, the basic “camp-fire rule”), but you don’t have responsibility toward that person outside of the sexual encounter.  You might be friendly, you might be friends, that aspect might ebb and flow, but you don’t have a responsibility to build on anything outside of the bedroom. In Polyamorous relationships, you agree to share emotional intimacy, which means that you are committing to be an emotional support for this partner. These relationships can be more meaningful and rewarding, but also a lot of work.    To get a sexpert’s opinion, the Wives interview Dr. Elisabeth "Eli", Sheff, expert witness, researcher, educator & relationship coach with expertise in polyamorous culture.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: The Wives and the Misters are going to explore more emotionally intimate relationships with some of their swinger friends, including solo dates and lots of talk about "feelings". Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.  Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE  We Gotta Thing Podcast Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay Types of Non-Monogamy    Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Podcast a Palooza: June 2022 Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022 Keep checking back for new events.  WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT POLYAMORY? Check out these articles and references:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24402980-designer-relationships https://affirmativecouch.com/polyamorous-relation

Can the 2HotWives walk that middle path between polyamory and swinging?   Tune in to Swolly Part 2 to find out.  First, start with the episode’s cocktail, the Blackberry Peach Fizz while Kat updates us on her sexy play time with a single guy.  If you dig a little upscale restraint play, this hot tale is for you.  Then, the Wives go deep on their journey toward Swolly.  Swolly is a form of ethical non-monogamy, where a couple is open to both polysexual and polyamory extramarital relationships.  Both Ams and Kat started their open marriage journey as "social swingers" with their husbands: they were looking for casual sexual experiences with other couples who were (or could be) friends, but emotionally intimate connections were off the table.  As time went on, a deeper connection developed between the Wives and their husbands, which led to a lot of excitement, but also a lot of drama. In this episode, the Wives discuss that struggle openly to each other for the first time.   Next, the Wives report back on their sexy homework: exploring independent dating and opening up to "the feels". Finally, it’s Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore swolly.  Want to learn more about Polyamory?  Check out our interview with Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Monogamish Marriage  We Gotta Thing TRAVEL WITH THE 2HOTWIVES Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Podcast a Palooza: June 2022 Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022

In the last 20 years, pole dancing has become a mainstream fitness phenomenon and an excellent way for women to get in touch with their femininity and sensuality. If you are curious about whether pole dancing might be a fun activity to explore, this episode is a must listen!   But first, mix up this episode's sweet and simple cocktail, the Blackberry Lemonade, while Ams recounts some hot times on the Bliss Cruise.  Next, the Wives explore the history and benefits of pole dancing.  Pole dancing dates back to the 12th century in India and was originally practiced by mostly men, not women. It migrated over to the U.S. when exotic dancers from Egypt would perform as part of the traveling circus.  The sexual aspect of it was introduced when dancers would try to entice viewers to come see their shows by dancing erotically. It actually wasn’t until the 1980s that pole dancing became synonymous with bars and strip clubs. Pole Dancing combines dance and acrobatics centered on a vertical pole.  This performance art form takes place not only in strip clubs as erotic dance, but also as a mainstream form of fitness. Amateur and professional pole dancing competitions are held in countries around the world. Pole dance requires significant muscular endurance and coordination, as well as sensuality.  Today, pole performances by exotic dancers range from basic spins and striptease in more intimate clubs to athletic moves such as climbs, flips and body inversions. Pole Dancing is mostly about upper body and core strength and proper instruction and training is necessary to prevent injuries. Since the mid-2000s, promoters of pole dance fitness competitions have tried to change peoples' perception of pole dance to include pole fitness as a non-sexual form of dance and acrobatics and are trying to move pole into the Olympics as pole sports. Recognized schools and qualifications are now commonplace. Pole dancing enthusiasts are of all ages, it's never too late to get started.   For a ton of inspiration, the Wives interview 11-time world champion pole artist, Greta Pontarelli on what it was like to take up the art in her sixties and how she is still going strong into her seventies.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: off to the studio for some pole dancing 101.  Greta Pontarelli started with pole arts at age 59 and began competing by the time she turned 61.  Greta competes all over the world and is an 11X World Pole Art Masters Champion (2013-2021).  She has been on the covers of many international magazines and has also competed on the TV show "American Ninja Warrior" twice.  At 71, she continues to compete and offer classes and workshops and is the artistic director at Arial Zen.   “I embrace art forms that allow our visionary gifts to flourish and for me, pole art fits the bill. It is an eclectic display of contemporary stage art that celebrates our unique artistry. It honors expressiveness and originality which allows fresh ideas to emerge and challenge us to become the best that we can become.” A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.

Were the Wives able to tap into some sexy pole dancing energy?  Tune into Part 2 to find out! In the last 20 years, pole dancing has become a mainstream fitness phenomenon and an excellent way for women to get in touch with their femininity and sensuality. If you are curious about whether pole dancing might be a fun activity to explore, this episode is a must listen!   But first, the temps are up, so the drinks get nice and cold: the Strawberry Rum Slushie requires some freeze time so make it now and then tune into this episode’s Hot Tale: Kat finally gets to play with the one that got away at the Dirty Disney party.  Then, the Wives ice their bruises while recapping their Intro to Pole sessions.  Finally, it’s Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore pole dancing. Pole dancing dates back to the 12th century in India and was originally practiced by mostly men, not women. It migrated over to the U.S. when exotic dancers from Egypt would perform as part of the traveling circus.  The sexual aspect of it was introduced when dancers would try to entice viewers to come see their shows by dancing erotically. It actually wasn’t until the 1980s that pole dancing became synonymous with bars and strip clubs. Pole Dancing combines dance and acrobatics centered on a vertical pole.  This performance art form takes place not only in strip clubs as erotic dance, but also as a mainstream form of fitness. Amateur and professional pole dancing competitions are held in countries around the world. Pole dance requires significant muscular endurance and coordination, as well as sensuality.  Today, pole performances by exotic dancers range from basic spins and striptease in more intimate clubs to athletic moves such as climbs, flips and body inversions. Pole Dancing is mostly about upper body and core strength and proper instruction and training is necessary to prevent injuries. Since the mid-2000s, promoters of pole dance fitness competitions have tried to change peoples’ perception of pole dance to include pole fitness as a non-sexual form of dance and acrobatics and are trying to move pole into the Olympics as pole sports. Recognized schools and qualifications are now commonplace. Pole dancing enthusiasts are of all ages, it’s never too late to get started.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Monogamish Marriage  Average Swingers Casual Swingers Black and Kinky Podcast Swinger University 4ourPlay Podcast Bed Hoppers Life of Spice Coqueta Caliente TRAVEL WITH THE 2HOTWIVES Check out our EVENTS PAGE, for a chance to meet the 2HotWives in person, including: Desire Riviera Maya: August 2022 Bliss Cruise: November 2022 Keep checking back for new events.

Bondage: what was once considered a taboo, dangerous kink is now a commonplace sex act that you can find in many a suburban bedroom.  But is restraint play for you?  Tune in to find out.   Bondage, or restraint play, is a common sexual fantasy, but how can you safely make it into a very hot reality?  In this episode, the Wives discuss what bondage is (including some sexy past experiences), who restraint play is for, and how to safely play with different forms of restraints.  But first, cool off with a Summer Brazilian (no waxing necessary) while Ams shares her Hot Tale: a fantasy threesome with Peloton instructor Denis Morton. Spoiler-alert - Denis wasn't actually involved, but sometimes a little fantasy goes a long way in the bedroom (and the basement).   Then, the Wives define and explore some bondage basics.  Bondage is a form of kinky sex play that involves tying up, pinning down, or otherwise restraining a partner.  It can be combined with other forms of BDSM play, such as impact play or orgasm control, or just used as a way to spice up an otherwise vanilla sexual experience.  Bondage was once considered very taboo and even a little dangerous: something that only Kinksters do in the privacy of their local sex dungeon.  But if you check out the nightstand drawer of many a suburban mom, you just might find a blindfold and some cuffs. Bondage has become a much more mainstream sexual activity (who didn't read Fifty Shades of Grey?), and it's actually quite accessible to the curious couple.  Four popular types of restraints are: rope,  binders, bondage tape and shackles. Shackles/Cuffs- a great place to start. Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints. They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized.  Rope- is super versatile, but a little tricky to use. The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it’s softer on skin. It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play. Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently. Binders- Not for Bondage newbies.   The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer’s arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room). Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own. Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty.  Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself.  Not skin or hair  Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone’s hands, legs or almost any body part. Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind.  Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape. To get the low-down on all things Bondage, the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving  BDSM.   Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: Ams wants to be tied to the bed, spread eagle-style, while Mr. Ams applies some delicious torture.  While Kat wants to take it up a notch with three sexy gentlemen (wait, isn't that called a gang bang???) A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.  Want to learn more about BDSM? Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2) And our BSDM Articles: Five Myths about Impact Play Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.

Get ready for the hottest homework of this season! In this episode, the Wives report back on their sexy homework with Bondage. But first, if summer shenanigans are making you feel run down, check out this episode's cocktail: the Bourbon Elixir.  And trust us, you will want a drink in hand when you listen to Kat's hot tale, steamy foreplay with not one, not two, BUT THREE men.  Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with bondage, including a sexy foursome, Dom/sub play and the kink that cannot be named (...pssst, between you and I, it's a GANG BANG!!!) Finally, it’s Just the Tips for anyone who wants to explore bondage and restraint play. Four popular types of restraints are: rope,  binders, bondage tape and shackles. Shackles/Cuffs– a great place to start. Shackles refer to cloth, leather or metal ankle or wrist restraints. They are easy to put on and do an excellent job of keeping your partner immobilized.  Rope– is super versatile, but a little tricky to use. The material and type of rope matters. Cotton rope may be a good starting point, because it’s softer on skin. It can involve suspension. It can be paired with all kinds of other erotic play. Can change the position of your body so you experience sensation differently. Binders- Not for Bondage newbies.   The most common form of binders are arm binders, which completely immobilize the wearer’s arms (unlike handcuffs which still give them a little bit of wiggle room). Another option are leather leg binders, which keep the wearer from bending their knee or moving on their own. Bondage Tape- If you are looking for sometime quick and pretty.  Unlike regular tape, it only sticks to itself.  Not skin or hair  Bondage tape can be used to create makeshift hand or ankle cuffs, to secure someone’s hands, legs or almost any body part. Safety note: with tape play, you need to be careful of nearby candles or heat of any kind.  Some adhesives will become too sticky when heated, pulling the top layer of skin off when you go to remove the tape. To get the low-down on all things Bondage, listen to Part 1 where the Wives interview Kayla Lords, cohost of the podcast Loving  BDSM.   A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey’s podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.  WANT TO LEARN MORE ABOUT BONDAGE Check out our Season 1 episode on Impact Play Our two-part episode on Dungeons (Part 1 and Part 2) And our BSDM Articles: Five Myths about Impact Play Your Sweet, Kinky, Embraceable You Essential Items for a Home Dungeon.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE UNDER THE BED RESTRAINTS EVERYTHING BONDAGE KIT SHIBARI ROPE HITACHI WAND MASSAGE TABLE EYE SHADES This post contains affiliate links. If you use these links to buy something we may earn a commission. Thanks

Are you ready to unlock the mysteries of female sexuality? Come As You Are is a must-read for all vulva-owners and the partners who want to please them. In this episode, the Wives interview author Emily Nagoski on how her can help all women maximize their capacity for pleasure.  But before we dive into the details, mix yourself up this episode's Cocktail - the Blood Orange Mule, while Ams recounts a ridiculous attempt to buy THC-infused lube in California Then, the Wives FAN-GIRL over their favorite author, Emily Nagoski, and her award-winning book, Come As You Are. Based on their initial read, the Wives learned the nitty gritty of female anatomy (how male parts and female parts are analogs of each other!), the Dual Control Model (with the notorious sexual "accelerators" and "brakes"), the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire and how to get all parts of your mind and body moving in one direction, for absolutely mind-blowing pleasure. Next,  the Wives go straight to the source, interviewing the incomparable Emily Nagoski, on Come As You Are as well as her newest project, which focuses on staying connected in a long term relationship.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: time to check out Come As You Are, the Workbook.   If you find female sexuality confusing and even frustrating, this book is a game-changer.   A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.

Time to check in with the Wives on their sexy homework from the book, Come as You Are, and the companion Workbook.  Author Emily Nagoski states that everyone’s sexuality is unique and normal.  That’s a wonderful and liberating message, but how can a woman learn about her unique sexual temperament from a book?  It’s time to dig a little deeper and pull out the workbook for sexy homework!   But first, if you looking for a cocktail that won’t weigh you down in these dog days of summer, check out the Grapefruit Spritzer while listening to Kat recount 22 straight days of morning sex with Mr. Kat (…jealous much?!?!)      Then, the Wives share their sexy homework with Come as You Are and the companion Workbook.  Drop that baggage, girl! Most women bring a lot of “baggage” in the bedroom, much of which is based on cultural messages around sex. Using the workbook, Ams and Kat explore how idealized versions of the “pure” “healthy” and “high performance” woman make real women feel inadequate and self-critical.  Time to Start a Sex Binder.  Do you plan for sex?  Why not?!?! We plan for the things in life that are important to us, so why don’t we plan more for sex? Ams uses the workbook to identify the “perfect context” for sex and better ways that her and Mr. Ams can initiate.  Let that Shit Go. Is stress keeping you from an amazing sex life? Kat confesses that chronic stress has been a major “brake” in her life over the past two years, and references Emily’s wisdom from CAUA as well as Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book, Burnout, to complete the stress cycle.    Finally, it’s Just the Tips for Come As You Are and the companion Workbook  A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey’s podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.     Check out our Podcasts and Articles Featuring Books about Sex.   Part 1 for Come As You Are including our interview with Emily Nagoski!   The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay (Part 1 and Part 2) including our interview with authors Jessica O’Reilly, PhD (Sex with Dr. Jess) and Marla Renee Stewart, MA  Book Review: Come As You Are  Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay  .