Misfits & Wanderers

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Nightmare By Airline
19-01-2023
Nightmare By Airline
A tale of a round trip flight that was a no good, bad ,terrible, awful experience.It is also a  tale of celebration. I could have let my emotions take over and made the situation so much worse, and ruined my trip in a number of ways. And yet, I didn't give in at any point. In the losses, I'm taking the win.There are also cameo appearances by "Susan" and "Dude Karen" (with apologies to those named Karen who didn't ask for this and have every right to speak to a manager).Thank you for visiting, please like, subscribe and shareTo find more of my content (writing and podcasts) please visit To support:Venmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10Social links:https://instagram.com/misfitwandershttps://twitter.com/misfitwandershttps://tiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/MisfitsandwanderersThe purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. The host, guests, anyone associated with creating this content or any of the hosting platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Created using  Audacity and Wondershare FilmoraBackground music: Blue Mood - Robert MunzingerMisfits & Wanderers is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com
Love Persevering: Exploring Grief
17-04-2022
Love Persevering: Exploring Grief
Love Persevering: Exploring Grief“But what is grief if not love persevering?” -Vision (from the Marvel Studios series WandaVision)In this episode will focus on grief. I was inspired for a couple of reasons, the first being that the 12th anniversary of my mom’s passing is approaching as of the release of this episode. Also, I’ve come across a number of people who have been struggling with the idea that their own grief processes are taking longer than others in their lives (in some cases themselves as well) have the patience for. Truth is, when we lose someone close to us, the mourning never fully ends; we simply learn to carry on as we are ready and build around the hole that the loss left in our being. It never does truly fill in, we simply learn to adapt to the hole.Of course grief doesn’t come as a result of death, even though it’s the first thing we naturally think of. But there are grieving processes that result from loss of all kinds. Loss of a home, a job or career, ending of a friendship, even the ending of a way of life as we know it, as we’ve all experienced to some degree in the last couple of years for obvious reasons.Be aware, this episode does contain occasional strong language in the form of occasional cuss words used (would probably fall into a PG-13 or TV-14 rating in the US).This episode of Legion of Misfits is dedicated with love to the memory of Sandra (Ross) Levesque, 1/12/51-4/21/10. Love you and miss you Mom!Sections (not counting intro and closing)1. Grieving our Control2. The Letter She Will Never Read3. The Influence of Time on Grief4. Finding Joy After Grief5. The Eulogy That I Wish I WroteCredit to resources shared on the show (with links):Finding Joy After Grief - Moving On After Tragedyby Wendyhttps://www.griefandsympathy.com/joy-after-grief.htmlThe Influence of Time on Grief – Thoughts on Grieving the Loss of a Partnerhttps://www.griefandsympathy.com/influence-of-time-on-grief.htmlGrief Stories: ~The Letter She Will Never Readhttp://www.lifewiththefrog.com/2013/09/grief-storiesthe-letter-she-will-never.html?m=1Grieving Our Controlhttps://richlevesque.medium.com/grieving-our-control-66bd7b963615The Eulogy I Wish I Wrote for My Momhttps://richlevesque.medium.com/the-eulogy-i-wish-i-wrote-for-my-mom-8b4a1df5e2f1Thank you for listening, please like, subscribe and shareTo donate:paypal.me/BeaconRJLVenmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10Social links:instagram.com/misfitwanderstwitter.com/misfitwanderstiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/misfitsandwanderersThe purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. Legion of Misfits, the host, or any platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Created using  Audacity and Wondershare Filmora This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com
Emotional Sunburn
11-04-2022
Emotional Sunburn
This episode is called "Emotional Sunburn", and it focuses on how for many of us, the understanding that rejection has nothing to do with us and can serve to support us on our path, while true, can be a devastating thing for the brains of many of us to process, and we can not only struggle with regulating emotionally but it can really hold us back with taking steps in all areas of life.While not an official diagnosis (DSM, etc.) it is recognized by many as a neruodivergent symptom known as rejection sensitivity dysmorphia (RSD), in particular with ADHD. It can also be seen as connected to CPTSD as well. Please not that while there are still clearly things that science and medicine have yet to make consistent links with for multiple reasons, what is clear that a number of us are afflicted with this and just for knowing that we aren't the only ones, let's talk about it. Maybe knowing that this is a real thing can help us to know what is going on in the moment and give us just enough to realize that what is happening is something we need to allow to pass rather than react from in the moment. From there, it's information and possibilities that we need to explore further, through research and also through connecting with our medical and mental health professionals to understand our own unique situations.Resources:Living with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoriahttps://neuroclastic.com/living-with-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria/?fbclid=IwAR0ZtxD5iVnNgu3VAg4zCLzIGaks2bt3LccKDUZcrPzJUgUk1HeVznoXl5wIs My Trauma Response RSD, C-PTSD or Bothhttps://themighty.com/2021/06/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-complex-post-traumatic-disorder-similarities-differences/Person Gives A Spot-On Explanation Of Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria, Many Are Surprised This ADHD Symptom Has A Namehttps://www.boredpanda.com/adhd-rejection-sensitivity-dysphoria-twitter/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organicEmotional sunburn: What rejection sensitive dysphoria feels like to mehttps://www.understood.org/en/articles/emotional-sunburn-what-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-feels-like-to-meRejection Sensitive Dysphoria: The link between ADHD and sensitivity to criticism.https://www.drmelissashepard.com/post/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-the-link-between-adhd-and-sensitivity-to-criticismIs It Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria or Complex Trauma?https://jessemeadows.medium.com/is-it-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-or-complex-trauma-d9d519b5bb55More Than ‘Thin-Skinned’: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoriahttps://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/more-than-thin-skinned-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-1130197The Incredible Shrinking World: Life with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoriahttps://yourcontractualobligations.medium.com/the-incredible-shrinking-world-life-with-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-62f9d08f7cc0How Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Affects Me as a Person With ADHDhttps://themighty.com/2017/12/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-emotional-sensitivity/After recording, I learned that the story from the final segment was actually published in Reader's Digest in 1985 https://www.readersdigest.com.au/podcasts/heart/letter-in-the-walletThe purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. Legion of Misfits, the host, or any platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Thank you for listening, please like, subscribe and shareTo donate:paypal.me/BeaconRJLVenmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10Social links:instagram.com/misfitwanderstwitter.com/misfitwanderstiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/misfitsandwanderers This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com
It Starts with Being Seen
08-11-2021
It Starts with Being Seen
Feeling seen, feeling understood, feeling like not only other people are truly listening to you, but that you're able to be fully present for yourself.It's a simple act in theory but it can be very hard in practice for a number of reasons. Sometimes the manner somebody is trying to be seen violates boundaries. In other cases it forces us to look at things within ourselves that we quite frankly would rather not.This gets a bit scattered admittedly, but there is so much to this and it is very hard to do any justice in a small amount of time. This involves many hard conversations and a lot of very powerful, difficult work.That work is so important. It's not necessarily the solution to any one thing, of course. But it's the first step to EVERYTHING. Whether it's a universal conflict or an internal struggle. Macro or micro, it's the same.We can't fix anything if we can't understand what we're all seeing. Does it mean we have to agree on what we see? Of course not, we all have different values and life experiences and we will never all see the world the same way. But the openings come when we understand each other and why we see things the way we do.It starts with seeing. It starts with feeling seen.To find more of my content (writing and podcasts) please visit https://misfitsandwanderers.substack.com/Thank you for listening, please like, subscribe and share. If you have the means, please consider supporting Misfits:Venmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10Social links:https://instagram.com/misfitwandershttps://twitter.com/misfitwandershttps://tiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/MisfitsandwanderersThe purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. The host, guests, anyone associated with creating this content or any of the hosting platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Created using  Audacity and Wondershare FilmoraMusic credit (music used under license granted through Wondershare):Intro-Riding On by Martin RoseEnd-Drift By Drift This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com
Holding Space for Anger
08-11-2021
Holding Space for Anger
There’s plenty of reason to feel anger. Certainly, in this current climate.Anger needs to be seen and heard and is a powerful and important teacher.It needs to do its job. But then it needs to be free to be sent on its way.When it overstays its welcome and hijacks our logic and blocks out our consciousness...well, look around.To find more of my content (writing and podcasts) please visit https://misfitsandwanderers.substack.com/Thank you for listening, please like, subscribe and share. If you have the means, please consider supporting Misfits:Venmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10Social links:https://instagram.com/misfitwandershttps://twitter.com/misfitwandershttps://tiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/MisfitsandwanderersThe purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. The host, guests, anyone associated with creating this content or any of the hosting platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Created using  Audacity and Wondershare FilmoraMusic credit (music used under license granted through Wondershare, I use Filmora 9 to build my video and audio content):Intro-Riding On by Martin RoseEnd-Drift By Drift This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com
The Next Chapter
27-10-2021
The Next Chapter
Adam is a Light Alignment Coach who helps his clients master the story of their core wounds to empower themselves to directly achieve their goals of “Illuminated Alignment”Part of his practice is his oracle readings. If you really want to feel seen, get a reading from Adam.Adam has a couple of running streams you can see on Facebook: Adam’s Oracle Live (AOL) and “Coffee with Adam”. I invite you to check them both out.I’ve been blessed to know Adam for almost a year now, and one of his great talents in addition to what I’ve shared, is his courage in taking big leaps to go after his calling. He’s leapt out of a career as an executive chef into coaching full time. He’s uprooted and relocated to the Seattle area after living in California his whole life. We talk a lot about what that all looks like, actually, when we jump into the next chapter.I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did having it.Find Adam:https://instagram.com/iamadammartinez Adam's Facebook group, Aligned Ascended Archangels Thank you for listening, please like, subscribe and shareTo support:paypal.me/BeaconRJLVenmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10 Social links:instagram.com/misfitwanderstwitter.com/misfitwanderstiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/Misfitsandwanderers The purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. Legion of Misfits, the host, or any platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Created using  Audacity and Wondershare FilmoraMusic credit (music used under license granted through Wondershare):“Riding On” by Martin Rose“Come Back Home” by Low Tree"Verve” by AGROUP“Drift” by Drift This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com
Unfriended
25-10-2021
Unfriended
I found this old piece this morning and it provides a few important reminders. Even before social media, cancel culture, and this whole mess, we’ve always had people come and go in our lives. Most do, actually. We grow together, and often we grow apart.Very few are “lifetime” connections, and most are “reason” or “season” connections. It hurts sometimes when we learn that someone who we believed was the former end up being the latter.This piece continues this conversation in a little more detail. Enjoy, would love to hear how this landed with you.To find more of my content (writing and podcasts) please visit https://misfitsandwanderers.substack.com/Thank you for listening, please like, subscribe and share. If you have the means, please consider supporting Misfits:Venmo: richlevesque10Cashapp: $richlevesque10Social links:https://instagram.com/misfitwandershttps://twitter.com/misfitwandershttps://tiktok.com/misfitsandwanderershttps://linktr.ee/MisfitsandwanderersThe purpose of this episode is simply to inform and offer ideas and possibilities for further exploration. Nothing said is to be taken as medical or any other advice without consulting with your service providers. The host, guests, anyone associated with creating this content or any of the hosting platforms do not acknowledge responsibility for any contrary actions taken by any listener.Created using  Audacity and Wondershare Filmora  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit misfitsandwanderers.substack.com