It’s okay to discipline children but maybe it’s time to rethink how we do it in Nigeria and across Africa. In this episode we talk about how our tolerance for domestic abuse later as adults can actually be set by how we are disciplined in our childhood.
Your child does something wrong. So you beat her because you’ve decided this is the only way she will learn. Then after all the tears are shed, you tell her that you did it because you love her. And maybe you even feel a little bad about the beating and you’re extra nice to her afterwards and she’s extra obedient afterwards.
Fastfoward to your child as an adult. She’s in a relationship and one day the man gets angry and beats her. Then after all the tears are shed, he tells her that he did it because she did something wrong but that he loves her and he’s sorry. Then he’s extra nice to her afterwards and she loves him even more. And she stays. Until one day she has had enough and she leaves or he kills her.
Special thank you to Dr. Seun Ogunla, Dr. Jackie Ikeotuonye, Mr. Olatosimi Kolawole, Madam Edoamaowo Udeme and all the domestic violence survivors who took the time to speak with us. If you or someone you love is in a domestic violence situation, there is help out there.
Reach out to any of the organizations below and they will help point you in the right direction.
Child and Youth Protection Foundation:
Network Against Domestic Violence Foundation:
Primly Services Nigeria
Assurgent Repose Consulting
This episode was produced by Rahmat Muhammad, Mariam Mohammed, Uche Mbah, Dominic Tabakaji and Sam Tabakaji.
Special thanks to Alexandra Gekpe and Anthonieta Kalunta.
Executive producer Rahmat Muhammad.
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