This Hot Topic episode has been one of THE! MOST! hotly requested conversations to date! Ask and you shall receive, Shandies, because today we are joined by professor and therapist Dr. Kirk Honda, aka @PsychologyInSeattle, famed for his reaction videos and analyses of reality TV relationship dynamics. Today Dr. Honda has answers to our personal musings about the psychological aspects of falling in love on TV. We also cover the manipulation, the aftermath, the audience, and last but not least, the ethics. Sharleen shares several experiences from her Bachelor days and Dr. Honda helps break them down. Frankly, this conversation is overdue and probably one of the most quintessential "Shandy" conversations to date. Come and listen to why we call this the elusive and final collector's card of Dear Shandy Hot Topic episodes! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY40 and use code SHANDY40 to get 40% off your first box! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! More Dr Honda: - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@PsychologyInSeattle - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle - Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psychology-in-seattle-podcast/id767626637 - Website: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Kirk Honda! 1:19 - What’s His Favorite & Least Favorite Aspects Of Watching Reality Dating Shows? 4:41 - Does Feeling “Chosen” On These Shows Amplify Romantic Feelings? 8:45 - Can A Desire For Money And/Or Fame Result In Chemical Love? 20:56 - Sensory Deprivation And Behavioral Shaping 27:43 - Contestant Autonomy And Learned Helplessness 32:14 - Can Trauma Expedite A Relationship? 35:07 - If He Had Met His Wife On A Reality Show, Would Their Relationship Have Progressed In The Same Way? 36:46 - The Ethics Of Producing Reality TV 46:04 - What Has He Learned About The Reality TV Audience? 53:58 - Do Reality TV And Social Media Reward Narcissism? 58:48 - His Favorite Shows 1:04:13 - Shandy Debrief  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices