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It's Caller Day and today we're joined by not one but TWO lovely callers! First we're joined by Megan, who has been wrestling with her dating requirements and being labeled a "gold digger" by friends. Are professional and fiscal success too superficial to put in the "needs" column? Next we're joined by Sarah, who's been scratching her head over pre-first-date etiquette. Is it a bad chess move to send a check-in text before the first date, and if so, where's the line between being pursued and simply getting logistical information? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value!- For Hello Tushy, the sale is actually 40% OFF ALL BIDETS through 6/9! (It was just updated after recorded this!) Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for a whopping 40% off your purchase!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Megan!18:31 - Shandy Speaks30:08 - Shandy Debrief36:47 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!44:19 - Shandy Speaks54:13 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you know you have no future with a person, is it still worth a potentially great hookup? Is it wrong to feel envious when your friends are all getting engaged? And is secretly chatting with an ex on the regular emotional cheating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: Without A Future, Is It Still Worth The Hookup?16:22 - Q2: I’m Green With Engagement Envy!27:48 - Q3: Two Weddings, One Weekend—Help Us Decide!36:45 - Q4: I’m Secretly Chatting With My Ex Every Day—Am I Emotionally Cheating?52:30 - Q5: My Husband’s Friend’s Wife Is Coming Onto Him—What Should He Do?If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Caller Day and today we're joined by two lovely callers! We're joined by our first ever caller COUPLE (!), Barbie and Ken. They plan to secretly elope even though Ken's mother has explicitly asked them not to. Should they alter their plans to avoid future friction, or do what feels true to them and let the chips fall where they may? Caller Elana a very relatable Am-I-The-Asshole question involving her best friend. Where's the middle ground when you both think you're in the right? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!- Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Callers Barbie & Ken!12:09 - Shandy Speaks31:27 - Shandy Debrief40:21 - Welcome To Caller Elana!59:51 - Shandy Speaks1:09:41- Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This Hot Topic episode has been one of THE! MOST! hotly requested conversations to date! Ask and you shall receive, Shandies, because today we are joined by professor and therapist Dr. Kirk Honda, aka @PsychologyInSeattle, famed for his reaction videos and analyses of reality TV relationship dynamics.Today Dr. Honda has answers to our personal musings about the psychological aspects of falling in love on TV. We also cover the manipulation, the aftermath, the audience, and last but not least, the ethics. Sharleen shares several experiences from her Bachelor days and Dr. Honda helps break them down. Frankly, this conversation is overdue and probably one of the most quintessential "Shandy" conversations to date. Come and listen to why we call this the elusive and final collector's card of Dear Shandy Hot Topic episodes!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY40 and use code SHANDY40 to get 40% off your first box!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!More Dr Honda:- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@PsychologyInSeattle- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psychology-in-seattle-podcast/id767626637- Website: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Kirk Honda!1:19 - What’s His Favorite & Least Favorite Aspects Of Watching Reality Dating Shows?4:41 - Does Feeling “Chosen” On These Shows Amplify Romantic Feelings?8:45 - Can A Desire For Money And/Or Fame Result In Chemical Love?20:56 - Sensory Deprivation And Behavioral Shaping27:43 - Contestant Autonomy And Learned Helplessness32:14 - Can Trauma Expedite A Relationship?35:07 - If He Had Met His Wife On A Reality Show, Would Their Relationship Have Progressed In The Same Way?36:46 - The Ethics Of Producing Reality TV46:04 - What Has He Learned About The Reality TV Audience?53:58 - Do Reality TV And Social Media Reward Narcissism?58:48 - His Favorite Shows1:04:13 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there an age where never having been married or engaged is a red flag? If your car is towed while your first date is making a move on you, who pays? And if you don't particularly like your coworker but she's a hugger, to hug or not to hug? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY to get 15% off your entire order!- Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: When is Never Having Been Married a Red Flag?10:06 - Q2: My Car Was Towed At His Place—Should He Have Paid For It?27:39 - Q3: My Fiancé’s Friends Are Taking Advantage Of His Generosity—Help!41:32 - Q4: Can I Expect A Partner To Move With Me?47:29- Q5: When Single And Dating, Is It Ok To Keep Photos Of My Late Spouse On Social Media?56:54 - Q6: My Coworker Keeps Forcing Me To Hug Her—Help!1:10:18 - Q7: I’m 4 Years In And The Thrill Is Gone—Is It Over?If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down the Finale and Reunion!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:02 - Finale27:44 - Reunion1:05:18 - Best Dressed1:07:13 - Overall ThoughtsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today's Hot Topic tackles a recurring theme among our Shandies' questions: MONEY, BABY!! 💵💵💵 We're joined by superstar Ramit Sethi, who not only wrote 2009's megahit and NYT bestseller "I Will Teach You To Be Rich", but whose very own Netflix show, "How To Get Rich" just premiered on April 18th!Today Ramit begins by helping us define what our own individual "Rich Life" looks like. But he goes even further with the clearest, most concise, direct answers to your most burning relationship-meets-money questions: When one partner has a significantly higher income, should that be reflected in the bills? When and how should you bring up your debt with your partner? Is there a "gold standard" when it comes to shared and separate bank accounts? And what about PRENUPS?? What bank accounts and credit cards does Ramit himself use? (Oh yeah, we go there!) Listen on for your lesson in getting RICH.Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping!More Ramit:- The Book, 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich', 2nd edition (2019): https://amzn.to/3NhoRi1- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ramit- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-will-teach-you-to-be-rich/id1577864998- Website: https://ramitsethi.com- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ramitsethiTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Ramit Sethi!2:22 - What Is A “Rich Life”?3:38 - How Can One Change From Being A Spender To A Saver?9:38 - Join Sharleen In An Exercise: Define Your “Rich Life”18:42 - How Can You Design Your Rich Life When You Feel Like You’re Struggling To Get By?22:30 - Investing And Saving 10127:49 - Ramit’s Picks For Bank Accounts & Credits Cards (WITH ACTUAL ANSWERS)31:02 - How Should You Divvy Up Finances When One Partner Makes More $$$?37:31 - Is The A Certain Number You Should Have In The Bank Before Starting A Family?39:24 - Prenups44:59 - When Should One Broach The Topic Of Money And/Or Debt In A New Relationship?49:50 - Have Debt Or Bad Credit? These Are Your First Steps53:38 - Andy’s Selfish Question56:55 - What Would Ramit Like Your Takeaway To Be?1:01:22 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 9-11, aka Seattle Part 2.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://bumpinblends.com and use the promo code SHANDY to get 25% off your first order!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:55 - Episode 929:04 - Episode 1055:21 - Episode 111:08:02 - Predictions1:10:45 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a history of staying in relationships longer than you should, what are Shandy's tips on knowing it's time to break up? (Don't miss Andy's tips on the post-breakup withdrawal!) Is it a red flag if your boyfriend of 6 months didn't get you a birthday gift? And when it comes to adult friendships, where's the line between blind loyalty and pursuing the relationships that might fulfill us? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: How Do I Know It’s Really Over & We Shouldn’t Get Back Together?17:12 - Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help!31:37 - Q3: My Long Distance Boyfriend Didn’t Get Me A Birthday Gift—Is This A Red Flag?42:22 - Q4: I’d Like To Befriend My Friend’s Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend—Would This Make Me Disloyal?49:46 - Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 6-8, aka Seattle Part 1.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping3:50 - Episode 630:14 - Episode 743:48 - Episode 81:11:33 - Predictions1:13:33 - Who We Would Go For1:13:56 - A Request From ShandyIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engineer Ivan Hall (Bachelorette S16 & Bachelor in Paradise S7) and his fiancée, anesthesiologist Tailour Robison. These two *just* got engaged and Tailour has never done a public interview to date, so we're thrilled to get the exclusive on this legit power couple.Today Ivan and Tailour share how young love can be mature love as well, how they complement each other, how they fight, and they even prove Shandy wrong on the adage "you break up because it's broken"! Finally, a hilariously academic Newlyweds Game that has Andy on the edge of his seat even more than usual. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks To Our Sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!More Ivan:https://www.instagram.com/ivanbhallhttps://www.tiktok.com/@ivanbhallMore Tailour:Nice try!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Ivan And Tailour!3:50 - How They Met8:49 - Did Tailour Watch Ivan On TV?11:18 - Considering Their History, What Are Their Thoughts On “You Broke Up Because It was Broken”13:25 - First Impressions20:43 - How They Complement Each Other25:10 - Did Going On The Show Bring Ivan Out Of His Shell?27:15 - Early Hurdle29:53 - How They Fight36:18 - Was There A Moment When They “Knew”? Do They Believe In “The One”?41:06 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed44:42 - Is The Plane Ivan Is Working On The Plane From ‘Top Gun: Maverick’?49:50 - The Newlyweds Game1:07:20 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5, aka MEXICO.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!Time Stamps:0:00 - Intro0:46 - Episode 439:34 - Episode 51:14:53 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today's Hot Topic will likely resonate with many a Shandy. If you struggle with perfectionism, your inner critic, feeling the need to prove yourself, and/or analysis paralysis, this conversation is a must. We're joined by Homaira Kabir, author of ‘Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’, whose career is built on the research of how you (yes, you!) can flourish. Today we cover everything from the difference between being a perfectionist and just having high standards, how to not grow resentful when others can't live up to your "perfect" ideals, whether or not perfectionism equates to competitiveness, how not to raise perfectionist children, and how our purpose ties into all of the above. This one really tugged on Sharleen's heart strings and she thinks it will speak to you, too. Listen on for a lesson in letting go...Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!More Homaira:- The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://amzn.to/3KcGcpq- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir- Website: https://homairakabir.com- Podcast: Life Is A Highway Podcast: https://homairakabir.com/podcast/Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Homaira Kabir!3:48 - What Are Optimal Confidence and Fragile Confidence?6:42 - Can We Have Fragile Confidence In Some Parts Of Our Lives And Optimal Confidence In Others?9:30 - Since So Much Is Programmed Into Us As Infants, How Much Free Will Do We Even Have?13:35 - What Are We Looking For When We Put So Much Out There And Are Disappointed By The Response?16:05 - Is To Desire Perfection To Live In The Past?19:30 - Is Perfectionism a Result Of Nature Or Nurture?21:42 - How To Avoid Passing On This Trait To Children22:58 - Are Perfectionists Trapped In The Wrong Gear?26:53 - Is To Be A Perfectionist To Either Competitive Or Envious?28:23 - Is It Possible To Keep The Benefits Of Perfectionism While Letting Go Of The Rest Or Is It All Or Nothing?31:07 - What’s The Difference Between Perfectionism And High Standards?33:22 - How Can One a) Not Put Their Perfect Ideals On Their Partner, and b) Not Resent Them For It38:43 - What’s The Driving Force Behind Perfectionism? (Including Another Discussion About Shame!) 44:20 - Advice For Those Who Logically Know Perfectionism Isn’t Their Friend But Still Feel It’s Part Of Their Identity 48:33 - Tips For Those Who Suffer From Analysis Paralysis55:07 - How Does One’s “Purpose” Play Into All This?1:00:03 - What Would She Like Your Takeaway From This Conversation To Be?1:02:27 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with something new! By very popular demand, Shandy is testing the waters with recapping the 4th season of the hit show Love Is Blind. Today, in addition to a recap, we're also sharing our first impressions of the show. Listen on for episodes 1-3 (+ a few minutes), aka THE PODS.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:44 - Episode 133:04 - Episode 21:00:15 - Episode 3If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Sarah, whose ex broke things off around 6 months ago. While things ended with a lot of question marks on Sarah's end, he did tell her he'd like to remain friends. Should Sarah take his recent text as a sign to embark on a platonic friendship? Listen on for the Shandy take!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!11:32 - Shandy Sleuthing37:06 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!- Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:09 - Finale Kick Off2:59 - Live: Ariel5:42 - Back In Thailand7:26 - Gabi Meets Zach’s Family11:31 - Kaity Meets Zach’s Family13:57 - Kaity’s Last Chance Date21:10 - Evening24:08 - Gabi’s Last Chance Date27:23 - Evening29:53 - Live: It’s Sean Lowe Time32:24 - Back In Thailand33:06 - Proposal Day: Gabi40:54 - Live: Gabi44:29 - Zach Joins49:58 - Proposal Day: Kaity50:49 - Live: Zach & Kaity56:29 - Reviewing Night One Predictions57:56 - Charity’s Season Preview59:23 - Shandy Word Watch1:00:13 - Special Announcement1:01:15 - Special SurpriseIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you've had a missed connection with someone who no longer seems to check the dating app, is it creepy to reach out on an outside platform? Is it ever OK to ask a single friend to be their plus-one to a mutual friend's wedding? And is tickling your partner a form of endearment or a form of torture? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY60 for 60% off plus free shipping!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: My Match Isn’t Checking The Dating App—What’s The Least Creepy Way to Reach Out?5:38 - Q2: Is It OK To Ask A Single Friend To Be Their Plus-One To A Mutual Friend’s Wedding?19:16 - Q3: His List Of Wants In The First 1.5 Months Of Dating Have Me Wondering: Is He A Risk?26:39 - Q4: Did We Accidentally Schedule An Orgy? 34:30 - Q5: I Love My Boyfriend But Not His Male Pattern Baldness—How Can I Get Him To Shave His Head?45:18 - Q6: My Ex-Husband Is My Best Friend—Is This Holding Me Back From Finding A New Romantic Connection?53:18 - Q7: Shandy Weighs In On The Ethics Of TicklingIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9, aka Fantasy Suite Week!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:20 - Episode 9 Kick Off4:36 - Ariel’s Overnight7:37 - Evening12:26 - The Next Day12:42 - Gabi’s Overnight20:37 - Evening25:02 - The Next Day26:53 - Zach Is Honest36:52 - Kaity’s Overnight52:06 - Evening54:13 - Rose Ceremony59:43 - Credits1:00:37 - Andy’s A Game1:01:46 - Shandy Word Watch1:05:43 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Franchise power couple Danielle Maltby (Bachelor S21) and Michael Allio (Bachelorette S17), whom you watched meet on Bachelor In Paradise S8! We're happy to report that not only is this a Love Fest of legend, but our producer Gabby even called it one of her ALL TIME favorites (and trust us, she's picky!)Today Danielle and Michael join Shandy to share how and why their relationship has blossomed post-show, how they complement each other, and of course, how they fight! There are also countless tangent gems covering everything from imposter syndrome to thoughts on what *really* matters in life. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is flagrantly disrespected by its players to the point where Shandy has no choice but to show them who's boss. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks To Our Sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!More Danielle:https://www.instagram.com/dmmaltbyhttps://www.instagram.com/nursedaestheticshttps://www.womedpodcast.comMore Michael:https://www.instagram.com/michael_alliol4Reference WoMed episodes:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-womed/id1464767919?i=1000592844163https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-womed/id1464767919?i=1000594247788Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Danielle & Michael!14:54 - Was There Anything They Think Viewers Missed Out On With Their Love Story20:37 - Traits They’ve Learned About One Another Post-Show25:26 - How Their First Impressions Have Changed30:17 - How They Complement Each Other40:03 - When Did Michael “Know”46:15 - Early Hurdle53:14 - How They Fight1:06:53 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game1:22:22 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping0:42 - Women Tell All Kick Off4:19 - Christina Mandrell7:53 - Anastasia vs Everyone10:57 - Katherine vs Brooklyn14:33 - Jess’ Hot Seat18:04 - Greer’s Hot Seat22:24 - Katherine’s Hot Seat24:37 - Charity’s Hot Seat27:05 - Unseen Footage29:34 - Zach32:09 - Bloopers34:36 - Bachelorette AnnouncementIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSupport Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy