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Very Good Enough

Very good is a moving target, but we think you can be a very good (enough) parent if you love your kids and try hard. Join mother of three Jess Hover and preschool teacher Layne Deyling Cherland as we tackle how to understand toddler behavior from THEIR perspective, how to build a non-judgmental community of moms, how to repair our mistakes and have healthy relationships with our partners/kids/selves, plus so much more of what we call "people stuff". We take care of the people who take care of children - moms, dads and everyone else! From Very Good Mothers Club Theme by Conner Cherland read less
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BONUS | How to stay calm and help my toddler through their big feelings
Mar 22 2024
BONUS | How to stay calm and help my toddler through their big feelings
This week's listener question is in response to our previous episode "Whole Brain Child | How to boost your child's brain development": Question 1. I have a 3 year old (will be 4 in May) who I would love to figure out better. I feel like I kinda failed him when it comes to the regulating emotion piece. I used to (and still often do) get very flustered at his big emotions. I wish I would have been better at staying calm and helping him get back to the upstairs brain but I feel like my response probably made it worse for him. I would sometimes let out a loud scream or get angry with him… basically just handle the emotions in the worst way. I still often find myself going there but now at least I notice myself doing it before it gets “outside” of my brain/body. So my question- is there something I should do/say/practice with him when those big emotions come up? I don’t want him to grow up stuffing scary emotions deep down because that’s how I grew up. Question 2. Kinda piggybacking on the last question, I feel like I have a VERY hard time moving my own brain from the downstairs up once I’m in the “basement”… tips for adults?  Email your questions to Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!