I sat on a call with a dating coach who reached out to me after a short conversation inside a Facebook group.  I remember him saying, “I can help you sleep with as many women as you want.”

I let him continue his pitch out of respect, but he had lost me.

I didn’t want that.  In fact, that runs counter to who I want to be.

If that’s you, I understand because I was there in my early 20’s.

I look back on the year after my divorce and here are a few points that I pulled from the hundreds of hours of books, youtube videos, and podcasts I voraciously consumed.

• An abundance mentality is crucial

• Be authentic and show your goofy side - Especially on the apps
• Have a practice and process Mentality
• • Practice living outside of your comfort zone
  • • First kiss
    • Being bold
    • Trying things out you learn from “dating experts”
  • Process First Mindset
  • • Meet good people
• Have Rules to Protect Yourself from Yourself
• • 2 Drink rule
  • No sex before the 3rd date
• Be a good ender
• Plan dates you enjoy
• Define Your Ideal Woman - Become the Man to Attract Her
• • I want a woman that is good at typical “woman stuff” (cooking, crafts, mothering, etc)
  • • Dynamic
    • Funny
    • A good listener
    • Strives to be the best version of herself
    • • Fitness (yoga)
      • Faith
      • Mental fitness (reading, meditation, etc)
• Become a man with
• • a holistic mindset.
  • A man who understands the difference between his masculine energy and manliness.
  • A man who can harness his power, but leads with empathy and kindness.

That’s the foundation of how I became a magnetic man.

A man that attracted beautiful, intelligent, and wonderful women.

A man who had rules and values he was seeking.  And when a beautiful woman crossed my path that didn’t fill what I was looking for.  I had the kind heart to end it when it needed to be ended.