Tell Me About Your Mother

Send us a text"Christian Counseling" directly opposes the ACA Code of EthicsCounselors' political biases creating division with clientsThe new-age drama of "right and wrong think"Therapists should not be truth-seekersThe importance of sitting with clients that have different ideologiesMelissa shares about her love of Ricky MartinWhy is the counseling profession becoming a banner flag for social justice and advocacy?Approaching a client relationship similarly to visiting a foreign countryWe are entering the client's world, not inviting them to ours Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textFaulty torture tactics in the Iraq warCarl Jung's Devouring Mother ArchtypeBarriers when applying boundaries to parentsParents of children with addiction feel a sense of closeness in crisis Internal conflicts that occur when experiencing incongruence Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textPlease reach out via email or social media if you'd like to participate in our FREE wellness audit where we take a brief snapshot of your presenting problems and offer insight into establishing possible new strategies of engaging with self and others.Wellness AuditTransference begins even in the initial consultation with a clientOperating from “control pattern"Ineffectiveness of solely practicing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Rogerian TherapyThe importance of conflict in therapyTherapy should go far beyond the clients’ presenting problems They “why” isn’t as important as the “what” Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore how clients have been their greatest teachers. Topics also include:Negative attribution styles Evan and Melissa discuss what they view as their greatest accomplish with a client Sexual trauma response of eliciting “testing behaviors” to possible aggressors The power of entertaining the clients presenting problemExploring with the client: What are we contracting to do?Evan talks about this upcoming climbing trip  Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa discuss the nature of recovering from codependency, its benefits, and challenges.Finding recovery from codependency or other mental health struggles CODA a 12-step recovery program for people recovering from CodependencyRecovery is not an arrival Complications of personal growth journeyThe risk of outgrowing relationships Stages of change  Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa discuss the vagus nerve and its implications in emotional regulation and treatment.3 stages of polyvagal theoryTechnology outrunning our limbic systems evolutionAnxiety tension and fear are attempts to intellectualize feeling Feeling avoidance compared to a nicotine cravingNeurolinguistic programming Melissa also is gracious enough to offer her charts to any of our TMAYM supporters! Feel free to reach out to our email contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore the often deductive and maladaptive conceptualizations pop psychology shares on social media and its negative consequences. We plan to make this a series since there's a lot of material to cover. This episode focuses on social media reels that are giving advice as to what types of texts to send to your partner that has an anxious attachment style. Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Jamie Kay meet and discuss the healing, reflective, and connecting elements of songwriting with the writer and its audiences. Jamie has written over 300 songs in the course of his 50 years of songwriting. He's a gifted storyteller whose sincerity penetrates throughout our conversation. We're happy to share his energy with our listeners! Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa discuss clients' perspectives that therapists have super powers, how being seen in a raw, deep, meaningful way can at times feel like voodoo magic.  Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa answer an audience question regarding intellectual defenses in session. "How do I get my therapist to become aware that I am using my intellect to deflect from emotional vulnerability in our sessions?" We are hoping to incorporate this type of interaction with followers more often. If you have any questions about therapy, please don't hesitate to reach out! Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore how intellectualizing stories serves as a protective distancing from emotional exploration, expression, and healing.Implicit memory healingBilateral stimulation CBT often ineffective for treating Bottom up approach to client care versus top down approach Emotional-relational realm being the healing quality of therapy  Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Melissa explore the ways in which clients use intellectualism as a means to conceptualize emotional memories to maintain safety. Topics also include: Emotional attainmentMaintaining an observer role when someone is dysregulatedMaladaptive ways of creating self-protectionTherapy is not advice-givingExplore emotional memories is delicate and is a process Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli share their experiences with client attunement and the ways in which such connection can promote a deep sense of understanding and meaning.Emotional attunement with clients informing unconventional approaches Eli sifts through his  transcription grad school notes from 1913Emotional attunement compared to flocks of birds and musiciansIntuition informing therapeutic path Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli process Evan's recent experience being harassed by the police. Topics also include:ProfilingCrime and punishment ideologyLife-long record keeping Escalation before de-escalationCop incompetence Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Eli meet in video form for the first time-- available on Youtube! They use this hour to explore themes of:Conversion TherapyEmotional Residue from clientsCounter-transferrence  Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textParentified child impact in romantic relationships Cultural differences fueling assumptions in friendship DOS OS How the dating sphere has changed with technology You watched too many Disney movies Culture of immediacy impeded on natural romantic development The romantic spark is bullshitDopamine dating Are we marketing authenticity?Compatibility is found through mutual authentic marketing Caretaking others reflects fear of rejection as opposed to caring for others Evan’s soapbox grow up stop attaching previous  relationship experiences Dating isn’t easy for men eitherNew generation perceived pursuit as predatory Evan shares his hinge profile with Eli and Melissa Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Eli join for another episode to explore how therapists can unintentionally assume understanding of clients' stories based on personal bias. They then explore the evolution of porn and its possible future implications on sexuality, dating, and identity.Only fans AI becoming a sexual sphere Sex dollsSpecifically identifying the core When we feel stuck Men being “too nice” ripple of toxic masculinity  Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan, Meliisa, and Eli explore the a case that Melissa is processing. A great resource from Dr. Nicole LePera helps us get startedParentified child case study How are crises adaptive systemically?Reenactment between parent, peers, and therapistCaretaking to avoid self careEmphasizing choice with client archetypes that exhibit signs of learned helplessness"Mom anchors"-- a client's unintentional confession Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan, Melissa, and Eli discuss the intention of the podcast and ways to become more intentional in our discussions. Melissa is our podcast mommyIncorporating the interpersonal supervision model into our conversationsChasing trends creates pop psychology and misinformation The power of Free Association Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run

Send us a textEvan and Eli practice behaving without Melissa being present for this episode. What’s worth investigating with a client?Salem witch trials Eli wants to try Ayahuasca  Being attracted to clients Therapeutic flow state is healing Ego blockading energy connections with nature and people Spirituality in nature Eli shares his "firecracker puppy" metaphor Support the showHave any questions or insights about this episode? Reach out to us at contactus@tellmeaboutyourmother.run