Will this be my last episode? What the heck am I doing with my life, if not uploading episodes?

I'm baaaaack! But only kind of? Tune in for a quick life update and for what you can expect from me in future episodes. Also, learn the history behind the podcast name - its a doozy.Follow the pod on Instagram at uncovering_podcast. Let's chat over there!

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.Welcome to the season one finale! In this episode, I enlist the help of my parents and Gena to recount:The day I left J, and went to live safely with my parents. J’s mom came over (the day after I left) to talk to me.I try to figure out what I want, and I decide I want a divorce.I retrieve my belongings (my family comes along so I’m not alone).   J continues to stalk me. I petition for a Restraining Order.I moved to another state entirely, and Josh followed me there.What happens now? Tune in to listen.Music by RoboRobArtwork by Asif UlislamResources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

Let's take a much needed break, and shoot the shit with Paul! We reflect on our friendship, Mario Kart, chocolate and gelato, Paul's matchmaking influence on my current healthy relationship; but also we get back on track and talk about his observations and our friendship while I healed from DV.Music by RoboRobArtwork by Asif UlislamResources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.J and I moved to Bellingham, and as I began finding my voice and confidence, he increased his controlling and abusive behaviors. I have so much to say about this time period! Join me, my mom, and introducing: GENA!!!Music by RoboRobArtwork by Asif UlislamResources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.The yellow and red flags continue! My parents and I recount the wedding day and year one of marriage. We'll dive into several incidents from this timeframe when J: Isolated me from my familyBegan sexually assaulting meControlled what and how much food I ateStarted trying to control what I wore Inflicted spiritual abuseActed out in extreme jealousyDisplayed physical intimidation I must reiterate my content warning. Please exercise self-awareness, and skip this (or any) episode if you are not in a good place to hear about DV /SA.  Music by RoboRobArtwork by Asif Ulislam Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.I bring on my parents again to help me spell out the “yellow flags” during the engagement time frame. I bring a couple red flags to the table from my one-on-one interactions with J. From strange religious evangelizing, to apathy for obtaining housing and a job, to the first incident of sexual assault/harassment; the engagement period has us scratching our heads, and leaves me wishing I could go back in time to break up and end all contact with J!It's messy. Activate your empathy.  Music by RoboRob Artwork by Asif UlislamResources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.In this episode, I tell the story of how I met my now ex-husband. I also bring on my parents for their perspective; what did they think about J when they met him, and when I first started dating him? Spoiler: the red flags started early, not just a random incident “here and there,” but a pattern that even my parents noticed (and were increasingly annoyed by it). Can you guess where I got my coping mechanisms, shining personality, and sarcasm? While my parents and I don’t see eye to eye on everything in life, we have come together in a brilliant display of Anderson-family storytelling. Enjoy.Also, please excuse my roaring heater which turned on in the middle of this episode. I decided it was fine, and kept talking. Would YOU want to re-record this shit? Didn’t think so. Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay

CONTENT WARNING: descriptions of domestic violence and sexual assault.Join me for the first season, and first episode of Uncovering. In this Prologue, I introduce how domestic violence has affected me, personally. I bring on my friend and colleague, Miranda (she/they), an expert, advocate, and activist in the anti-violence field. In this conversation we will establish our framework by addressing: Domestic violence definitionsIntersection of DV with other types of violence (stalking, sexual assault, exploitation, etc.)Intersection of DV with different types of oppressionMisconceptions of DV, & of DV victims/survivorsHow trauma shows up in survivors Miranda’s takeaways working in the anti-violence advocacy fieldHow to support victims/ survivors, even if you’re not a trained advocateA word to those who’ve experienced/ are experiencing abuse Music by RoboRobArtwork by Asif UlislamResources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233Learn more about Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault: https://metoomvmt.org/https://www.nsvrc.org/https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay