Janine is mum of 2 children, who are now 10 and 12.  She runs her own business helping coaches and consultants with their marketing and sales. We spoke to Janine about: Whether there is such a thing as a natural born parent and Janine’s feelings on this. The stress of getting children out of the house - mum guilt and shouting at children! How taking an online parenting course when the children were around 2 and 4 changed things for Janine. ‘Feeling maternal’ - the expectation that everything should come naturally to parents and how we haven’t replaced the ‘village’ that helped us to raise our children. Having a growth mindset and how this helped Janine to develop in her parenting. How Janine felt that she lost her identity and that her world had shrunk when she had her children. How having her own business helped her to get her identity back.  Three things Janine would say to herself as a new mum.   Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more)  This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Founder of Onle Networking (an online business network) Kelly West, talked to us about her daughter Kennedy (16) who has global development delay (she has a cognitive age of 2-3) as well as about her business which she founded 5 years ago with her husband and her older daughter.  We discussed:  How they love people which is why the business was founded (Kelly met her husband at networking!) All about Kennedy the signs the family first saw in her and the challenges the family had and still face especially with the lack of support the family have received.  The experiences Kennedy had in mainstream school and how this currently looks for the family moving forward. How Kennedy will never be able to live independently and how Kelly navigates this for the future, including how this and other sensitive topics (like death for example) can be communicated to Kennedy. A behaviour (PBS) group that Kelly attended and how helpful she found it. The challenges of going out and about with Kennedy and how Kelly deals with situations that arise. Using the sunflower lanyard. The autistic spectrum and the huge difference between the ‘severity’ of how this affects different people.  How Kelly manages the demands of the business alongside the needs of Kennedy and how exhausting it can be day to day. How Kelly does (or doesn’t) look after herself...and how she is OK with that. The positive support networks that Kelly would recommend and how she also is very open to having conversations with people in the same kind of situation.  Kelly’s business – OnleNetworking Linked in - @KellyWest Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars includingbehaviour, toilet training, sleep and more)  This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Rebecca started her business when her children were quite young (the youngest was starting school) and she wanted to ‘find her thing’. We chatted about: Rebecca's background – she set up an outsourcing agency ‘Get Ahead’ in 2010 working with companies to provide Virtual Assistants (VAs).  Having an open mind and a confidence to see where things go and how setting up a business feels like nurturing another child! Balancing having a family and young children when setting up a business and how Rebecca managed it. The challenges Rebecca faced along the way, how she tackled them and the impact this has had on the children and how they have developed. How Rebecca transfers what she did when setting up her business to the VAs (who Rebecca calls ‘Virtual Experts’) working in the business empowering them to also work around their families. Lockdown and how nothing really changed for Rebecca during that time (except for having the children at home!) and how the authenticity of working from home has been made so much easier since then. Work / life balance and whether there is such a thing for people running their own business. The joy of WhatsApp!! Empty Nesting, the children in your life and how that feels for Rebecca and other business owners. Rebecca’s proud moments and 3 tips for parents setting up their own business!  Get Ahead VA (Rebecca’s company) - https://getaheadva.com/ Get Ahead VA on Instagram - getaheadva Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more)  This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Cate is a Senior Associate at Kingsley Napley and spoke to us about what’s involved when parents divorce.  We covered: The 3 strands to a divorce – the divorce itself, the finances, the children. No fault divorce and what it is / what it means. What happens when courts get involved in terms of making an order about how the children spend their time between parents and whether there is any flexibility. Particular patterns of how to share the care of children that Cate would recommend to parents. How long the divorce process can take particularly when children are involved. Mediation and how that works as part of the process. What happens if you aren’t married and have children but want to separate.  Whether there is such a thing as common law marriage in the UK. Child maintenance, what it is and how it is calculated (link below). Cate’s tips for communicating your breakup with your child/ren and managing the relationship going forward.  Cate’s tips for trying to avoid an acrimonious divorce including making sure you have lots of people and systems around to support you both. Having goals in place for the future with your children and the importance of communicating these to your lawyer.  Pre-nups / post-nups – the law around these and how they work. Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  Kingsley Napley Family Law - https://www.kingsleynapley.co.uk/insights/blogs/family-law-blog About Cate - https://www.kingsleynapley.co.uk/our-people/cate-maguire Child maintenance calculator - https://www.gov.uk/calculate-child-maintenance One of the Apps Cate recommends – Our Family Wizard   Our co-parenting blog - https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/coparenting For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Laura was born and raised in Southern California and has been in London since 2021.  She is the daughter of an Occupational Therapist (OT) and now runs a private practice – Kid Kind Collective and works with children as a Paediatric OT. We spoke about: What an OT actually does (Becks had no idea!) and why they do what they do in terms of outcomes for the children. How OTs help people be adaptive with how they get to the end goal. All about sensory processing – what this means and how an OT can help as a ‘sensory detective’ and getting the whole family involved with this.  How an OT can help when children just can’t sit still (more detective work!) How you can get your child referred to an OT and what happens at their first appointment (often work can start before an ADHD or Autism diagnosis for example). The link with emotional regulation and how the work that an OT does to support children can impact on this. Laura’s top 3 things that she loves about being an OT. What Laura’s childhood was like as the daughter of an OT and what she learnt. Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  Laura’s website:  https://www.kid-kind.com/ For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

This is a topic close to Becks’s heart as she starts to prepare for both of her children leaving home for university. One of Becks’s friends asked us to record this episode – so here you are! We spoke about: How it’s a different milestone to going to childcare / school for the first time. The social media phenomenon of making the most of ‘18 summers with your children’...what we think! The feelings and emotions that you have and the stages that you go through when your child/ren leave home. How Claire felt sad for her parents when she left home for college and how it’s important to think about how you manage the situation as a parent. Preparing for the empty nest and the importance of planning for you; what can you do that you have always wanted to?  Teaching your child/ren life skills and how key this is to prepare them! How they will still need you (and the fact that they might come back..!!!!!)! Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Please note that Meriel was a surrogate in the US and rules in each country are very different – to find out more about surrogacy rules in the UK you can find them here and more information on surrogacy in the UK here. Meriel is a three times surrogate from the United States. She was blessed to help two families achieve the dream of completing their families through surrogacy. She currently works for an agency as a surrogacy journey coordinator, where she is passionate about helping to create families and supporting other women who wish to embark on the amazing and fulfilling journey of becoming surrogates.  We spoke to Meriel about: What made her decide to become a surrogate and how her family and others reacted (including some funny stories!). What surrogacy is, who might use a surrogate and why that might be. Some terminology and the process for both the family and the surrogate. The contact that the surrogate has with the family throughout the pregnancy and beyond. The labour experience and who shared the labour room with Meriel when she had the babies and how special she tried to make it for everyone involved. What being a surrogate means to Meriel, the joy she took from it and how it has shaped her and her life as it is now as a surrogacy journey coordinator. Some of the rules around surrogacy and being a surrogate as well as the support that there is for surrogates. Keeping in touch with the families after the birth of their baby and whether that happens. Who is on the birth certificate and legalities (spoiler it can be quite complicated – especially in the US!). How research into the best surrogacy path is SO vital! https://www.collectivesurrogacy.com/ - the agency where Meriel works and where you can find her blogs Meriel on LinkedIn Read our blog where we talked to Simon Berney Edwards about his experience of surrogacy here. Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

We spoke to Hayley and Becky from Paths to Parent Hub. We first came across Paths to Parent Hub when we listened to their podcast following a recommendation from a friend. We started with Hayley and Becky sharing their own stories with us. Hayley is a donor conceived person herself and is also a parent of twins through sperm donation. Becky was diagnosed with early menopause at 28 – she and her husband did 5 rounds of IVF and then decided to use an egg donor to have her 3 children. Both Hayley and Becky shared their stories on the internet and found each other there. Becky created Paths to Parent Hub (a membership platform) during lockdown to support people in similar situations to themselves and it now has over 1000 members. We also talked about: When and how Hayley found out that she was a donor conceived person and the reasons she talks about her story now. Talking with donor conceived children about how they came to be and dealing with their questions, and those from family and friends. The laws around donor conception and the parallels with adoption.  The experience that Becky had abroad in finding an egg donor and how she feels now about having chosen to have an anonymous donor.  Whether there is a limit on how many families one donor can produce and how this differs around the world. The reasons someone might want / need to use a donor.  Hayley’s experience when finding her parent sperm donor. Terminology around donor conception.  The information you get about a donor when choosing and how the matching works. What Hayley and Becky would say to people considering donor conception. About Paths to Parent Hub and the support, information and connection opportunities. Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily / @pathstoparenthub / @definingmum  @dcp_journey_2_rp Paths to Parent Hub website All things donor conception  - Hayley’s website Paths to Parent Hub podcast For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Lee is Becks’s ‘Boxing trainer’ - (well kind of 😉!) and a personal trainer (to real boxers!). He is also a stay-at-home dad looking after his little girl Beaux which started when she was 3 months old. We talked to Lee about: As a couple how Lee and his wife came to the decision that Lee would be the main carer and how he felt about it. The reaction from friends and family to Lee staying at home with his little one. How he and his wife prepared for parenthood (reading blogs, books, listening to podcasts (ours) and talking to other parents) and how important routine and consistency was for them. The importance of working together as a team, communicating about next steps and what might need to be changed etc. How Lee fills his weeks with Beaux doing groups, dancing, swimming, crafts and play. Fitting in at baby and toddler groups and what it feels like to often be the only dad there.  How Lee feels really lucky to be able to spend this amount of time with his daughter. Being an only child – the worries Lee has about Beaux being one (Claire is one too so no need to worry 😉). Dads and daughters and the wonderful bond they can have! What Lee would say to other stay at home / solo dads. Read our blogs about dads and supporting dads here - https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/gettingtoknowmarkwilliams?rq=dadhttps://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/supportingdads?rq=dad Socials: Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily For information about a Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

You probably already know Susie Amy – perhaps from Footballer’s Wives or maybe from Hollyoaks or as a stage actress (we recently saw her in Fatal Attraction).  We do too, but we are also lucky to know Susie via a mutual friend who gave her a gift of some time with Claire when her first baby was born. Susie didn’t feel for a while that she was ready to use this gift straight away – she felt instead that her baby didn’t like / need sleep and was just a bit different! When Claire spent some time with Susie and her family a routine was introduced and they haven’t looked back! We talked to Susie about: The importance of sleep (and how more sleep means better sleep)! When Claire had worked with her and Raff to introduce a routine - they stuck to it like glue and responded to their baby’s sleep signals, Noa immediately responded! How predictability is important to all of us and how Susie has found the children’s routine helpful for her as well. The responsibility of having a baby feeling huge, but how just a few tweaks and a routine can help so much. Trusting your instincts as a parent. Being nap trapped and how it doesn’t have to be a negative thing! Restorative naps and where these work best. Morning, bedtime and bathtime routines and how important they are from the start. How the best gift for a new parent is support! Instagram - @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily  ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     For information about a Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

If not, you must listen to this podcast! We spoke to Bik-ki Wong and Helen Thompson who are both partners at Myerson solicitors Bik-ki is responsible for wills, trust and probate and Helen heads up the department that looks after contesting wills. We talked to Bik-ki about: What happens if you don’t write a will? Doesn’t it just go to my husband / wife?  Not necessarily, Bik-ki explained. And what happens if you aren’t married? How many people we know who don’t have a will and don’t want to think about it. The fact that a will doesn’t have to be expensive; you can have a simple one drawn up and there are charities that might write a simple one for you. What happens if you both die and don’t have a will or are a sole / single parent? Appointing a guardian, how you do this and the implications. Some real-life case studies of families who realised they needed to make a will for example because of illness or divorce. How often you should review your will once it has been written. Some of the terminology and responsibilities. The role of an Executor, Trustee, Guardian, how many you should have and things to consider when choosing them. How having family planning meetings around writing wills can be helpful. 3 things that Bik-Ki would say to someone who doesn't have a will. And we talked to Helen about: What happens when... a will is challenged and the associated issues and conflicts. there isn’t a will and the intestacy rules that come in to play where the law decides what happens. for example, a child isn’t provided for in a will because a will hasn’t been updated. Considerations for blended families, step families, solo parents, single parents etc. 3 things to consider when looking at issues with a will. Instagram: @myersonsolicitors @bespokefamily / Facebook - @bespokefamily More information about Myerson can be found here - https://www.myerson.co.uk/ Contact Myerson about making a will hereGovernment information on making a will: https://www.gov.uk/make-will Read our bereavement blogs here including a blog from Bik-Ki about writing a will  ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     For information about a Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations     This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Violet (Katherine’s eldest daughter) was fully out of nappies by 10 / 11 months, but how did she do it?!  Katherine shares all with us in this funny, insightful and informative episode!  Amongst all the talk of poo and pee, we chatted with Katherine about... The potty training approach Katherine has used –often referred to as elimination communication. She told us how she has used this approach with all of her children by having a consistent routine, watching their faces for signs, offering the potty several times a day and gradually transitioning the children out of nappies. The key she said, is consistency, routine, never to punish and  learn their cues. How Katherine wasn’t sure she would have attempted Potty training twins with this method, but gave us some tips as to how she’d approach it. She felt like waiting to potty train until her children were toddlers would have meant push back to using the potty, but that by using this method it’s all they have ever known! How people reacted to Violet being potty trained so early. Katherine’s approach to parenting being based on instinct, putting herself in her children’s shoes when making decisions on how to care for them. She feels that what is most important is to have a peaceful caregiver and doing things to make this happen with no judgement. Her attitude to social media and how it has affected her parenting (it hasn’t!). How her biggest change in approach since having Violet is considering Bobby as the other parent and convincing him of her wild and wacky parenting ideas (he knows how lucky he is!). Katherine ‘s new TV programme ‘Parental Guidance’ and all the different families she has met through this.   ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’    For information about a Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations     Instagram - @bespokefamily   Facebook - @bespokefamily  This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

There are lots of different ways for children to play, but one of the elements of play is rough and tumble – but what is it?  We spoke about: What is involved in rough and tumble play?  Respecting when your little one wants to stop and establishing rules / boundaries for when children are playing rough and tumble together and how to do this (perhaps have a word - possibly “Flamingo” or maybe even “sausages” 😉!!). Sharing these rules with others who might want to do rough and tumble play with your children. Understanding their own bodies and their own limits (and recognising that rough and tumble isn’t for every child). How this kind of play contributes to relationships and is a valuable learning opportunity. When this kind of play can fit in well during your day and how it can help with emotions / get the ‘wiggles’ out. Why wind down from Rough and tumble play is important. Some ideas of what you can do for rough and tumble play. Our blog: Why children need rough and tumble in their day ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’    For information about a 1:1 Parent Consultations to support with behaviour click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    Instagram - @bespokefamily  Facebook - @bespokefamily    This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Hitting (and any of that type of ‘inappropriate’ behaviour) can be difficult whichever side you are on – either the parent of the child who is hitting or the one who has been hit. We chatted about: Why Children (and some adults) do this! Emotions and how they affect children’s behaviour. Cause and effect – ‘if I do this what happens’. How children are attention needing and that this can drive their behaviour. Children laughing when they’ve hit you...and why?? How to respond when a child hits. Looking for triggers and pre-empting when it might happen. Working together with nursery to help with the situation. “Kind hands” 😂 3 things to remember when your child hits. Our ‘Hitting’ blog: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/whydoesmychildhit?rq=hit ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’    For information about a 1:1 Parent Consultation to support with behaviour click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    Instagram - @bespokefamily  Facebook - @bespokefamily    https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/ This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative

Managing the dynamic and using grandparents for childcare More and more we are using grandparents to help care for our children, but what do we need to think about? This episode goes into it all, the plusses, the minuses and how to approach it. Some stats – ever wondered how many of us use grandparents for childcare?   Things to think about when asking grandparents if they can help with childcare – how it can really change the dynamic. “Well I raised you OK didn’t I? You’re OK...”. How to get your own parents up to speed (and on board) with the way you want / need things to be done! The relationship we (and children) have with our own parents and had with our grandparents. Having ongoing conversations and communication are important and that family time and childcare time are clearly defined so that it doesn’t impact on your relationship. Making sure the finances and ground rules are all clearly defined. Growing out of going to granny / grandpa’s house. It takes a village! Our Grandparent blogs – https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/category/Grandparents State pension payments - https://www.gov.uk/government/news/looking-after-the-grandchildren-make-sure-it-counts-towards-your-state-pension ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including sleep, welcoming your newborn and caring for your newborn) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’    Instagram - @bespokefamily  Facebook - @bespokefamily    Bespoke Family 1:1 Parent Consultations: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations    This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative / @decibelle_creative

We talked about sleep for babies under 6 months: How babies don’t immediately start sleeping through the night (and neither do we!). Why they wake and what ‘sleeping through the night’ actually means. The transition from the womb to ‘outside life’! It’s quite a change! Can you teach babies ‘bad sleep habits’? Starting to look at a sleep routine (6-8 weeks) - if you want to. Introducing a bedtime routine and wind down to naps 4 month sleep regression (or is it progression?) Sleep associations – what they go to sleep with needs to be replicated when they wake up. Are they too tired? Can you put them to bed / nap a bit earlier? Our Sleep blogs – https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/category/Sleep ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including sleep, welcoming your newborn and caring for your newborn) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’    Instagram - @bespokefamily  Facebook - @bespokefamily    Bespoke Family 1:1 Parent Consultations: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations

We covered so much with Sian including: Sian’s background and how @moonandrue started with a few weaning videos! The @moonandrue community – keeping it real. Baby led weaning – how a child needs to be developmentally ready (and the fact that a baby can still choke on purees). Allergens and how Rue reacted to egg when she first tried it. How Rue choked on a piece of apple, what Sian did and her feelings afterwards. The baby (up to 1) and child first aid training that Sian did with @stjohn_ambulance. Some tips around preparing foods for little ones and things to try and avoid. The baby and child first aid resources available via St John Ambulance and what they cover. Useful blog –  What should I have in my first aid kit?‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     Instagram - @bespokefamily / @stjohn_ambulance  Facebook - @bespokefamily    TikTok - @MoonandRue St John Ambulance  Bespoke Family 1:1 Parent Consultations: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations

What we want to do instinctively is to jump in and solve it for our children but they need to learn the skills to deal with it and this is what we talked about:  Children can be cruel – it's hard to hear when someone says they don’t want to be your friend or don’t invite you to their birthday party, but as a parent what can you do / say when this happens? What do we do / say when it’s our child that isn’t being a nice friend? How it’s important to think carefully about how we talk about friendships to our children. Why children behave the way they do with regards to friendships. Our own experiences with friendships (Claire’s story is not to be taken as advice..!!). How we as adults are still working out friendships and relationships!  What we can do if our child is struggling with making friends. Why we need to give our children the skills and support to be a good friend. How we as parents eventually become second fiddle to our children’s friends! Our blog – Tricky Friendships...what can I do to help my child?  ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars)  - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     Instagram - @bespokefamily   Facebook - @bespokefamily    Bespoke Family 1:1 Parent Consultations: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations

Doula Lou is a mum of 2 children – she originally trained as a nanny and worked with children and families for 8 years.  Following the birth of her own children she stayed at home caring for them.  Once they had both gone to school she decided to re-train as a post-natal Doula. We talked to Lou about: A Doula’s role and responsibilities. Lou’s training as a Doula and what’s involved. The difference between a Maternity Nurse and a Doula. The Fourth Trimester explained and Lou’s own experiences of this. The developing brain – how babies look to us to help them solve how they feel and to meet their basic needs. Looking after yourself in the early days and getting used to having a new little person completely reliant on you. Some things to think about in those early days and the importance of finding your ‘tribe’. A post-natal plan and what you can include. Birth trauma and the three step rewind. Lou’s top 3 tips for new parents.  Doula Lou Instagram Lou’s website - www.doula-lou.com Doula UK for training and to find a Doula  ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars)  - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’     Instagram - @bespokefamily   Facebook - @bespokefamily    Bespoke Family 1:1 Parent Consultations: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations

How do you deal with it if you have a different parenting style from your partner, parent, friend etc. and how can we make sure that the way we parent is helping to promote our children’s independence?We chatted about: How different parenting approaches can impact on children’s resilience. The fact that we have become very risk averse and have started to always be there (in person or via technology) to make sure our children are OK. How our experiences of being parented can impact our own parenting style.  That our ‘safety mode’ needs to teach our children how to help themselves when we aren’t there. What has changed since we were little without a phone or any tracking apps? Managing risk and trust – children need to feel trusted to try things with our support and suggestions. What happens when we micromanage our children. The importance of talking to partners and other carers about the approach you are taking – it’s a constant review.   Changing your own narrative to take your own feelings out of it and problem solve together with your children. Striking a balance – not being too overprotective but teaching them the life skills to be able to cope. All the animals...! Tiger, Jellyfish, Elephant, Dolphin (lawnmower!) parenting etc.  ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars) - get 25% off any guide with the code ‘PODCAST’    Instagram - @bespokefamily  Facebook - @bespokefamily    Bespoke Family 1:1 Parent Consultations: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations